13/12/2025
It may seem pretty obvious, but.... we're not all the same!
This post was motivated by the people in the yellow segment. I've now had quite a lot of conversations with people who were moderately distressed by their BFRBs, but the next time I see them they tell me they feel a lot better. Because of the stigma around BFRBs, people often have a history of negative interactions and/or have developed negative self-talk. A single good conversation can make a massive difference.
The majority of pickers, pullers and biters are not significantly distressed. These people do not have a problem, and do not need to be 'pathologised' for their perfectly normal behaviour. However, it's important to point out that this group can sometimes be dismissive to those who are distressed - e.g. 'it doesn't bother me so it shouldn't bother you'. By all means celebrate your freedom from distress, but please don't use it to belittle the very real experience of others.
Those in the orange segment have significant unmet needs, and are the focus of the research, education and advocacy work from me and many others. The orange folk are also not all the same, so we will need a portfolio of ways to offer tailored support. We're on it!