Katie B Counselling

Katie B Counselling I am a fully trained, qualified and insured counsellor. Face to face counselling offered within Northamptonshire and Cambridgeshire.

On line or telephone counselling offered nationwide. You may be looking for a Counsellor because you have noticed you are feeling anxious, down or depressed. You may have experienced a bereavement which you are struggling to come to terms with or you are facing a dilemma in your personal life and you don't know where to turn. May be you are looking for someone to talk to and be heard without any judgement. If any of this sounds familiar I can help. Talking to someone and being heard can be a very powerful experience and this is something I provide for you. I work with individuals aged 13 years and over on a variety of issues. I am experienced of working with people who have suffered bereavement or a loss as well as with other problems that may be having an impact on your mental health. My aim is to give my clients the choice as to how we work together. I offer face to face, on line or telephone counselling to give you the choice that is best for you. The first step is to make contact with me and I will arrange a telephone appointment with you where you can explore with me the type of help I can provide.

The smallest gestures can mean such a lot to us all when we are having a difficult time. A phone call, message, small gi...
19/12/2025

The smallest gestures can mean such a lot to us all when we are having a difficult time. A phone call, message, small gift or a quick coffee could make the world of difference to someone who is finding this time of year rough.

Emotional support is not about fixing things or rescuing people it’s just about letting them know someone is there to listen who cares.

This Christmas if you know someone who might be a bit quieter than normal or is going through something tough be the space they don’t have to put a mask on.

Boundaries are not easy. They feel uncomfortable and awkward. We can feel more anxious or worried about how others will ...
17/12/2025

Boundaries are not easy. They feel uncomfortable and awkward. We can feel more anxious or worried about how others will take them. We might find people are awkward around our boundaries.

The magic of boundaries is amazing but it takes time and understanding of ourselves to do it. If it’s not working for you this Christmas don’t panic. You are not doing it wrong. We don’t need to add another critical view of ourselves. There’s usually more than enough there. Maybe 2026 we could look at how boundaries could help us for next year.

Sometimes it’s just about getting through it.

With clients at this time of year I often hear about them not wanting to do a social event because they are worried abou...
15/12/2025

With clients at this time of year I often hear about them not wanting to do a social event because they are worried about the questions they might be faced with because of their personal choices. I remember Christmas parties myself when choices around alcohol or food were really not respected.

I also get loads of questions from people asking how they can support people who are struggling with their mental health or anxiety/low mood etc. This is a really good place to start - hearing & taking a no at face value.

Saying no is a personal choice and there will always be a reason for it. If you don’t really know the person well enough to already know the reason it’s good to respect the answer they give and not pry any further.

If you are worried about someone because you have noticed a change in behaviour let them know you are there for them anytime they want to talk.

If you are struggling with anxiety just a quick reminder there is help available. Get in touch if you would like to know more.

Experiencing loneliness at anytime in life is really really tough. Whether it’s because you don’t have the people around...
12/12/2025

Experiencing loneliness at anytime in life is really really tough. Whether it’s because you don’t have the people around you to connect with or because the people you do have around you are not connecting with you - the feelings of loneliness can be overwhelming,frightening and very heavy.

Christmas is a time when those feelings can be heightened. We are surrounded by messages all the time telling us how connected to family and friends we should be. So it can make it doubly difficult to deal with.

This Christmas if you are finding it difficult remember there is always someone you can reach out to - Helplines such as Samaritans (116 123) will be available 24:7 this Christmas & they really want to talk.

Have a think about reaching out for some help. Things could look and feel so different at Christmas 2026.

This Christmas I am finishing work on Friday 19 December and having a two week break. It’s always a tricky one to choose...
10/12/2025

This Christmas I am finishing work on Friday 19 December and having a two week break. It’s always a tricky one to choose to do - we know we need the break but we are also very aware of how important sessions are to our lovely clients who may be finding this particular year difficult.

As someone in therapy you might feel very wobbly, overwhelmed or having very familiar feelings come over you.

Now is a really good time to make some plans about how you will cope during this period. The first step is to have a chat with your counsellor. Let them know your worries. They know you and can help you with some ideas of how to get through this.

Thinking about activities you can do and people you can reach out to is really important. Knowing you have something to rely on when things are feeling particularly hard.

This break can be an opportunity for self reflection (not critical talk) on how your journey is going. You might be able to notice small changes that reassure you things are improving.

Your sessions will be back to normal soon. Until then kindness to yourself is so important ❤️❤️❤️

We all enjoy lazy days but sometimes we use the word lazy to describe in a not so nice way. It comes up again and again ...
10/12/2025

We all enjoy lazy days but sometimes we use the word lazy to describe in a not so nice way.

It comes up again and again in the counselling room - the belief that not doing a thing must meat you are lazy. It takes me back to being at school and being told I was lazy - when actually I was very unhappy which was the reasons I wasn’t doing the work.

You hear is talk about our inner critic and this is a perfect example of if. We don’t recognise what is actually going on and instead keep telling ourselves we are lazy - until it suddenly becomes a character trait.

So next time you are describing yourself as lazy - have a think about what else might be going on.

December when you struggle with social anxiety can feel like a lot. It’s the month of socialising - office parties, drin...
09/12/2025

December when you struggle with social anxiety can feel like a lot. It’s the month of socialising - office parties, drinks with friends and family gatherings - it can feel like one party after another. Each one getting more and more difficult to attend as your social battery winds do

Every time I work with a client who has been bereaved I hear new things they have had to deal with as part of their grie...
08/12/2025

Every time I work with a client who has been bereaved I hear new things they have had to deal with as part of their grieving process.

There is no rule book on how to grieve for someone and the grieving process is unique. But there are some themes which impact all of us.

Have a read of my blog https://www.ktbcounselling.co.uk/the-things-people-dont-tell-you-about-grief/

Is there anything you would like to add about your experience with grief❓❓❓

This week I have spoken to a few people who have experienced or are going through grief. A common thing they have spoken...
06/12/2025

This week I have spoken to a few people who have experienced or are going through grief. A common thing they have spoken about is how some friends and family members have withdrawn from them since their bereavement. Some have even experienced people they know crossing the road to avoid them. I never used to believe this could happen but I saw it happen for my mum after my dad died.

Sometimes it can be hard to know what to say or do for someone who is grieving. But it really doesn’t have to be that complicated. Simple acts of compassion, care and thoughtfulness go a long way.

If you can think of other suggestions please do let me know below.

Grief can show up in so many different places in our lives. Often we can be having all those grief feelings but struggle...
05/12/2025

Grief can show up in so many different places in our lives.

Often we can be having all those grief feelings but struggle to recognise it because we have not had a bereavement. But loss can show up anywhere - from the death of someone we love to the loss of ideas, beliefs and versions of ourselves.

Recognising and validating those feelings is so important. It’s the first step to being able to start the healing process. So if you noticed that you are not yourself and that your feelings are all over the place - just have a think and see if there has been a significant change in your life.

04/12/2025

A bit of personal sharing about my own grief after the death of my parents. Sorry it is a bit long so thank you for sticking with it ❤️

Personally I was struck by the different experience I had after the death of my mum compared with when my dad died 5 years previously. I assumed that I would deal with it the same way - but I didn’t. The journey was different in so many ways. That’s why I am sharing my own experience because I know how much it helped me to know that everything I felt was normal - that I wasn’t doing it wrong.

Grief can be very a confusing time due to the conflicting emotions we have to deal with. I had sadness, pain, relief, guilt, anger (lots of anger) as well as some happiness and joy when talking about my parents after the loss with my family. Waves of emotions would come over me and they were out of my control.

There are so many places you can get support for your grief - charities, helplines, social media groups or counselling if you need something more than family or friend support. Asking for help is always a good thing. I spoke to my own counsellor and it really helped me understand and process the losses I had.

If you would like to know about any of the support that is out there - not just counselling please reach out and send me a message. You don’t have to do it on your own.

It’s questions I get asked a lot. What should my grief look like? How should I cope after a loss? Do you think I grieved...
03/12/2025

It’s questions I get asked a lot. What should my grief look like? How should I cope after a loss?
Do you think I grieved properly?

The simple answer to these questions are:
Your grief will be unique to you
There are practical ways to help you cope but until you are going through the bereavement it’s difficult to say how you should cope
Only you will know if you have grieved properly

Grief really doesn’t follow rules. There’s no correct way to do it. There are so many different factors that can impact the way we grieve - the support we have around us, how we process emotions normally, the relationship we had with the person who has died etc etc.

It’s hard because we might often compare our grief to people around us who are also grieving and we might worry if it looks different. We might also judge if their grief doesn’t look as difficult as yours. These comparison really won’t help you.

Grief is not linear - people will experience it differently and at different times. Your grief journey will be unique to you and usually there is not a wrong way to do it.

If you are worried about what your grief should look like please do drop me a message.


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