Embrace Your Freedom

Embrace Your Freedom Let’s thrive together! 💛
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Trauma-informed coach & CPD-accredited workshop leader, both face to face and online 🌟 1:1 coaching for those healing from narcissistic abuse, trauma, & emotional challenges.

So many survivors internalise the relationship failure 💔“If I was easier…”“If I didn’t react…”“If I tried harder…”But na...
31/01/2026

So many survivors internalise the relationship failure 💔

“If I was easier…”
“If I didn’t react…”
“If I tried harder…”

But narcissistic dynamics aren’t created by difficulty.
They’re created by emotional incapacity.

Someone who can’t tolerate accountability, vulnerability or equality will always struggle to love safely.

You weren’t asking for too much.
You were asking the wrong person.

And realising that can feel painful…
but also incredibly freeing 🤍

On Tuesday, I had the privilege of speaking at the Astley evening Covem launch about the journey of my business, the wor...
29/01/2026

On Tuesday, I had the privilege of speaking at the Astley evening Covem launch about the journey of my business, the work I do, and why this field means so much to me 🤍

I shared how Embrace Your Freedom was created from both lived experience and professional experience… from supporting children in schools to specialising in trauma-informed practice and domestic abuse recovery 💛

As part of the session, I also introduced the cycle of abuse. We explored how abusive relationships often follow repeating patterns of love bombing, devaluation, discard and hoovering. Understanding this cycle is so important, because it helps explain why leaving an abusive relationship is rarely simple and why survivors can feel confused, hopeful, fearful and emotionally attached all at once 💔

What really stood out to me was how powerful education can be. When we understand trauma, behaviour and abuse through a psychological and nervous-system lens, judgement is replaced with compassion and survivors, parents and professionals feel less alone in their experiences 🤍

I’m so grateful for opportunities like this to share not just what I do, but why I do it 🫶

Projection is one of the most confusing psychological tactics in narcissistic relationships 💔You’re accused of being sel...
28/01/2026

Projection is one of the most confusing psychological tactics in narcissistic relationships 💔

You’re accused of being selfish… while they’re controlling.
You’re called manipulative… while they twist reality.
You’re labelled toxic… while they refuse accountability.

This isn’t random.
Projection is a defence mechanism.

When someone can’t tolerate their own flaws or behaviours, they unconsciously place them onto you.

Over time, you start questioning yourself instead of questioning them.
And that’s exactly how projection keeps control intact.

If you were constantly defending yourself against accusations that didn’t feel true,
that wasn’t coincidence.
That was psychology in action 🤍

Quietness is often mistaken for calmness, compliance or resilience. But from a trauma-informed lens, silence can also be...
27/01/2026

Quietness is often mistaken for calmness, compliance or resilience. But from a trauma-informed lens, silence can also be a sign of overwhelm, fear or emotional shutdown.

Some children externalise stress through loud behaviour, while others internalise it. These children may appear “easy”, “mature” or “well-behaved”, yet their nervous systems may be working just as hard to cope.

Understanding this helps adults widen their awareness of wellbeing beyond what is visible. Emotional safety is not just about managing disruption. It’s also about noticing those who disappear quietly into the background.

One of the biggest red flags in narcissistic relationships isn’t shouting or rage… it’s confusion.Not knowing where you ...
26/01/2026

One of the biggest red flags in narcissistic relationships isn’t shouting or rage… it’s confusion.

Not knowing where you stand.
Not knowing which version of them you’ll get.
Not knowing whether you’re loved or tolerated.

Healthy relationships don’t leave you constantly guessing.
They might include conflict, but they DO NOT include chronic uncertainty!!

If you spent months or years analysing texts, tone, moods or silence… that wasn’t you being insecure.
That was your nervous system trying to survive unpredictability.

Love doesn’t feel like walking on eggshells 🤍
And clarity is not too much to ask for.

Something really exciting is happening… 🤍After selling out my original workshop spaces, I’ve secured bigger venue, which...
25/01/2026

Something really exciting is happening… 🤍

After selling out my original workshop spaces, I’ve secured bigger venue, which means I can now open up even more places for my upcoming Embrace Education: Thrive Together Workshops 🥹✨

📅 Wednesday 18th February 2026
📍 Toughsheet Community Stadium

Three powerful, CPD-accredited workshops designed for both professional and personal understanding of trauma and wellbeing:

🕘 9am–12pm
Trauma-Informed Spaces to Support a Child’s Mental Health and Wellbeing
Perfect for anyone who supports children or young people: teachers, parents, carers and professionals.

🕧 12:30pm–3:30pm
Using Positive Psychology to Increase Mental Health & Wellbeing of Young People and Adults
Ideal for those working with or supporting young people and adults in any setting.

🕓 4pm–7pm
The Physiology of Domestic Abuse
This session is for everyone. Whether you’re a survivor, supporting someone else, or simply want to deepen your understanding of how abuse impacts the brain and body, you are so welcome.

✨ CPD certificates provided
✨ Discounts available when booking multiple workshops or attending with a friend

If you’d like to book a place or ask any questions, just message me 💌

And if this resonates with you, or someone you know, please share this post with a comment so it reaches more people. You never know who might really need this knowledge, understanding or support. 🫶🏼

This shift is huge in healing 🤍Attention can feel exciting… especially if you were starved of reassurance.But attention ...
24/01/2026

This shift is huge in healing 🤍

Attention can feel exciting… especially if you were starved of reassurance.
But attention alone doesn’t create safety.

Consistency does.

Consistency shows up even when emotions are uncomfortable.
It doesn’t disappear when you have needs.
And it doesn’t punish you for taking up space.

If attention once felt more powerful than consistency, that doesn’t mean you wanted chaos.
It means your nervous system was wired to respond to unpredictability. 💔

Healing often means relearning what healthy connection actually feels like.

Trauma-informed practice is not a reminder of what has happened to someone. It is a framework for how we respond to what...
23/01/2026

Trauma-informed practice is not a reminder of what has happened to someone. It is a framework for how we respond to what we see.

By recognising that trauma and chronic stress can shape behaviour, emotional regulation and relationships, trauma-informed practice encourages environments that prioritise safety, predictability and connection. This applies across education, families, workplaces and communities.

At its core, trauma-informed practice shifts the question from “What’s wrong?” to “What might have happened, and what is needed now?” That shift has the power to reduce shame, improve wellbeing and create spaces where people feel safe enough to learn, heal and grow.

Grey rocking isn’t about being cold or cruel…It’s about protecting yourself when someone thrives on emotional reactions....
22/01/2026

Grey rocking isn’t about being cold or cruel…
It’s about protecting yourself when someone thrives on emotional reactions.

Narcissistic individuals often feed off intensity… your emotions, explanations, reactions, and distress.

Grey rock removes that supply.

By keeping responses neutral, brief, and unemotional, you reduce the opportunities for manipulation, escalation, or control.

It’s not meant to fix the relationship.
It’s not meant to make them understand.

It’s a boundary strategy often used when leaving isn’t immediately possible or contact can’t be fully cut.

And if it feels unnatural or uncomfortable at first, that makes sense.
You were likely conditioned to over-explain, soothe, or manage their emotions.

Grey rock is about choosing self-preservation 🤍
Not proving anything to anyone.

One of the most damaging parts of narcissistic abuse is the confusion. 💔Not knowing where you stand.Not knowing which ve...
21/01/2026

One of the most damaging parts of narcissistic abuse is the confusion. 💔

Not knowing where you stand.
Not knowing which version of them you’ll get.
Not knowing whether you’re overreacting or imagining things.

That confusion isn’t because you lack insight.
It’s because the dynamic itself is disorientating.

Inconsistency keeps you analysing instead of trusting yourself.
Gaslighting teaches you to doubt your own memory.
And intermittent kindness hooks your nervous system into chasing relief.

Over time, your energy goes into figuring them out rather than checking in with yourself.

If you felt confused, stuck, or constantly unsure, that doesn’t mean you missed red flags.
It means you were inside a pattern designed to keep you off balance.

Clarity doesn’t arrive all at once 🤍
It comes in moments like this, when things finally start to make sense.

Learning doesn’t begin with worksheets, expectations or outcomes.It begins with emotional safety.From a trauma-informed ...
21/01/2026

Learning doesn’t begin with worksheets, expectations or outcomes.
It begins with emotional safety.

From a trauma-informed and neuroscience perspective, a child’s brain cannot access learning when their nervous system is in survival mode. When a child feels anxious, overwhelmed or unsafe, the brain prioritises protection over curiosity, concentration and memory.

Emotional safety is created through predictable routines, attuned adults, clear boundaries and repair when things go wrong. These experiences help the nervous system settle, allowing the thinking brain to come back online.

This is why trauma-informed practice places such a strong emphasis on relationships and regulation. It’s not about lowering expectations. It’s about creating the conditions where children are actually able to meet them.

Safety is not a reward for good behaviour.
It is the foundation that learning is built on. 🤍

So excited that I’ll now be moving to a bigger room at my venue for my upcoming workshops because of the number of atten...
19/01/2026

So excited that I’ll now be moving to a bigger room at my venue for my upcoming workshops because of the number of attendees! Additional places now available. 🫶🏼💗

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