LifeTools Specialist Training Provider

20/12/2025

At this time of year, many people feel the pressure building.

Family commitments.
Work deadlines before Christmas.
Trying to fit in time with friends.

Even when relationships are strong, these kinds of pressures can create strain. One of the real gifts is being able to rebuild closeness again - restoring trust and that sense of emotional connection.

We’ve created a 7-day guide on rebuilding trust after conflict, designed for situations just like this. It works for many kinds of relationships, not just one specific scenario.

The guide takes you (or both of you) through a simple daily process. It’s not only about bridging a gap, but about strengthening connection and reducing the chances of the same strain resurfacing in the future. There’s a self-reflection element alongside practical techniques.

Research in emotional regulation shows that calm communication and follow-through can rebuild perceived trust by over 60% within two weeks. (Journal of Family Psychology, 2023)

If you’d like a copy, just reply and ask.

This approach isn’t about ignoring hurt - it’s about replacing defensiveness with grounded awareness, which is the foundation of real connection.

17/12/2025

I have a wonderful friend who has experienced a number of difficult moments in her life, starting quite young. Over time, that shaped how she responds to criticism - it can linger far longer than it should.

What’s interesting is that our brains often treat criticism as a kind of threat. The same areas involved in physical danger can activate when someone disapproves.

Many of us grow up with the message that criticism means failure.And most of the time, we’re far harder on ourselves than anyone else.

This isn’t about blame. It’s about understanding what’s happening internally so you can respond more intentionally.

There’s some solid research behind this. Studies show that people who use brief grounding or self-affirmation exercises after negative feedback tend to be less defensive and more mentally flexible - both strong foundations for confidence and wellbeing (Creswell et al., 2005; Sherman et al., 2009).

We’ve created a simple 5-step guide designed for moments like these - when you’ve had a knock and want to steady yourself rather than spiral.

If you’d like a copy, just reply and ask.

The reason this approach works is that shifting your focus away from external criticism and back to internal grounding helps restore a sense of self-worth and autonomy. It breaks the cycle of rumination and allows you to respond, rather than react - a core habit of emotionally resilient people.

15/12/2025

Are boundaries important in relationships 🤔

Whilst making new guides and training on relationships, we came upon the following:

"Research shows people who practise short assertiveness routines report 52% less daily stress and stronger self-esteem (Journal of Behavioural Therapy, 2023)."

Boundaries do not mean resistance, or training for resiliance ,or putting up any blockage - they are simply about protecting your time, energy, and wellbeing.

If you feel that you are a Yes person all of the time - consider getting some short assertiveness routines for a healthier life.

You can get one of our guides - for free - just ask below 👇

28/07/2025

We are giving away a free recording of a 10 minute guided meditation here:

https://lifetools.com/quiz-revitalizer/

Other deep relaxation recordings come with this - just follow the link and tell us if you would like a copy!

31/12/2024

We are lauching a new give away for the end of 2024. It is a recording called 'Disappearing an Unwanted Condition' and it is a guided recording to help you reduce pain or discomfort.

This came from a tape (cassett in old school language) that hasn't been around for years and has just resurfaced. I have cleaned it up (well run it through Audacity to help reduce any background hiss) and put it up on our ecomm shop.

Now my shop won't allow free items, so I have added a voucher! You can get your recording today by following the link to the item and then using the voucher code 'Disappear'.

I have also added 2 other bonus gifts as a thank you for following our page, supporting us and being a great person!

I only ask one thing, please share this post.

https://lifetools.com/product/disappearing_unwanted_condition/

08/05/2024

I have a single question survey with 4 answers - please give me your opinion on what is most important to you now!

Please like & share...it helps - thank you.

30/04/2024

For most of his life, Sheriff Buford Pusser dedicated himself to public service. His life took a tragic turn on Aug. 12, 1967, when his wife, Pauline, joined him on a routine investigation of a roadside disturbance.

In a sudden and shocking attack, their car was ambushed, and gunfire erupted. Pusser suffered a severe jaw injury but survived.

Tragically, Pauline was killed. Haunted by guilt over her death, which was likely a mob hit targeting him, Pusser intensified his war on crime.

He publicly identified four individuals as his wife's assassins and named Kirksey McCord Nix Jr., a notorious Dixie Mafia leader, as the orchestrator of the attack.

Although Nix evaded justice for Pauline’s murder — though he was later imprisoned for life for another crime — the other four suspects in Pauline's murder met mysterious ends, dying one after the other. Speculation arose that Pusser might have orchestrated retribution against the mafia members responsible for his wife's death.

However, lacking concrete evidence linking him directly to these deaths, and perhaps influenced by a sense of poetic justice, authorities never pursued charges against Pusser for these incidents.

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How would you have reacted?

04/04/2024

Here is a little secret - most of us have all been there! {If not, then you are one of a very few}. Yes…at some point in our lives we have fallen out with a loved over a matter, most of the time, trivial.

I have been in bed and turned my back, holding onto this grudge. I want to be understood, I want my grievance to be forgiven, I want to be vindicated. I want…

Well it’s not about ‘I want’ - or, whatever it is in your case - ‘You want’

It’s about feeding your ego above your relationship. Forgiveness, acceptance and moving on are far more important.

This image by Alexander Milov captures the condition. If this reaches you, and you are holding onto something that is causing you to have your back to a loved one (metaphorically); look inside and see, does that inner child of you really want to be going through this?

I am not on about people who take advantage of you and are better not in your life, but people you care for. Where some issue has got in the way and you don’t know how to get past it.

Consider getting over it and allowing that connection again, to be playful, present and in the moment. If you don’t know how to - look at this free course on acceptance - it teaches you about what is acceptance and how to be in the moment. (Link is in the first comment).

Become fully immersed with someone you value, love and cherish.

If you are not in a relationship and want to be in one, maybe you have had some past pain or hurt that is causing some invisible blockage or limiting belief - this too is for you. Make a 💔become a 💖

Any questions, ask in the comments 👇

23/01/2024

I have had my data hacked - have you? I was recently hacked on FB, where they had access to my ads account, and therefore 'bank' - and I lost money. So, read the following!

There has been a data breach - over the past few days - of over 26 billion records which have been taken from Twitter, LinkedIn and Dropbox to name some of the bigger breaches.

These records have been made public and are accessible by hackers (phone numbers/email addresses) and there is expected to be a surge in attacks.

There is a URL you can go to and put your email address/phone in to see if your details were released (as this company has accessed the same released data, so it can cross check).

On an initial check, if found 2 email addresses hacked and released (it even tells you from what sites!). Be careful.

Check whether your online credentials have been comprised with our up to date personal data leak checker tool.

24/11/2023

3 main reasons why personal development challenges fail and a give away to support anyone seeking self improvement growth

To see the link, go to the first comment.