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Katie B Counselling

I am a fully trained, qualified and insured counsellor. Face to face counselling offered within Northamptonshire and Cambridgeshire.

On line or telephone counselling offered nationwide. You may be looking for a Counsellor because you have noticed you are feeling anxious, down or depressed. You may have experienced a bereavement which you are struggling to come to terms with or you are facing a dilemma in your personal life and you don't know where to turn. May be you are looking for someone to talk to and be heard without any j

udgement. If any of this sounds familiar I can help. Talking to someone and being heard can be a very powerful experience and this is something I provide for you. I work with individuals aged 13 years and over on a variety of issues. I am experienced of working with people who have suffered bereavement or a loss as well as with other problems that may be having an impact on your mental health. My aim is to give my clients the choice as to how we work together. I offer face to face, on line or telephone counselling to give you the choice that is best for you. The first step is to make contact with me and I will arrange a telephone appointment with you where you can explore with me the type of help I can provide.

24/07/2025

How often do you find yourself pushing down feelings and emotions because someone you know is having a ‘worse’ time than you.

How many times do you watch the news and think I have no right to feel bad when there is so much other stuff happening in the world?

May be your support system even says the same to you - making you feel shame for feeling it?

I bet most of the time this way of dealing with your feelings and emotions doesn’t work? Because let’s be honest it’s just a denial and shame making exercise.

Your feelings and emotions are here and it doesn’t matter what might have cause them - it might have been a small trigger or something huge. But they are there and they deserve to be heard with compassion and empathy. Plus that’s the only way we will soothe them.

So next time you are heading down that comparison path - take a pause and try the empathy road instead. You might find it a lot more helpful.

21/07/2025

Next one in the Therapy Is collection.

Setting boundaries to keep ourselves safe involves us believing that our needs are as important as everyone else’s.

This can be tricky to get our head around for so many reasons. We might not feel our worth is as high as anyone else’s. May be we have been bought up to believe we should do what others need us to do all the time.

So putting a boundary in place can feel very selfish.

Therapy enables us to discover all the different positives of having some boundaries in place. We can find our needs are just as important as everyone else’s.

17/07/2025

Anxiety and panic attacks - I have been there. They felt like the worst and honestly it felt like it was with me forever. I went to counselling initially to help me learn to live with it. I never dreamed it would be possible to be ‘cured’

But here I am 15 years later - normal levels of anxiety and barely a hint of a panic attack.

Counselling enabled me to do this. Talking therapy helps us taking us on our own journey to help with anxiety. Your journey may look different - what you need will be different. But anxiety doesn’t have to be a life long condition. Talking therapy can and does help - I know this because it worked for me and it works for my clients.

If you would like any information. Please do drop me a line

16/07/2025

Every day it can feel like people are judging us. Whether it’s for our life choices, reactions to life events or even how we look.

Those judgements can feel difficult and uncomfortable. We can start to doubt ourselves and how we view ourselves. We might start to worry about making choices and decisions for fear of what people will say. We can worry about what people think of us.

That’s why non judgement in the counselling room is so important. This is a space where you won’t be judged for being you. You will feel accepted no matter what.
Non judgement is one of the key factors for success of counselling.

14/07/2025

For many of us struggling with our mental health it can be because we have been let down by people in the past or present who we needed to be there for us. Parents, partners, family members or friends.

Understandably when someone we should be able to rely on lets us down it will impact on our ability to trust anyone. So we don’t allow trust in - walls are built around ourselves. We prevent stronger connections forming keeping it all at a level. We anticipate the worst of people - waiting for them to let us down. Because of that we end up without meaningful relationships in our lives which can be so lonely. We crave some strong connections but can’t rely on them to be secure or safe so it’s safer not to have them.

This can really screw with our mental health.

Part of the success of counselling is often due to the relationship that is built between the client and counsellor. It’s my job to show you that you can trust me. This is done through consistency, empathy, no. Judgement and being available. This can take as long as it takes.

Therapy is a place where we can to learn we can trust and heal from the previous times we have been let down. We learn trust doesn’t always have to be dangerous.

As a counsellor this is something I never take lightly. We can’t be another person who has let them down.

If you would like to know more please do get in touch.

11/07/2025

So I am back off my holidays feeling rested and motivated. Full of all the things I want to change and do better.

I am aware at its root there is a slightly critical voice giving me all the reasons these changes need to happen.

I know why it’s there - self reflection has helped me with that. It’s trying to look after me and make things better. But I also know that I always react better to empathy and compassion. Criticism just makes me that bit more stubborn to stay as I am.

If you are finding you are in the same place. Full of the changes you want to make - take a breath for a second and see whether it’s coming from a place of love or criticism. You might find changing the tone and words of your self talk may be really helpful.

Counselling can help us do that.

If you would like to know more please get in touch.

10/07/2025

It’s panic attack awareness day today.

Are you in the panic attack club? Ever experienced that moment when everything in your body and mind feels totally out of your control?

I am a fully paid up member. A club I never wanted to be in. The first time I had an extreme attack my husband had to take me to A&E as I truly believed I was having a heart attack. That was in the days when they didn’t even check you out properly and I was sent away with diazepam. For about 5 years I was convinced I had an underlying heart problem which made my anxiety worse and bought on more panic attacks. Yay….

Eventually I had counselling and over time they went and now I am beginning to forget what they feel like. I have a tool box I can refer to if my anxiety get higher but I also know if it is higher it’s because there are things I need to be attending to. Counselling gave me this.

It’s the saddest thing in the world for me when I hear someone tell me they believe anxiety is going to always be a part of their life. It really doesn’t have to be.

So if you are struggling with this please reach out. There are things that can help you.

07/07/2025

Being strong - what does that look like and mean to you?

For so many it’s about dealing with all the crap you get chucked at you, juggling all the different tasks, hiding vulnerability and making sure we can prove to everyone we can do it on our own.

What if I told you there was a different way to be strong?

Allowing people to see our vulnerability and using others for emotional support. Being able to say no and put in place boundaries to help protect ourselves. All of those are what I can strong.

The counselling room is exactly the place to challenge those beliefs of what being strong looks like.

Drop us a mail if you would like to challenge your version of being strong.

04/07/2025

Loneliness is such a difficult emotion to sit with and often something that feels impossible to fix. All we want is a connection with someone and it seems to be the one thing we can’t get.

If we have felt lonely in the past we might be doing everything we can to avoid it now. May be holding on to relationships that don’t work for us.

There are different types of loneliness and it can be really helpful to work out what sort of loneliness you might be experiencing. Depending on the type will depend on how it’s impacting you.

Counselling is a great place to talk about it. Whether by looking at the connections we are trying to make with others that aren’t working, or talking about how we feel about ourselves and why there may not be connections. We might look at how we can form connections in the future or consider our fears for the future.

Loneliness doesn’t have to be a permanent feature in our lives.

Please do get in touch for more information

30/06/2025

When working with clients I feel so immensely sad when they apologise to me for something about themselves. For crying, swearing, needing too much or other personality traits they have been picked up on before.

The counselling/therapy room is somewhere that only ever wants you to be you.

You will never to be too much or not enough of anything.

Therapy/counselling gives you space to be fully accepted.

How nice would that feel in your life right now?

28/06/2025

We all know that struggling with a mental or physical illness is really tough for the person going through it. But I also just want to shout out to anyone who is currently supporting/caring for someone through a mental or physical illness.

It can be really isolating, tiring, frustrating and sad. So it means you’re mental wellbeing is also being impacted.

If you are struggling please think about reaching out for some help and support. You don’t have to do it on your own.

Counselling could help by giving you a space to talk about what’s happening for you and also to generally have some time for you.

Please do get in touch for more information.

26/06/2025

How many times do we say ‘I wish they could just…’ about someone?

How many times do we try and show someone how much better or different it could be if they just did it differently?

How many times do we hope one day they will just get it and meet the needs and expectations we have of them?

Questions that come up a lot in the counselling room. We all spend time trying to change people and make them the version we want them to be. It’s a really disappointing thing when we find out we can’t change others no matter how hard we try or how much we wish it.

There is good news though. We are not completely powerless.

The thing we can do is change our own behaviour. This could be changing the things we say, putting in place boundaries, opening up about our own vulnerabilities, changing routines - so many different things.

And then actually when we make changes - it brings change to the whole situation.

We are having different conversations with that person or they are reacting to the boundaries we put in place.

So change can happen but it has to come from us. It may not be the change we think we want though

Let me know your thoughts below.

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