18/11/2025
How Congruent are you ? Therapy Talk ......
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So Congruence - the dictionary term - you will read ( Agreement or Harmony) when 2 things are compatible. When 2 things are similar or fit together. In a mathematical sense its when 2 shapes are identical in shape and size ( side note ; New learning for me )
In a psychological sense its when your ideal self aligns with your real self🙏
Your ideal self is who you are aspiring to be in the foreseeable future / reaching your potential and your real self is about where you are right now 😮
Congruence means something matches , so what your personal experience is and how you present yourself to the world. Does your experience match your presentation ? 🤔
Congruence is when what you reveal to the world matches your inner world✨
Your inner thoughts and feelings match your outer words , emotions , actions and behaviour🙌
This classic example springs to mind “ your feeling sad , hopeless , anxious , your asked “ How are you “ you reply “ I am OK “ Really your not , your words are not in alignment with your true thoughts or feelings .We have all been here........ 🥰
I will never forget being in the therapy room , as a client , not the therapist, I was explaining a distressing situation were I had experienced conflict with someone. I was feeling hurt , upset and angry. My therapist asked me what are you going to do, I told him I am going to carry on like nothing has happened , he called me out ! he said “ Lisa can you see how there is an in- congruence here “ I agreed , there truth was I didn’t have the courage to tell this person how they had made me feel😢
I want to share with you that No one is congruent all of the time, No matter how much inside work you have done we will all experience a certain amount of in-congruence from time to time.
Do you need to work on becoming more congruent ? 🤔
Lets Talk ............ 💜
warm wishes Lisa x
