Ben Roper Psychotherapy

16/03/2026

I published an article on Shame. Shame lives in the corners, ever-seeking the shadows, choosing to stay out of sight. I believe the more we talk about shame, what shames us, where it comes from, the less shame will impact us!

Shame can shape how we see ourselves and others. Learn how it develops, how it affects us, and how therapy can help soften its impact.

24/02/2026

Shame is disconnection. Not just from other people, but from ourselves. It halts us from being with other people, sparks anger, frustration, sadness, disappointment, hiding, running away etc.

By addressing shame head-on, we illuminate the corners it hides in. We look at why we feel we aren't good enough, and how this can (over time) become something we believe to be untrue. All the while growing the connection we have with ourselves again, and with the people we care about.

I have created more self-help material. Information for men, specifically, but also an introduction to understanding shame. There's an easy way to track and notice what we do when we feel shame, with the Compass, too. Take a look.

https://benroperpsychotherapy.co.uk/self-help/

21/07/2025

Shame can feel like it's who you are. It's not.

This free workbook is a starting point. It helps you understand what shame is, how it shows up, and how to begin working with it gently.

Not everything has to be intense. Sometimes it's just about being honest with yourself.

You can download it here: https://benroperpsychotherapy.co.uk/self-help/

If this is something you want to explore further, I've tailored my practice into being somewhere that's healthy, calm, and shame-informed. We can look at the things that your whole body feels, but can't always name.

08/07/2025

Most people don’t even realise it’s shame.

It doesn’t always feel dramatic. Sometimes it’s just the thought you didn’t question. The voice you’ve always trusted. The pressure you carry without knowing why.

Shame rarely shouts. But it shapes how we see ourselves, what we believe we deserve, and what we stop ourselves from reaching for.

Therapy can help you meet the parts of you that carry shame — gently, honestly, and without judgment.

I specialise in shame-informed therapy for those ready to feel more like themselves again.

📍 Online across the UK
📩 Message me if this resonates

02/06/2025

Curious about online therapy?
18+ and UK and UK overseas territories only.

21/05/2025

Let’s talk about the thing no one wants to talk about.

Shame.

It’s the feeling that tells you you’re too much, or not enough.
That keeps you overthinking every text you’ve sent.
That makes you feel like you’ve got to be perfect, polite, productive, or else.
That hides under burnout, people-pleasing, anger, avoidance, self-criticism, or the feeling that you’ve never really belonged anywhere.

For a long time, shame shaped everything in my own life — silently. So now, it's at the heart of how I work as a therapist.

I’ve updated my therapy practice to reflect this. If you’re tired of holding it all in, or being someone you’re not just to get by, this work might be for you.

We’ll explore how shame has shaped your story — and how to rewrite it. Not through performance or perfection, but with honesty, curiosity, and care.

🔗 www.benroperpsychotherapy.com
📍 Online therapy for adults across the UK
🧠 Specialising in shame, trauma, identity and self-worth

24/03/2025

Online and Telephone Talking Therapy for Individuals, based in Mansfield, UK. Take a look, and see if I could help you regain power over your mental health!

03/03/2025

A great resource tailored for men, with support such as fitness, mindfulness and mental health. You'll also find me on there.

Do you find it hard to allow yourself to feel vulnerable? 🫶

We want to challenge the stigma around men expressing their emotions and help normalise men showing their feelings.

Download our app today on the Apple App Store today and let us support you in finding your voice 🎤

https://ladzapp.co.uk/

25/02/2025

To couple the release of the anger workbook yesterday, I have also uploaded a wheel of emotions. This is a tool to help you to understand your emotions, but can also be used to understand the emotions of others.

Feel free to share this resource, download, save. It can be an amazing tool to go alongside your therapy as well.

Find the link to this page in my bio!

24/02/2025

Anger as an emotion is often misunderstood. Anger is seen as standoffish, hostile, and unreachable for someone trying to offer support. What if I said that anger is often a secondary emotion? What if I said that anger is the tip of an iceberg. Anger is what that person's body wants them to see, to keep them safe, protect them from vulnerability.

What if the person who displays a lot of anger is just as worthy of help and support as the person who displays depression or anxiousness?

My new workbook helps to give you information about your anger, explore external and internal factors that trigger it, and give ways to help you begin to regain control over it. If we are in control of our anger a little bit more, then we just may be a step closer to making the changes that we may want to make.

Find it here on my website - https://benroperpsychotherapy.co.uk/self-help/

04/02/2025

NEW FREE RESOURCE 🤩🤩

The Grounding and Mindfulness resource is now live and up on my website. This one took a while to make, so feel free to visit, download, and share with others.

Contains over 18 ways to ground, as well as a full body scan for mindfulness.

"It's better to try than not try at all!"

28/01/2025

Today I had the pleasure of returning to HMP Whatton to attend their staff wellbeing day. It was great to see old staff, as well as new faces, and be given the opportunity to discuss my growth and where I have got to now.

As the day passed, I invited staff to share their stresses with me. As you see from the jar, there is a lot of stress that prison staff carry, and often they are seen as the "forgotten service". I will always hold the prison service dearly, and being able to offer my services there felt like the perfect way to thank them for my near-seven years of working there.

I will be working hard to make sure new free workbooks and resources become available on my website, and I will continue to offer concessions to key workers and those in emergency services.