Simply You Therapy - Supporting your well-being

14/01/2026

⭐️ That line lands with the kind of quiet truth that we often spend years circling around. It’s deceptively simple, but it cuts right to the heart of emotional regulation: we can’t soothe what we won’t let ourselves touch.

⭐️ What I am pointing to is the difference between control and capacity.

• Control says: push it down, override it, stay functional.

• Capacity says: let it be here, stay with it, understand its shape, then respond.

⭐️ And capacity only grows through contact.

⭐️ When we let an emotion be felt — even briefly, even shakily — we are giving our nervous system the raw material it needs to learn:

• Oh, this sensation won’t destroy me.
• This wave rises and falls.
• I can breathe with this.
• I can choose what to do next.

⭐️ Avoidance freezes the emotion in place. Allowing it gives it movement.

⭐️ It’s also such a compassionate stance. It doesn’t demand perfection or bravery; it just asks for presence. A few seconds of honesty with ourselves. A tiny pause where we stop fighting and start noticing.

13/01/2026

⭐️ When your anxiety is running high, your system is basically shouting, “I don’t feel safe.”

⭐️ The goal isn’t to argue with it — it’s to give your body enough signals of safety that it can settle again.

⭐️ Here are some grounded, practical things you can use right in the moment, especially on a morning like this when guilt and worry have already been swirling.

12/01/2026

⭐️ Healthy mental reminders are the kind that gently pull you back to centre without shaming, rushing, or overwhelming you. They work best when they’re simple, compassionate, and repeatable—almost like little anchors you can return to throughout the day.

11/01/2026

⭐️ Real luxuries tend to be the things we only notice once we’ve lost them—or once we’ve finally slowed down enough to feel them. They’re rarely the shiny, expensive ones. They’re the ones that make your nervous system exhale.

⭐️ A few that feel especially true:

🌿 Time that isn’t rushed - Being able to move at our own pace. Waking up without an alarm. Having a morning where nothing demands us.

🧠 A quiet mind - Not the absence of thoughts, but the absence of pressure. Moments where our brain isn’t bracing for the next thing.

💬 Conversations where we don’t have to perform - Being fully ourselves with someone—no mask, no managing, no shrinking. Just ease.

🛏️ Deep, uninterrupted sleep - The kind that resets us. The kind we don’t realise is a luxury until life gets loud.

🫶 Being cared for without having to earn it - Support that doesn’t come with conditions. Someone making us tea because they noticed we needed it.

🌤️ Emotional space - Not having to hold everything together. Being allowed to have a bad day without apologising for it.

🌱 Choosing yourself - Setting a boundary and not feeling guilty. Saying no and feeling the relief instead of the fear.

🔥 Feeling safe in your own body - Warmth, comfort, grounding. A moment where we are not fighting ourselves.

🌙 A life that feels like ours - Not the one we were expected to live. The one we are slowly, quietly building.

09/01/2026

⭐️ Coming back to clients after they’ve been submerged in family dynamics for a week or two is a whole season in itself. Holidays have a way of stirring the pot — old roles, unspoken expectations, grief, joy, regression, overstimulation — and then clients walk back into the room carrying all of it in a tangled heap. Clients may be tired, foggy, or emotionally raw and I use the first session back as a reset.

08/01/2026

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⭐️ Here’s a set of New Year’s reminders crafted in the gentle, grounding style, the kind that feels like a warm hand on your shoulder.

⭐️ You don’t have to reinvent yourself in January. You’re allowed to simply continue.

⭐️ Small rituals count. Lighting a candle, opening a window, changing your bedsheets — these are resets too.

⭐️ Rest is not procrastination. It’s preparation.

⭐️ You’re allowed to leave some things in last year’s inbox. Not everything needs closure to be over.

⭐️ Choose the gentlest possible next step. Not the perfect one.

⭐️ Your boundaries are allowed to be firmer this year. Even if that surprises people.

⭐️ You can change your mind mid‑year, mid‑month, mid‑day. You’re not locked into anything.

⭐️ Joy is a valid priority. Even tiny, silly joy.

⭐️ You don’t have to earn softness. You’re allowed to have it because you exist.

⭐️ You’re not behind. You’re on your own timeline, and it’s not a race.

06/01/2026

⭐️ January has such a particular texture, doesn’t it — a bit grey, a bit wobbly, a bit “who signed me up for this”. You’re not alone in feeling like it needs its own survival manual. January is not the month for reinvention. It’s the month for maintenance mode. Think: “keep myself alive and vaguely moisturised.” Remember this January it's OK to ask for help, embrace slow mornings, celebrate small wins, rest without guilt, explore something new, set boundaries and prioritise ourselves.

05/01/2026

⭐️ Post-Christmas social jetlag is real and so intense and honestly, it hits harder after Christmas and New Year than at any other time of year. What our body feels is not laziness or lack of discipline but is trying to recover from a festive tornado.

⭐️ During December our rhythm usually gets pulled in every direction: later nights, heavier food, alcohol or sugar spikes, less daylight, social plans that override our natural pace, emotional load (family, memories, grief, expectations), a sudden drop-off in routine between Christmas and New Year. Then January arrives and life expects us to snap back into structure — but our circadian rhythm is still wandering around in fairy lights and leftover Quality Street.

⭐️ Be patient with yourself. Post-holiday social jetlag isn't just physical. It’s the emotional comedown after weeks of intensity, memories, and disrupted boundaries. Our system is recalibrating.

04/01/2026

⭐️ Self-care is important because it helps us maintain balance, prevent burnout, and strengthen our ability to cope with life’s challenges. By looking after our physical, emotional, and mental wellbeing, we are better equipped to support ourselves and others. In short, self-care is not selfish — it’s essential maintenance. It’s the foundation that allows us to thrive, stay resilient, and bring warmth to others without losing ourselves in the process.

03/01/2026

We all can help a bit ❄️🦔

❄️ As the temperatures drop to freezing, please think about our wildlife ❄️ Winter can be one of the hardest times of year for wild animals, but a few small actions can make a big difference:

🦔 Look before you tidy
Hedgehogs and other animals may be sheltering under leaves, log piles or sheds. Please check carefully before clearing or lighting bonfires.

💦Put out fresh water
Ponds and puddles can freeze. A shallow bowl of fresh water, checked daily, can be a real lifeline.

🍽️Offer the right food
Birds, hedgehogs and other wildlife need extra energy in cold weather. Remember – never give milk to hedgehogs.

🏠 🍂Provide shelter
Leave leaf piles, add a hedgehog house, or create a quiet, sheltered corner in your garden.

🚙 Slow down on icy roads
Wild animals move more slowly in freezing conditions, especially at dawn and dusk.

👀If you find an injured or struggling wild animal, please contact your local wildlife rescue for advice 💚
Thank you for helping protect wildlife during this cold spell ❄️🦊🦉

02/01/2026

⭐️ Sliding back into “work mode” after the holidays is a whole emotional event, isn’t it? Our brain is still half‑made of mince pies, our body is 70% fairy lights, and our soul is somewhere under a blanket watching 'The Holiday'. So let’s make the transition gentle, grounded and full of self care.

⭐️ Start small, no big plans or expectations. It's hard to return with the same energy and pace we were before Christmas and that's okay. The world is at a different pace in January.

⭐️ Be kind to yourself during this transition. Acknowledge that it's normal to feel a bit disoriented, and approach your work with curiosity and compassion. Your attitude can be the most powerful tool in reigniting your professional passion and setting a positive tone for the year ahead.

01/01/2026

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⭐️ New Year Mental Health Manifesto ⭐️

💜 A gentle guide for caring for ourselves in the year ahead 💜

1. I will treat my mind and body with kindness - I deserve care, rest, and moments of calm. I don’t have to earn them.

2. I will pause before reacting when things feel overwhelming - A breath, a moment, or a small step back can help me respond in ways that feel right for me.

3. I will speak to myself with the same compassion I offer others - I’m learning to be on my own side.

4. I will use grounding tools when my emotions feel big - A sip of water, a stretch, a slow exhale — small things can help me feel steadier.

5. I will remember that other people’s feelings are not my responsibility - I can care without carrying everything.

6. I will set boundaries that support my wellbeing - Saying “no” or “not right now” is an act of self‑respect, not selfishness.

7. I will allow myself to have difficult days without judging myself - Bad days don’t mean I’m failing. They mean I’m human.

8. I will notice my patterns with curiosity, not shame - Understanding myself helps me grow. I don’t need to be perfect.

9. I will celebrate the small steps I take - Every effort counts — even the quiet, invisible ones.

10. I will build a life that feels safe, steady, and true to me - More gentleness. More grounding. More moments that help me feel okay inside.