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Sarah Dodsley Life Coaching and Bodywork

Life Coach with 12+ years experience helping you learn to put yourself first without feeling guilty using therapeutic coaching techniques and bodywork.

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21/02/2026

Listen to how he says ‘live now’.

This is a very powerful message from Eric Dane who sadly died recently after battling motor neurone disease.

I think there are many important reminders for us all in this.

💔

18/02/2026

What happens inside you when you make a mistake?

Not what you do next.
Not how you explain it.
Not how quickly you move on.

The first, quiet response.

The self-criticism.
The urge to fix it fast.
To make it okay.
To take it all on.
To disappear a little.
To promise yourself you’ll do better next time.

These reactions aren’t random.

They’re often old patterns.
Learned ways of staying safe.
Of avoiding shame.
Of keeping connection.

And if we never notice them, they quietly run the show.

They shape how hard we are on ourselves.
How much space we give ourselves to be human.
How safe it feels to try, rest, or be imperfect.

So here’s a gentle question:

When you realise you’ve made a mistake…
what happens inside you first?

No right answer.
No fixing required.

Just noticing.

17/02/2026

What is your relationship with rest like?

Were you raised in a household where rest was normal, encouraged, even protected?
Or one where being busy, useful, and productive was the safest way to belong?

For most of us, constant motion didn’t start in adulthood. It started much earlier.

Being on the go became a way of being valued. Achievement became a proxy for safety. Stillness felt unfamiliar or even uncomfortable.

These patterns start early and stay with us for a life time until we can bring them into the light and start to work with them.

If you’ve spent a lifetime in the comfort zone of doing, stepping back can feel surprisingly hard.
Not because you don’t trust others…
But because slowing down can touch something deeper.

Who am I if I’m not needed?
What happens if I’m not the one holding everything together?

So instead of creating space, we stay busy.
Instead of delegating, we stay involved.
Instead of allowing others to step in, we keep stepping forward.

In my coaching work, this is where the real shift happens.

Not through time-management hacks or productivity tools but by working with the subconscious programming that taught us rest was unsafe, and doing was survival.

When that begins to change, something else becomes possible:

You step back without guilt.
Others step in with confidence.
Responsibility is shared rather than carried alone.

So if you find yourself constantly busy, exhausted, or struggling to let go,
the question isn’t what’s wrong with you?

It might be:

What did you learn about rest — and what are you ready to unlearn now?

16/02/2026

“I don’t really understand why someone would want to help me.”

Does this feel true for you too?

When you think about letting go a little…
Letting others support you…
Not being the one who holds everything together…

Does a familiar feeling come up?

For many of us, the need to do it all alone didn’t start in adulthood.
It started much earlier.

We learned to be capable.
Independent.
Useful.

And somewhere along the way, needing support began to feel uncomfortable or even unsafe.

In my work, I see how quickly we try to explain this away.
We look for logic.
Reasons.
Answers.

Why would someone choose me?
Why would I matter?
Why would someone show up for me?

These questions often come from fear, not curiosity.

So here’s a gentler possibility:

What if you didn’t have to know?
What if you could allow the truth that you don’t know why someone wants to help you and let that be okay?

Because not knowing can touch old beliefs.
About worth.
Deserving.
Having to prove ourselves to earn care.

So we fill the space.
-With busyness.
-Self-criticism.
-Over-functioning.
-Control.

But the real work happens before the insight.

It happens when we stay with the uncertainty.
When we notice the urge to explain or justify and choose not to.
When we let the question stay open a little longer.

Not knowing isn’t a weakness.
It’s often the doorway to something more honest… and more kind.

So I’ll leave you with this:

✨ How comfortable are you with not knowing — and letting that be enough for now? ✨

13/02/2026

I can ask incisive questions.
I can bring models into a coaching session.
I can help you think differently about a problem.

All of that is useful and often necessary.

But lasting change doesn’t usually come from what’s happening on the surface.

My real work sits underneath.

It’s in how deeply I listen not just to what you’re saying, but to what you’re not saying.
The hesitations.
The patterns.
The familiar stories that slip out without you realising.

Together, we start to notice what’s playing out in the systems you’re part of: work, family, relationships, culture and how you’ve learned to survive and belong within them.

And slowly, carefully, we trace that back to the deep-rooted beliefs living in the background of your life.
The ones formed long before you had much choice.
The ones that once protected you, but may now be quietly holding you back.

This isn’t about fixing you.
It’s about understanding yourself more honestly so you have real choice, not just better strategies.

If you’re ready to look beneath the surface, that’s where I work.

12/02/2026

There’s a quiet double bind I see play out in so many lives.

Not asking for help…
and at the same time feeling frustrated that no one is helping.

From the outside, you hope it lookss like strength, capability, ‘I’ve got this.’

But on the inside, it often feels like carrying everything alone.

Many people say they want more support, more ease, more shared effort.
And yet, without realising it, they’re holding on tightly to decisions, to responsibility, to emotional labour.

Not because they want to.
But because they don’t know how to do it any other way.

This isn’t really a communication issue.
It’s usually a belief issue.

Beliefs like:
- If I don’t do it, it won’t be done properly
- I shouldn’t need help
- Letting go is risky
- My value comes from being the one who holds it all

When these beliefs are running quietly in the background, we send mixed signals.

We might say, ‘I could really use some support,’
while our energy is saying, “
‘I’ve got it, you won’t be able to help me’.

So people step back.
And then we feel resentful.
And alone again.

Creating support in our lives isn’t just about asking.
It’s about whether we’re truly making space emotionally and practically for someone else to step in.

That can look like:
- Allowing things to be done differently
- Letting go of the need to be indispensable
a Receiving help without turning it into a judgement about yourself

Often, the hardest part isn’t trusting other people.

It’s questioning the part of us that learned, very early on,
that we had to do everything by ourselves.

And I’m curious…

Do you notice this pattern showing up in your life?

11/02/2026

Today I took myself to the cinema this morning. Alone. 🍿

That sentence shouldn’t feel radical, but it did. Not because I didn’t want to go, but because of everything that tugged at me not to. My daughter is off ill, along with a long list of things that ‘should’ be done, leaving me with the familiar sense that stepping away to do something enjoyable needs justifying.

The truth is, the last few weeks have been a lot. Both my kids have been ill. Myself and my husband have been ill and life has been loud, full and demanding and I noticed that familiar pattern: when things get busy or hard, my own need for rest and headspace is the first thing I negotiate away.

What stops many of us is the discomfort that comes with prioritising ourselves. The guilt and internal voices telling us it’s indulgent, selfish, or unnecessary. So instead, we push through, avoid the pause, and quietly deplete ourselves.

Sitting in that cinema, I felt uncomfortable at first, did I deserve this? I caught the critic in the act and asked it to step aside for a while so I could be there fully and enjoy the film. (If you are wondering - I saw Hamnet and I’m not sure I’ll ever recover. Beautiful and heart breaking.)

I didn’t try and shut the critic down or remove it because that doesn’t ever work, but, I allowed it to step aside and stay and watch with me. It worked. I was able to relax and completely immerse myself.

Teaching those resistant and judgmental parts that they can stick around and learn a new way of being has been crucial in my own personal development and I incorporate this way of working with my clients too. It’s compassionate and powerful at the same time.

Overcoming our obstacles and challenges can create discomfort but it does not have to be gruelling or filled with struggle.

Pro tip - if you are going to see Hamnet - take tissues.

05/02/2026

Today is Time to Talk Day 2026.
This year’s theme is ‘Brave the Big Talk’ - creating space for the conversations we often avoid, and helping to de-stigmatise mental health.

So here are some of my thoughts…

I’ve been back in therapy since August last year.
It’s been supportive, messy, challenging and deeply needed.

The last couple of years have held some big personal events alongside major shifts in my work and it wasn’t until I finally slowed down last summer that I could really see that I wanted and needed extra support.

I already have coaching and supervision, but I recognised I needed something different - a therapeutic space where I could untangle things, begin to allow myself to be imperfect, and practise acceptance.
Not easy for a recovering people-pleaser and perfectionist.

Some weeks are harder than others and still I know how much this work is helping me. It always does.

I believe deeply in doing the inner work. It’s why I do the work I do with clients because I’ve felt, again and again, how transformative it can be.

Here’s to brave conversations. 🩶

04/02/2026

Are you known for supporting others, but not deeply known yourself?

You’re the one who listens.
Who holds space.
Who shows up.

But being vulnerable yourself can feel exposing.
Like the risk of being seen might be too high.

So you adapt.
You share carefully.
You keep parts of yourself tucked away.
And still, connection can feel just out of reach.

Over time, relationships can start to feel uneven, present and caring, yet quietly unseen.

Vulnerability doesn’t have to mean over-exposure.
It can be gentle.
Boundaried.
Rooted in self-trust.

This is the space I hold in coaching.
If this resonates, you don’t have to explore it alone.

If you are ready, I am here. 🩶

03/02/2026

Carrying everything can feel incredibly lonely.

Even when you have people around you. Even when others think you’re doing fine.

You don’t always feel able to say -
This is heavy.

So you keep going. You hold it together. You tell yourself it’s just how things are.

Loneliness doesn’t mean you’re disconnected. It often means you’ve been the container for too much on your own.

02/02/2026

Many people who carry too much aren’t trying to control anything.

They do it because:

-They care deeply.
-They’re used to being the reliable one.
-They learned early on that holding things together kept them safe.

So when life feels uncertain, their body says: “I’ll take this.”

Not because it’s healthy.
 Because it’s familiar.

This isn’t a willpower issue.
 It’s a pattern that once made sense.
And patterns can be met with compassion not force.

27/01/2026

Consciously, you know it’s not meant to be all on you.

And yet… you don’t know how to stop carrying it.

I have the same conversation again and again with people who are holding everything.

The responsibility.
The emotional load.
Other people’s feelings.
Keeping things steady.
Making sure it all works.

These are caring people.
Thoughtful people.
People who want to do the right thing and not let anyone down.

And yet, this way of being is exhausting.
And it isn’t sustainable.

What’s often at play here isn’t a lack of insight or self-awareness.
It’s subconscious patterning.

Deeply learned ways of being that say:
“If I don’t hold it all, things will fall apart.”
“It’s easier if I just do it myself.”
“This is just how I am.”

Left unexamined, these patterns can quietly shape a lifetime.

Not only keeping us stuck but keeping us exhausted.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

In my work, we gently look beneath the surface at what’s really driving the over-responsibility and over-functioning
(and no this doesn’t have to be heavy or overwhelming).

Together, we explore what’s happening inside you and around you.
Not just what you think you should do differently,
but what needs to shift at a deeper, embodied level and in your relationships and life.

The result?

More ease.
More space.
A way of living that doesn’t require you to hold everything together all the time.

And perhaps most importantly learning how to carry responsibility well, without carrying it alone.

If this resonates, I’d love to hear what it brings up for you or have a conversation about what life could feel like with more support.

Pic of my favourite beach in Devon because I’m dreaming of warmer and sunnier days ahead.

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