14/01/2026
Repeating questions or stories in dementia
Repeating questions or telling the same story over and over is one of the most common and emotionally challenging communication changes seen in dementia. While it can be tiring for caregivers, for the person living with dementia it is usually not intentional and not within their control.
Repetition happens because of short-term memory impairment.
In dementia, the brain struggles to retain new information, even for a few seconds or minutes. As a result, the person may ask a question, receive an answer, and then forget both the question and the response
The emotional need behind the question (reassurance, safety, certainty) remains unmet. Familiar stories from long-term memory may feel new to them each time they are told
It could also be driven by anxiety, confusion, loneliness, or a need for reassurance, not just memory loss.
How It Manifests in Daily Life:
Asking the same question repeatedly (“What time are we leaving?” “Where is my bag?” “Have I eaten?”)
Repeating the same story or memory within a short time frame
Re-checking information that has already been explained
Seeking constant confirmation or reassurance.
To caregivers, it may feel as though the person is not listening. In reality, the information is simply not being stored.
Behind repetitive questioning there is often anxiety or fear about what will happen next, insecurity about their environment or routines, a desire for connection or attention, frustration they may not be able to express clearly.
How Caregivers Can Respond Supportively
Correcting, dismissing, or showing irritation can increase distress and worsen the behavior.
Effective responses focus on emotional reassurance rather than factual correction:
Answer calmly and consistently, even if it is the tenth time
Respond to the emotion, not just the question (“You’re safe. I’m here with you.”)
Redirect gently to another activity after answering
Avoid saying “I already told you” Or pointing out repetition.
Maintain a steady tone and body language, as emotions are often retained longer than words
If the repeated question signals anxiety, reassurance may be more effective than explanation.