18/11/2025
Food for Thought…
It’s easy to become attached to a person, a belief, a habit, a way of doing things…
We all know that attachments can lead to suffering…
So how can you remain in the middle… loving someone, but not too much…
Having a belief… but be willing to let it go and expand into greater understanding…
From a Daoist standpoint, the art of living lies in balance… the space between holding and releasing, between presence and absence….
Attachment, in its essence, is a form of clinging to what is meant to flow…
When you grip water too tightly, it slips through your fingers…
Dao teaches simplicity… to be with things, but not to possess them; to love, but not to bind…
Love, when free from need, becomes like sunlight… it nourishes without claiming…
To love someone deeply yet lightly means to see their true nature, to witness their changing forms, and to remain at ease when they must move in their own direction…
The Sage does not harden the heart to avoid pain, but rather softens the mind so that joy and sorrow can pass through without resistance…
In this softness lies strength, for water carves valleys not by force, but by yielding…
Beliefs, too, are tools… maps, not the territory itself…
Dao does not reject belief; it simply cautions against mistaking any single view for the whole of reality…
When one belief is released, space opens for a broader horizon of understanding…
A flexible mind, like a supple tree, weathers the storm; a rigid mind breaks…
Thus, remaining “in the middle” is not a cold detachment, but a warm equanimity…
It is to stand quietly at the heart of change, trusting that all things… love, ideas, possessions… come and go according to the rhythm of Dao…
When the mind aligns with this rhythm, attachments loosen naturally…
You can then meet each moment, each person, each thought with genuine presence… appreciating without clinging, engaging without grasping, and walking gently through the world in harmony with the ever-unfolding Way…
How do you handle attachments?
All the Best!
H Perry Curtis, Master at Pampamisayoc Qigong
