Nicola Martin-Davis

12/02/2026

Today, I helped a broken father say goodbye to a son who couldn’t find a way to stay on earth. He wanted a service of faith, dignity, non judgement and understanding.

This afternoon, I met a woman (close to leaving the world due to illness) to discuss her own funeral. She wanted to make sure the person officiating had an appropriate professional background and could speak ‘properly’. (Her words).

Both situations heaved a different kind of human need and personal tragedy. Both situations needed someone who had appropriate knowledge, experience and understanding.

My work cannot and should not ever be viewed as a ‘business’. I suspect I won’t be working when the penny drops.

Bereaved individuals and families deserve the walk and not the talk.

12/02/2026

A.I. generated words, written or spoken, should not be anywhere near bereaved people at any stage of their grief journey.

12/02/2026

For anyone whose sweetheart is in heaven and so dreading February the 14th. ♥️💙

11/02/2026

What a pleasure to see Pete Dewe of Dewe Gardens whilst getting a drop of fuel.

And we even had a little joy dance between pumps 3 and 5.

I was only helping him say goodbye to his dad this time last week.

My work is not what I do, it’s who I am. ♥️ It’s all about human connection, respect and a massive love for decent people.

11/02/2026

♥️

10/02/2026

A little update!

I could go 6 rounds with Mike Tyson.

Thanks for all your concern - it’s been a tricky time xx

05/02/2026

Hi guys. I won’t be on FB for a few days as I’m fighting quite a nasty jaw infection. This will be the 8th week of me not being 100% well and I know I need to process that one. Next week is a busier week than even the one gone and I will never, ever let my families down, so I’m going to completely rest. I’m on my second course of antibiotics. I’m sure they’ll do the trick.

I hope and pray you’re all doing as well as you can.

04/02/2026

03/02/2026

Male grief needs to be seen.

There are two distinct differences between male and female grief.

The first is societal norms.
The second is gender roles.
That’s it.

I have challenged stereotypes both noisily and subtly all of my life because individuality has always mattered to me. Yours, mine, ours, theirs.

Male grief exists.
Male grief needs to come out of the shadows cast by societal expectations.
Male grief needs to be seen.

Fathers, brothers, husbands, sons, male friends grieve and it needs to be seen.

02/02/2026

I’ve been experimenting with Solfeggio Frequencies and Tibetan Singing Bowl tones. I’ve quite a collection of these bowls now and have realised there’s a lot of technique to getting them sound as they should. You can’t just hit them and hope for the best!

I have created this audiovisual piece (the music is original) to still a racing mind. For some, it can also slow down a fast pulse, but essentially it’s to slow down overwhelming thoughts.

I’d love to know what you think and how it makes you feel. X

Original Audio ©️NMD26

01/02/2026

Sunday morning! As I’ve said before, it’s my very favourite time to light a candle, sit, reflect and scribble in my 2026 thought-dump book. It’s like journaling - but not.

Just to sit quietly and write down your worries and joys and blessings along with what you need in your life (and more importantly, what you don’t need in your life) whilst listening to calming music, is truly a wonderful blessing you have the ability to give to yourself.

It’s taken me 4 years to rebuild my life from the foundations up - but I made sure the footings were rock solid.

My friends have said that my home looks calm. I realise now that a home doesn’t really need to look calm. It needs to feel calm.

Calmness radiates, first and foremost, from you. My home now feels calm.

As I’m facing one of the busiest February’s since pre-pandemic days, it’s a good thing.
🧘🏻‍♀️🙏🪷🙏🧘🏻‍♀️

If this post encourages even just one person to get themselves a beautiful notebook and scribble down their thoughts, fears, joys, sadnesses and hopes, then I will feel I’ve done a really good thing.

I wish you peace.
I wish you calm.
My prayers are for you.
You deserve a beautiful day. X

PS:
Grief is an intense sorrow as the result of a major loss. This post is for a different kind of grief recovery other than due to a bereavement. X