Lisa Fox Counselling and Psychotherapy

Lisa Fox Counselling and Psychotherapy BACP Accredited Humanistic & Integrative Counsellor and Psychotherapist. A supportive space for those who’ve never felt they fit in.

Working remotely or face-to-face in Edwinstowe. Trauma & abuse recovery • Neurodivergent & LGBTQIA+ affirming.

22/04/2026

Stress can feel constant when your system is used to being on high alert.

If you've experienced trauma, your nervous system may still be scanning for danger, even when things look calm on the outside.

This can show up as hypervigilance, overthinking, difficulty relaxing, or always expecting something to go wrong.

It isn't a flaw. It's a system that adapted to keep you safe.

Stress in this context isn't just about what is happening now. It's about what your body has learned to anticipate.

So managing stress isn't about telling yourself to calm down.

It's about building a sense of safety, slowly and consistently.

That might look like, noticing what helps you feel even slightly more settled, reducing exposure to what keeps your nervous system on edge, allowing yourself to move at a pace that doesn't overwhelm you or working with a therapist like me to process past trauma and thibk about how you'd like to move out of survival mode

The goal isn't to force yourself out of survival mode. It's to support your nervous system so it doesn't have to stay there all the time.

I have availability for remote work via Zoom or the phone

📩 Lisafoxtherapy@proton.me

I came across this handmade plaque in the woods that simply said, be happy.Such a lovely sentiment, and it genuinely mad...
21/04/2026

I came across this handmade plaque in the woods that simply said, be happy.

Such a lovely sentiment, and it genuinely made me smile.

But it also got me thinking about how much value is placed on happiness.

As if happiness is the feeling we should always be aiming for and that other emotions mean something has gone wrong.

But what about sadness, excitement, grief, relief, anger, calm, fear, joy, disappointment and hope.

Every feeling is information.

Sadness can show us what matters.
Anger can point to boundaries.
Fear can alert us to risk.
Excitement can show us desire.
Grief can reflect love.
Relief can tell us pressure has eased.

Happiness isn't more important than other feelings, it's just one part of being human.

Sometimes therapy isn't about trying to feel happy all the time, it's about making space for the full range of what you feel, without judgement.

I have space for remote sessions via Zoom or phone
📩 Lisafoxtherapy@proton.me

Which emotion do you think gets misunderstood the most?

20/04/2026

This is my nine year old cat, sitting on my knee purring while I stroke her.

If you knew her story, you'd know how significant that is.

She was born to a stray mum and I've had her since she was six weeks old. For most of her life, affection has felt difficult for her, she's kept distance, scratched, bitten, and let me know clearly when something felt too much.

It's taken years for her to choose this kind of closeness.

Watching her reminds me how trust often works in therapy.

For some, closeness, vulnerability, or being cared for can feel unfamiliar, uncomfortable, or even unsafe at first. Especially if life has taught you to stay guarded.

Trust doesn't appear because someone expects it to.

It often grows through being listened to, having boundaries respected, being met gently, experiencing consistency and patience over time.

That's how I work as a therapist.

I don't rush people, I pay attention, I respect what feels possible, I gently encourage where it feels helpful and I stay consistent.

This is one reason I value medium to long term therapy, you won't find quick fixes or worksheets with me. My focus is on building a therapeutic relationship with you, at your pace.

Sometimes healing begins not in big moments, but in slowly learning that something different is possible.

I have space for new remote clients via Zoom or phone
📩 Lisafoxtherapy@proton.me

Does trust come easily for you, or does it need time to grow?


15/04/2026

Stress doesn't always look the same, especially if you're neurodivergent.

For many, stress isn't linked to workload or pressure. It's about sensory overload, constant stimulation, and trying to function in environments that don't fit.

Bright lights, noise, social expectations, switching tasks, masking, it adds up.

Burnout can look like exhaustion, but it can also look like doing more. Pushing through. Trying to keep up. Ignoring the signals because you're used to overriding them.

Part of this can be linked to interoception, which is your ability to notice and make sense of what is happening inside your body. Things like hunger, tiredness, or when you're starting to feel overwhelmed.

If thats harder to access, you might not realise stress is building until it feels really intense.

So the question isn't just how do I reduce stress.

It might be - am I giving myself permission to be neurodivergent or am I constantly trying to meet neurotypical expectations

Support could look like reducing input where you can, building in pauses before you reach capacity, letting things be done in a way that actually works for you or working with a therapist like me to build a life that suits your needs. 

I have availability for remote work via Zoom or the phone

📩 Lisafoxtherapy@proton.me

Slow paced weekends can feel unfamiliar if you're used to being in motion.Doing, thinking, planning, catching up.Even re...
14/04/2026

Slow paced weekends can feel unfamiliar if you're used to being in motion.

Doing, thinking, planning, catching up.

Even rest can start to feel like something you have to get right.

My dog is brilliant at slowing down. No overthinking, no pressure to be productive, just fully in the moment, especially when that moment is enjoying a pup cup with cream all over her nose.

For neurodivergent people, weekend recovery can be really important. The week can involve a lot of sensory input, social demands, masking, and pushing through. Without space to come down from that, it can build into overwhelm or burnout.

But slowing down isn't about doing nothing perfectly. It's about giving your nervous system a chance to settle, and for you to listen to what your body needs.

Moments that are simple, unstructured, or a bit messy.

A walk without a goal, sitting without needing to be productive, letting something be enough as it is, choosing comfortable clothing, a familiar book or box set.

Sometimes that's where your body starts to soften.

I have availability for remote work via Zoom or the phone
📩 Lisafoxtherapy@proton.me

What helps you slow down, even a little?

A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because it's trust is not in the branch but in it's own...
10/04/2026

A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because it's trust is not in the branch but in it's own wings.

Stress can make it feel like everything depends on the branch.

The job, the relationship, the expectations, the need to keep everything steady and under control.

When those things feel uncertain, it can leave you feeling on edge, like everything might fall apart.

But often the work isn't about trying to make the branch unbreakable.

It's about building a sense of trust in yourself.

Understanding how you respond under pressure, recognising your patterns, learning how to support yourself in ways that actually fit you.

Therapy with me isn't about fixing you, you're not broken. It's about helping you understand yourself, so that you're not entirely dependent on everything around you staying the same.

I have availability for remote work via Zoom or the phone
📩Lisafoxtherapy@proton.me

What helps you feel more steady when things around you feel uncertain?

Stress doesn't always look like slowing down.Sometimes it looks like doing more.For neurodivergent people, especially fo...
09/04/2026

Stress doesn't always look like slowing down.

Sometimes it looks like doing more.

For neurodivergent people, especially for those of us with ADHD, burnout doesn't always show up as stopping or withdrawing. It can look like pushing harder, taking on more, staying busy, or trying to catch up with everything at once.

Part of this can be linked to interoception. The ability to notice and interpret signals from the body.

If those signals are harder to access, you might not realise you are tired, overwhelmed, or dysregulated until things feel intense or unmanageable.

So instead of responding early, the pattern can become pushing through, overriding, or missing the point where rest or support was needed.

This isn't a lack of awareness or effort. It's a different way of processing information.

Learning to recognise stress in a way that works for you might mean looking beyond obvious signs.

Noticing changes in focus, irritability or restlessness,
starting lots of things but struggling to finish or feeling wired but exhausted.

Understanding your own signals isn't about getting it right all the time. It's about building a relationship with your body that feels possible and accessible.

I have availability for remote work via Zoom or the phone
📩 Lisafoxtherapy@proton.me

What are the early signs for you that things are starting to feel too much?

April is stress awareness month.When it comes to stress, it's easy to turn inward and assume that you're the problem.To ...
08/04/2026

April is stress awareness month.

When it comes to stress, it's easy to turn inward and assume that you're the problem.

To think you're not coping well enough, not resilient enough, not doing enough.

But not every struggle is about capacity.

Sometimes it's about being in spaces that ask too much, give too little, or don't feel safe.

Changing your environment can be just as important as understanding yourself.

📩 Lisafoxtherapy@proton.me

Today's therapy room's remindful card really stayed with me.In attachment terms, so much of our early experience shapes ...
02/04/2026

Today's therapy room's remindful card really stayed with me.

In attachment terms, so much of our early experience shapes whether we feel safe in simply existing, or whether we feel we have to adapt, perform, or prove ourselves to be safe, accepted or loved.

If you've ever felt like you're too much, not enough, or unsure where you stand with people, that feeling didn't come from nowhere. It's your nervous system trying to find safety in the ways it learned how.

Your existence is valid.

Not something you have to earn through being easy, agreeable, or getting it right. Not something that disappears when connection feels uncertain.

Healing isn't about becoming someone different. It's about experiencing relationships where you can begin to feel settled, where your presence isn't questioned, and where you are met exactly as you are.

📩 Lisafoxtherapy@proton.me

What helps your nervous system feel safe enough to just be?

Today is Trans Day of Visibility.As a trans ally, this is something I care deeply about. Not just in principle, but in t...
31/03/2026

Today is Trans Day of Visibility.

As a trans ally, this is something I care deeply about. Not just in principle, but in the real, human sense of witnessing how trans people are treated, spoken about, and too often not met with the dignity they deserve.

Visibility on it's own is not enough. Being seen without being respected, protected, or understood can feel exposing rather than affirming.

Your existence is valid, even when the world struggles to recognise it.

There is nothing wrong with who you are. The difficulty is in a world that too often fails to make space, to listen, or to meet differences with care instead of judgement.

Being an ally is not a label. It's an ongoing commitment to listen, to learn, and to challenge harm where it shows up.

Real change isn't just about being visible. It's about being treated with humanity, safety, and respect.

📩 Lisafoxtherapy@proton.me

What does meaningful allyship look like to you

There have been a few new additions to my therapy room recently, ensuring it stays welcoming and cosy.Therapy with me do...
30/03/2026

There have been a few new additions to my therapy room recently, ensuring it stays welcoming and cosy.

Therapy with me doesn't have to look one way. It doesn't have to be sitting face to face, making eye contact, and talking non stop.

You're free to move.
You're free to fidget or stim.
You're free to take up space in a way that actually feels comfortable in your body.

And if talking feels too intense, we can start somewhere softer.
A jigsaw puzzle.
Quiet moments.
Side by side rather than face to face.

For some, safety isn't found in direct conversation straight away. Its built slowly, through feeling at ease, through not being forced into a mould that never quite fit.

Therapy with me can meet you where you are, not where you think you should be.

If you've ever felt out of place in traditional spaces, it's worth asking what kind of environment actually helps you feel more like yourself.

📩 Lisafoxtherapy@proton.me

What helps you feel most comfortable when you are opening up or being yourself?

I found this old photo on my phone from when my dog was a tiny puppy. She really struggled with being apart from me and ...
24/03/2026

I found this old photo on my phone from when my dog was a tiny puppy. She really struggled with being apart from me and would do everything she could to stay close.

I love how animals show their attachment so openly. The way they seek closeness, check back in, follow, settle, and look for reassurance. Because much like humans they are wired for connection.

Attachment isn't a weakness. It's a biological and emotional system that helps us feel safe enough to explore the world. When that system has been shaped by inconsistency or rupture, it can show up in ways that feel confusing or frustrating.

You might notice yourself pulling away when things start to matter, or feeling an intense need for reassurance, or questioning where you stand with people. These aren't random patterns, they're adaptations that made sense at some point.

Healing attachment isn't about becoming less sensitive or more independent. It's about building relationships where your nervous system can begin to settle. Where closeness doesn't feel like a threat, and distance doesn't feel like abandonment.

Even small moments of safety can begin to reshape things. A pause. A repair. A different response than the one you expected.

I currently have availability for remote sessions
📩Lisafoxtherapy@proton.me

What helps you feel safe and settled in connection with others?

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