20/03/2026
Sunday is my birthday, and my Papa isn’t here to call me…
He used to be more excited about birthdays than anyone.
No matter where he was, India, Kenya, anywhere, he would make sure to ring me at midnight. I could count on it.
When he first passed, birthdays felt impossible. The days leading up to it, I’d feel this dread.
Knowing the call wouldn’t come, and another year was passing without him with us.
I’d think about him and it would just hurt.
But over the years, it’s changed…
The way I experience my birthday now is so different. I still think of him. I feel that tug of tears of love and miss hearing his midnight call.
But it doesn’t show up as only sadness anymore.
It shows up as gratitude, pride, and this deep, knowing that he would be so incredibly proud of who I’ve become and the work I’m doing.
His loss gave me purpose. It led me here.
To train in Rapid Transformational Therapy and grief support.
To help you in your grief journey when you feel guilty, exhausted, and invisible in your grief.
To turn my pain into something that serves others.
And when I look back at everything I’ve been through..the grief, the struggle, rebuilding my life as a single mother, finding my way through the hardest moments - I don’t just feel sad.
I feel thankful. Thankful to him for the values he gave me. Thankful to God for guiding me. Thankful for this life I get to live, even though he’s not physically here to witness it. I know he’s with me at a deeper level, and I believe that with all my soul.
When you integrate grief, when you give your love somewhere to go, these days stop being only painful.
There are days when you can hold both. The missing and the gratitude. The tears and the smiles. The love that’s still here and the person who’s gone.
This is the work I do with my clients. Helping them move from birthdays and anniversaries that feel heavy with dread, to days where they can actually feel proud of how far they’ve come.
Where they can cry and celebrate.
Where they can honour their loved one by living a life that makes them proud.
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