Neurodivergent Nook from Helen Neale, Therapist

21/04/2026

You don’t have to be perfect to be loved or loving…

21/04/2026

Another gentle reminder. We are not the problem. The problem is how we are sometimes understood, supported, and accepted. 🤗

20/04/2026

Satire is amazing - and when it is this SPOT ON - it might even change things...! *eventually*

We all need to stop with the judgement around support needs, and the preconceptions generally around invisible disabilities.

It is this that makes it so hard for some neurodivergent, ADHD, autistic, and those with mental health challenges as well, to ask for accommodations because of the Jugdey McJudge faces that decide that because we don't "look" like we need help, we:
(a) must be making it up
(b) must be exaggerating and
(c) aren't "that bad" after all.

There is no acknowedgement of fluctuating capacity, no understanding of individual needs and supports, and a whole heap of bias.

As a society, our school report would say "could do better."

A non-autistic woman has wowed experts with her uncanny ability to decipher exactly how disabled you are based solely on your online presence.

Karen Hoyland, 48, only has to glance at your profile image and a handful of posts in order to declare you “very high functioning”, despite never having met or spoken to you in her life.

Hoyland explained: “It’s a natural gift. For example, this woman claims to have autism, despite posting a picture of herself walking in the woods. WALKING. How bad can her autism be?”

“She also writes in complete sentences,” Hoyland continued. “And there’s a bathroom selfie that doesn’t appear to have anyone else in it – so we know she’s wiping her own arse.”

“She seems absolutely fine to me,” Hoyland concluded. “I mean, I wouldn’t date her. Or hire her. Or be nice to her. But otherwise she looks completely normal.”

You could not be reached for a response as your housemate had dropped some plates in the sink, triggering a day-long migraine.

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20/04/2026

It all makes sense when you understand RSD.

19/04/2026

Me when I’m interrupted by my cats:
“Oh what do u want - so lovely to see you. I’ll just stop and pet you for a while.”

Me when interrupted by humans
“What are you doing? Can’t you see I’m busy. Sod off.”

19/04/2026

Neurodivergent and neurodiversity might not mean what you think:
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38470140/

19/04/2026

5 tips to help support Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria *and a cheeky podcast*

The biggest one is self compassion.

It is hard to learn to be kind to ourselves, and that is the greatest lesson any of us can learn.

Take a step back, and listen to how you talk to yourself - would you talk like that to anyone else?



https://neurodivergent-nook.com/autism/navigating-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-practical-tips-for-understanding-your-rsd/

18/04/2026

What we hear with RSD vs what’s actually been said..

18/04/2026

What is Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria including tips to help and support yourself

From a therapist and a SENCO / former Headteacher

Check out the link to watch in comments 👇👇

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18/04/2026

**Anyone else do this kind of thing?**

I took some bags to charity this afternoon. A run of the mill thing.

I needed to swap the items into the bags that the charity shop had, so I transferred the stuff from my bags to theirs one at a time.

And realised that I distractedly put stuff from one of MY bags into another of MY bags instead of the charity shop bags I have been given.

Oops.

Gave the cashier a laugh though.

And such an ADHD thing to do, it made me smile.

Anyone else?

P.S. Notice I said it made me smile. It didn't make me think I was an idiot - it is so helpful to forgive ourselves these moments as they happen, and that is 100% fine 💕.

16/04/2026

**What I am supposed to do?**

I have been thinking about this question alot, and it is a phrase that seems to resonate so much with me in my life.

It feels like a constant thought within my head:
- What is expected of me?
- Am I doing it right?
- What is my role?
- What does society want?

It is b;**dy hard to shift the narrative from what is expected of me to what I actually WANT to do, or even NEED to do?

For me.

It is literally everything that I come into contact with and it can all be reframed to “what am I supposed to do here?”
- How does this person want me to reply?
- How does society expect me to behave when I am feeling sad?
- As a mother, what do I do here?
- As a wife, what should I be saying here?

And so on and so on – asking myself all the time: who am I supposed to be here?

What is acceptable in THIS situation so I am palatable, so I am liked, so I conform to expectations.

And what I am trying to flip to is:
- What is it that I need?
- What do I want?
- Where are MY boundaries so that I can support myself as well as those I love and care about?

And that is a very difficult thing to learn.

And it is OK if it takes time.

I wonder if this rings true for anyone else out there?

16/04/2026

**In what world are we that parents feel that the ONLY way to support their children is to do this?**

We are failing people.

We are failing our autistic children, that grow into adults that don't have the support they need.

We are failing the parents that are run ragged trying to get the support and care that their children need.

We have to do better.

117 authorities are not fulfilling their legal obligations to children. Where else in society would we allow this to happen?

The way for parents to help is NOT to unalive themselves so the system is able to support their kids.

This is utterly heartbreaking.