Holden Therapy

28/01/2026

Anxiety often speaks through two small words that carry a lot of weight: what if?
What if something goes wrong, what if I cannot cope, what if this feeling never stops.

Over time, this question pulls the mind into imagined futures and away from the safety of the present moment, keeping the body on constant alert. Therapy helps you notice the what ifs?... without being carried by it, understand why it appears, and gently bring your attention back to what is happening now, where choice, calm, and grounding are possible again.

23/01/2026

Root cause therapy focuses on the emotional and identity imprints formed early in life that continue to drive adult patterns beneath conscious awareness.

Using eye movement therapies alongside a psychodynamic lens allows us to work directly with the nervous system and identity states shaped by early relationships, without requiring detailed reliving of the past.

By processing the felt states linked to attachment, shame, and self-protection, patterns such as avoidance, self-sabotage, or fear of intimacy can loosen naturally, creating change that feels embodied, lasting, and experienced in real relationships rather than understood only at an intellectual level.

18/01/2026

Trauma can shape how we think, feel, and move through the world — often long after the event has passed. With the right therapeutic approach, it becomes possible to feel safer, more grounded, and more connected to yourself again.

Different models of therapy offer different kinds of support. When therapy is tailored to you, it can gently help make sense of what your body and mind have been holding, at a pace that feels right.

If you are curious about therapy or wondering whether support could help you move forward, this could be a meaningful first step. You deserve support that truly meets you where you are.

13/01/2026

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Coercive control can be subtle and confusing. Learn from psychotherapist Nadine Langford how it affects your confidence, autonomy, and well-being — and how therapy can help. 💬 http://ow.ly/4s2S106sYsz

12/01/2026

Therapy is more than venting; it’s a shared focus.

When we shift our attention from the problem to the process, we stop feeding the stuckness and start fueling the breakthrough.
​Stop analysing the fire. Start paying attention to the spark.

When we stop feeding the symptoms and start healing the source, real change finally takes root.

09/01/2026

09/01/2026

Depression isn't just a mood; it’s a filter that changes how you see yourself and your future.

​The "Not Enough" Loop:

Your inner critic gets louder. You feel like you’re failing at things that used to be easy, leading to a cycle of guilt and frustration.

​The Invisible Wall: You want to be productive or social, but there’s a mental barrier between your intentions and your actions.

​The Emotional Mute Button: Instead of feeling "sad," you might feel nothing at all. The world loses its color, and your favorite things feel "flat."

​The Future Blur:

It becomes hard to imagine things getting better. The mindset shifts from "growing" to simply "surviving" the next hour.

​The Connection Gap:

You feel lonely, yet you push people away. The mind tells you that you’re a burden, so you retreat into silence to "protect" others.

​The Bottom Line:

This mindset is a survival mechanism, not a personality trait. It’s a sign that your mind is overwhelmed and needs gentle support to find its way back.

09/01/2026

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Registered Member MBACP offering support in rochdale-ol11 for Abuse, Addictions, Anger management, Anxiety, Bereavement, Coercive control, Depression, Identity issues, Life coaching, Loss, Menopause, Mood disorder, Narcissism, Neurodiversity, Obsessions, OCD, Phobias, Post-traumatic stress, Relation...

04/01/2026

As we kick off 2026, the pressure to "transform" is everywhere. We often obsess over gym memberships and meal prep, but the most critical foundation for any New Year’s resolution isn't your body—it’s your mind.

You can have the perfect workout plan, but if you are battling burnout, chronic stress, or low self-esteem, that plan will likely fall apart by February. Mental health is the "operating system" for your life. When the software is glitching, the hardware (your body) can't perform.

The Hierarchy of Wellbeing

* The Power of Persistence: Consistency is driven by mindset. Mental resilience is what helps you get back up when you miss a day or hit a plateau.

* Perception of Progress: Without a healthy mental state, you may achieve your physical goals but still feel "not good enough." Mental health allows you to actually enjoy your success.

* Biological Impact: High stress and poor sleep (mental health factors) trigger cortisol, which can physically sabotage weight loss and muscle gain regardless of how hard you train.

This year, don't just schedule your workouts—schedule your rest, your therapy, your boundaries, and your joy. A healthy mind doesn't just support your goals; it makes them worth achieving.

01/01/2026

Without endings, there would be no beginnings ....

01/01/2026

As the New Year Begins, remember....

22/12/2025

Merry Christmas 🎅 🎄 to Past and Present clients! 🎁

​As we approach the end of 2025, I wanted to take a moment to send you all, my warmest holiday wishes.

​The holiday season can often feel like a whirlwind, and it is easy to get lost in the expectations of others. My hope for you this Christmas is that you hold onto yourself! ❤️

Remember the boundaries you’ve built, the values you’ve clarified, and the person you are becoming. ✨️

​Wishing you a peaceful and grounded end to the year.