Self Worth & Women Support Group

28/09/2021

What is it that makes you tell yourself that?

What stops you from thinking you are good enough. You deserve what you want. You will be able to achieve what ever you want if you put your mind to it…

Do you know why we normally think this of ourselves? Is normally due down to your own personal mindset and your own self worth…

Would you ever say to your best friend that they weren’t good enough? No of course you wouldn’t but then we say it to ourself…. Why?? it’s down to our own self worth! We believe we are not worthy, we talk to our selves like rubbish and expect us to keep moving forward… but do we move forward the way we truly want?!

Our mindset is closed off and we don’t believe we can do what we want to do… opening up what we think and finding out what holds us back can be life changing and this is something I can support you with. If you would like to know more message me.

Or book in your own free 30minute call to talk about ways we can move forward.

25/07/2021

Your past can sometimes be something you look at and think why did I do that? Why did I let that happen? I shouldn’t have done that?!

But the truth of the matter is that we can’t change what has happened.. we can’t change the past but we can change the future..

When we are looking back at what we have done and we dislike what happened, we need to take a moment to learn and realised that we need to change our future so that it doesn’t happen again…

There’s no point in beating ourselves up for something we can not change but we can make sure we change what we do have control off..

23/07/2021

Self worth…

Self worth has such a massive part in our life and journey… for a very long time I didn’t believe I was worth anything, I didn’t think I was good enough, my needs weren’t as important as my partners. I was such a smaller person than I am today… but I didn’t always believe these things they came from being a an abusive relationship where I was grounded down week by week, month by month until I was no longer myself and he could get away with whatever he wanted… today there are still moment where I find myself stepping back into my old foot steps by habit but these are less and less each time. I now know I am good enough! I am worth so much more than I ever thought and I now put my needs first! I will not people please any longer unless it’s something I want to do..

If you are ready to take on your healing process from your domestic relationship, message me and we can jump on a free 30 minute call to discuss how we could move forward working together.

22/07/2021

Trauma? Highly emotional event? Domestic abuse? Relationship breakdown? A range of bad situations?

A trauma is a emotional response to a situation or situations that’s have a negative impact in your life and your emotions. They come under two sections Big T and Little T trauma..

Big “T” traumas are the events most commonly associated with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) including serious injury, sexual violence, or life-threatening experiences. Threats of serious physical injury, death, or sexual violence can cause intense trauma even if the person is never physically harmed. Witnesses to big “T” events or people living and working in close proximity to trauma survivors are also vulnerable to PTSD, especially those who encounter emotional shock on a regular basis like paramedics, therapists, and police officers.

Little “t” traumas are highly distressing events that affect individuals on a personal level but don’t fall into the big “T” category. Examples of little “t” trauma include non-life-threatening injuries, emotional abuse, death of a pet, bullying or harassment, and loss of significant relationships. People have unique capacities to handle stress, referred to as resilience, which impacts their ability to cope with trauma. What is highly distressing to one person may not cause the same emotional response in someone else, so the key to understanding little “t” trauma is to examine how it affects the individual rather than focusing on the event itself.

So what I want to say to you today, is what you went through was your own situation. Only you know how it effected you, only you know what you went though and no one can tell you of it was as bad, worse or not as bad as other peoples situations.

17/07/2021

When we have partners, parents, friends in our lives that we really want to cheer us on and support us… but then one might say something that completely pulls you back down. They might not even realise that they do it. It can be a simple Sentence or someone does it on purpose and to everything you try and do.

The thing is that one sentence can bring down, that one sentence can put you in the position that you feel you can’t do anything, it can make you feel like your in the wrong for wanting to try? It can make you feel like your silly for wanting to do something..

This lack of support over time can wear you down so much… that you might get to a point that you don’t bother trying any more as you might believe your not good enough anymore..

But you are!! You are good enough! If you want to do it, go for it! You can do anything you want and you don’t need someone else’s approval to do it!

16/07/2021

The storm is almost over…

13/07/2021

Flashbacks are a part of life!

When you’ve been through traumatic experiences in your life that may be a car crash, a break up, domestic abuse, traumatic birth, losing someone close to you, it can bring along regular flashbacks.

this is when your brain, your mind goes back to that point in time where you can remember the emotions, you can remember what happened, you can quite often feel the emotions and the upset and the pain from that situation like it was happening again.

When this happens it can sometimes feel like you are completely re-living you’re traumatic experience. It can be heartbreaking. It can be confusing. It can be emotional. It can be sole destroying.

But, when you have learnt to heal from these past traumas, something changes with these flashbacks.

The reason why I know this is because I myself I have healed from previous traumatic events, but now when I have my flashbacks they are just like a story, I don’t relive it, I can’t feel all the pain and emotion that was involved, I don’t feel like it’s happening right now.

And then every so often there may be A situation that triggers some of these emotions from your traumatic events of your life and this can bring back some of those feelings and emotions from them but, because you have already healed from them previously you know the techniques and how to help yourself heal again there and then to avoid it continuing for days, weeks, months, years.

This is why I do what I do. This is why I am here today to help these women who have been through these traumatic events in their lives to help them heal to help them move forward to help them rebuild them selves to help them live the best life they want because it was not their fault that they went through these situations. It was not their fault that this happened, they should not have to deal with the outcome from these situations. They should not have to live like this anymore.

12/07/2021

Safe space….

07/07/2021

07/07/2021

Have you ever felt it? 💕

There are many things in our life that we hold on to and these thing can often make us feel so low, hurt us over and over, dig deep in us, Crowd our judgment and so much more…

But the truth of the matter is you can release these. It’s not easy and it’s not always pain free to release but once it is released then that feeling is intense!!

The steps I have used for this:
- Take some time to understand what it’s all truly about.
- Understand how it’s truly effecting me. What parts of my body I can feel it in, what does it stop me from doing? Do I beat myself up for it?
- Allow myself to truly feel every emotion and pain through my body to the level I can deal with.
- Once I have experienced it to the level I can cope with give the pain away. Now this might be to God/Universe who ever you feel it should go to. Say to yourself I accept these feelings, they are okay to feel but now I hand them over to you.
- Visualise this memory/moment/pain floating away to them, or being taken away.
- When your ready say thank you and then just lay/sit in silence and re start to feel the happy/calm/not hurt body.

If you give this a go let me know I would love to know how you found it.

04/07/2021

Who else has felt like this before…

There where many times in my life when I knew I wanted or need to talk to someone….

I might had called someone and then changed my mind and ended the call, or made something else up for why I called..

I might have written out a while message to someone to only delete it…

I might had picked up my phone but just didn’t know who to reach out too..

It wasn’t the fact that I didn’t have people to talk to it would have been down to a few different things… I didn’t think it was serious enough to talk about, I was worried people would just think I was moaning, I would worry people would be board of what I had to say, I didn’t want to pull anyone else down, I honestly didn’t Even know what to say even though I knew I wanted or needed to talk..

There where many reasons I didn’t reach out…

that’s why I wanted to to be some a coach that created that safe space where you had someone that would listen, would leave the space to say what you wanted , to just be there. To know that when those hard moments come that you wouldn’t be alone. To not feel like you where putting it all on your closest friends and family. But also know that the person you are talking to understands, can empathise with how your feeling.

A safe space to talk is one of the most important things you can have after being through domestic violence or other traumatic events in your life.

I work really closely with my clients to ensure we are the right match before we start our sessions as if the trust, right feeling or comfort isn’t matching then I don’t feel it’s right to work together as I feel you wouldn’t get the most out of working together.

Let me know if any of these resonate with you?