Clare Procter Life Coaching

30/04/2026

📖 SELF DEVELOPMENT BOOK REVIEW: GOOD VIBES, GOOD LIFE by VEX KING 📚

✨ Overview ✨

Good Vibes, Good Life is a powerful and accessible guide to self-love, healing, and creating a life that feels aligned and fulfilling. Vex King shares his own journey through adversity and uses it to gently guide readers toward greater self-worth, inner peace, and emotional resilience. The book blends spirituality with practical mindset shifts, making it both inspiring and actionable.

🔑 Key Lessons 🔑

1. Self-love is the foundation of everything
The relationship you have with yourself shapes every other area of your life. When you cultivate self-respect, compassion, and acceptance, your external world begins to reflect that.

2. Your thoughts create your reality
Becoming aware of your inner dialogue is key. Shifting from self-criticism to supportive, empowering thoughts can transform how you experience life.

3. Energy matters
What you focus on, who you surround yourself with, and what you consume all impact your emotional energy. Protecting your energy is an act of self-care.

4. Healing is a journey, not a destination
There’s no rush. Growth comes from gently meeting yourself where you are, rather than forcing change or bypassing difficult emotions.

5. Let go of what no longer aligns
Whether it’s relationships, habits, or beliefs—creating space for what truly serves you requires releasing what doesn’t.

✍️ Reflection & Journal Prompts ✍️

* Where in my life am I being hardest on myself right now? What would self-compassion look like instead?

* What kind of thoughts do I regularly repeat to myself—and are they supportive or limiting?

* Who or what in my life currently drains my energy? What boundaries might I need to consider?

* What does “self-love” genuinely feel like to me, beyond the idea of it?

* What am I holding onto that I know, deep down, I’m ready to release?

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🌟 Final Thoughts 🌟

This book is a gentle but empowering reminder that everything begins within. It invites you to reconnect with your worth, trust your journey, and take small, intentional steps toward a life that feels more aligned and peaceful. A beautiful read if you’re navigating healing, personal growth, or simply wanting to deepen your relationship with yourself.

22/04/2026

🪫 How often do you take time to really rest and recharge? 🪫

Rest is not a reward you earn after burnout — it’s a necessity that allows you to show up as your best self.

In a world that glorifies constant hustle, choosing to pause can feel uncomfortable. But rest isn’t laziness — it’s restoration. It’s where clarity returns, creativity grows, and your energy is renewed.

When you give yourself permission to rest, you’re not falling behind. You’re creating space to move forward with intention, strength, and balance.

Today, ask yourself: what kind of rest do I need right now — physical, mental, or emotional?

Honor that need. Your future self will thank you.

13/04/2026

09/04/2026

What do you try to control?

So many people spend a lot of time trying to control everything around them - other people, outcomes, situations - things that were never really theirs to control in the first place.

Then when it doesn’t work, they feel frustrated, overwhelmed, even a little powerless.

After working with people for over four decades, I’ve seen something very different - your power has never been in controlling what happens to you, it’s in how you respond to it.
Here’s the part most people don’t realise: that response isn’t fixed. It’s not just “who you are” - it’s something you’ve learned, and anything learned can be unlearned.

That’s what Your Mind, Your Rules is all about - when you learn how to work with your mind, instead of against it, everything begins to shift.

Your mind. Your rules.

✨ Tell me - where in your life are you trying to control something that might not actually be yours to control?

30/03/2026

📚 MONTHLY SELF DEVELOPMENT BOOK REVIEW: HOW TO DO THE WORK – BY DR NICOLE LEPERA 📚

📕OVERVIEW 📕

In How to Do the Work, psychologist Dr. Nicole LePera offers a holistic and empowering approach to healing and personal growth. The book explores how our childhood experiences, subconscious patterns, and daily habits shape the way we think, feel, and behave as adults.

Rather than focusing solely on traditional therapy models, LePera emphasises self-awareness, nervous system regulation, and the power of small daily choices. She encourages readers to reconnect with themselves, understand their conditioning, and take an active role in their own healing.

At its core, this book is about reclaiming personal agency — learning that while we may not be responsible for the wounds we carry, we are capable of creating change and building healthier patterns moving forward.

🔑 KEY LESSONS 🔑

1. Our childhood patterns shape our adult behaviours
Many of our emotional reactions and coping strategies originate from early experiences. Becoming aware of these patterns is the first step toward change.

2. Awareness is the foundation of healing
Healing begins when we start observing our thoughts, emotions, and behaviours without judgement.

3. The nervous system plays a central role in our wellbeing
Stress responses such as fight, flight, freeze, or fawn can become chronic if our nervous system is dysregulated.

4. Small daily habits create lasting transformation
Change doesn’t happen overnight. Consistent daily practices—such as mindfulness, boundary setting, and self-reflection—gradually rewire our patterns.

5. Self-responsibility is empowering
While our past influences us, we have the power to choose how we respond and grow moving forward.

🦉MY COACHING PERSPECTIVE🦉

One of the most powerful themes in this book is the idea that healing is not about fixing something “broken,” but about becoming more aware of our patterns and learning new ways of responding.

Dr. LePera reminds us that growth often begins with gentle awareness and we pause to notice our triggers, emotional responses, and habits, we create space for change.

For many readers, this book can feel both validating and empowering — offering language for experiences they may have felt but never fully understood.

It also reinforces an important message: healing is not a quick process, but a journey of reconnecting with ourselves and building supportive daily practices. If you are interested in starting to do some guided inner healing work this is a great book to use.

✍️ Reflection & Journal Prompts ✍️

• What emotional patterns or reactions do I notice repeating in my life?
• When I feel triggered, what might my nervous system be responding to?
• What beliefs about myself did I learn earlier in life that may no longer serve me?
• What small daily habits could support my emotional wellbeing?
• How might I practice responding to myself with more compassion?

A Gentle Practice Inspired by the Book

Try a simple daily awareness check-in:

At the end of the day, pause and ask yourself:
• What moments today felt emotionally activating?
• How did my body respond?
• What did I need in that moment?

This practice builds awareness and gradually strengthens your ability to respond to yourself with understanding rather than judgement.

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28/02/2026

📚 MONTHLY SELF DEVELOPMENT BOOK REVIEW: THE BODY KEEPS THE SCORE – DR BESSEL VAN DER KOLK 📚

📕OVERVIEW 📕

This month I have chosen The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk who explores how trauma is not just something that lives in our memories — it lives in our bodies. Drawing on decades of research and clinical work, he explains how trauma reshapes the brain, impacts relationships, and influences how safe we feel in the world.

This isn’t just a clinical book about Trauma it is a compassionate exploration of how early attachment wounds, chronic stress, neglect, and overwhelming experiences shape our nervous system — and most importantly, how healing is possible. It’s both science-based and deeply human.

🔑 KEY LESSONS 🔑

✨ 1. Trauma lives in the body

Trauma isn’t simply about what happened — it’s about what your nervous system had to do to survive. When experiences overwhelm our capacity to cope, the body holds onto the stress response long after the event has passed.

✨ 2. You cannot think your way out of trauma

Insight alone isn’t enough. Healing requires working with the body, the nervous system, and felt experience — not just talking about what happened.

✨ 3. Safety is the foundation of healing

Whether through therapy, relationships, movement, or mindfulness — healing begins when the body experiences safety again.

✨ 4. Regulation before reflection

Before we can process painful experiences, we must first learn how to regulate. Breath, grounding, movement, rhythm, and connection are powerful tools.

✨ 5. Healing is possible

From EMDR to yoga, neurofeedback to theatre, this book offers hope. The brain can change. The nervous system can relearn safety.

⭐️ Why This Book Matters

Many high-functioning, capable adults carry invisible trauma responses — perfectionism, people-pleasing, emotional shutdown, hyper-independence.

This book helps us understand that these are not character flaws. They are adaptive survival strategies.

And once we understand that… we can begin to gently shift them.

For anyone navigating burnout, relationship breakdown, emotional overwhelm, or chronic stress — this book offers language for what your body may already know.

✍️ REFLECTION & JOURNAL PROMPTS ✍️

Use these prompts as a personal learning exercise:

1. When do I feel most activated in my body? What tends to trigger that response?

2. What does safety feel like physically for me?

3. Where in my life am I still operating from survival rather than choice?

4. What small practices help me feel grounded and present?

5. If my body could speak, what would it say it needs right now?

⭐️ MY COACHING PERSPECTIVE ⭐️

This is an enlightening read as I believe it shifts our perspective to fully appreciate that our body is the first stage in our communication system with the outside world not our mind. It provides understanding around the shame we feel about our outdated survival strategies moving us from self-blame to self-compassion, from surviving to reconnecting. If healing means learning to listen inward, this book is a reminder that the body has been speaking all along and we just need to learn to listen to it.

17/02/2026

🔥 🐎 EMBRACE THE POWER OF THE FIRE HORSE 🔥 🐎

As we step into the Year of the Fire Horse in the Chinese zodiac, we enter a year of passion, bold movement, and fearless transformation.

The Horse already represents freedom, drive, courage, and forward momentum and this year it’s amplified by one of the 5 elements..Fire 🔥 so everything is intensified.

This is not a small year.
This is a breakthrough year.

🔥FIRE HORSE YEAR GUIDANCE🔥

1. Follow What Lights You Up

Your desires are not random — they are guidance. Notice what energises you rather than drains you.

2. Move at a Sustainable Pace

The Horse teaches endurance. This year isn’t about burnout; it’s about steady progress.

3. Reclaim Your Inner Power

Fire is your life force. Where have you been giving your energy away? This is a year to call it back.

4. Let Yourself Be Seen

Fire illuminates. You don’t have to be loud to shine. Simply being authentic is enough.

5. Embrace Your Independence

The Horse thrives when it runs free. Where in your life are you ready to break limiting beliefs, outdated roles, or expectations that no longer serve you?

6. Trust Your Inner Compass

The Horse is intuitive and instinctive. Reconnect with your inner wisdom. Your next step may not make sense to everyone — but it only needs to make sense to you.

7. Run With the Right Herd

Surround yourself with people who energize, support, and challenge you to grow.

Ask yourself:
👉 Where am I being called to move forward boldly?
👉 What dream have I kept tied up that’s ready to run free?

🔥 The Fire Horse year asks:
Where are you playing small when you were meant to blaze?
What would change if you trusted your power fully?

This is a year to embrace your fire within. To choose courage over comfort. To run toward your purpose — lit from within.

Let this be the year you stop dimming your light. You were never meant to smoulder. You were meant to shine bright 🌟

06/02/2026

The somatic hug.. a quick tool to calm your nervous system 🤗

01/02/2026

Happy February 💕

28/01/2026

📚 MONTHLY SELF DEVELOPMENT BOOK REVIEW - EMOTIONAL AGILITY by SUSAN DAVID 📚

📕 OVERVIEW 📕

This month I have chosen the book Emotional Agility by Psychologist Susan David where she explores how our inner emotional world shapes the quality of our lives. She introduces the concept of emotional agility — the ability to experience thoughts and feelings fully, without being controlled by them, and to respond in ways that align with our values rather than our habits.

Rather than encouraging “positive thinking” or emotional suppression, this book teaches us how to face difficult emotions with curiosity, compassion, and courage. It’s about learning how to show up for our lives — even when it’s uncomfortable — and choosing growth over avoidance.

💡 KEY LESSONS 💡

✨ 1) Emotions are data, not directives
Feelings give us information, but they don’t have to dictate our actions.

✨ 2) Discomfort is part of growth
Avoiding difficult emotions keeps us stuck; leaning into them helps us move forward.

✨ 3) Unhook from unhelpful stories
We often get trapped in rigid narratives (“I’m not good enough,” “This always happens to me”). Emotional agility helps us notice these stories without letting them define us.

✨ 4) Values over goals
Goals can change, but values guide how we live daily. Acting from values creates lasting fulfillment.

✨ 5) Self-compassion builds resilience
Being kind to ourselves during struggle isn’t weakness — it’s a strength.

✍️ REFLECTION & JOURNAL PROMPTS ✍️

Use these prompts as a personal learning exercise:

📝 1) What emotions do I tend to avoid or suppress? What do I fear might happen if I allowed myself to feel them?

📝 2) What recurring inner story do I notice when I’m stressed or challenged?

📝 3) When I pause instead of reacting, what choices become available to me?

📝 4) What are three core values I want my decisions to reflect — even during difficult moments?

📝 5) How can I practice responding rather than reacting this week?

⭐️ MY COACHING PERSPECTIVE ⭐️

As a life coach, I see Emotional Agility as a powerful reminder that personal growth is about understanding yourself.

So many people believe they need to feel confident, calm, or “ready” before taking action. Susan David flips this idea on its head. You don’t need to eliminate fear, self-doubt, or sadness you need to learn how to move forward with them.

Emotional agility is a skill we can all practice daily:
• Pausing instead of reacting
• Listening instead of judging
• Choosing values instead of habits

When we stop fighting our emotions and start learning from them, real transformation begins.

14/01/2026

Love this advice ⭐️