Tanourish Counselling

Tanourish Counselling Psychotherapist providing counselling to adult individuals online or face to face, based in East Cornwall

29/04/2026

Labels can shape us more than we realise.
What begins as a simple word in childhood—“shy”, “difficult”, “bright”—can quietly become part of how we see ourselves well into adulthood. While labels can help us understand and even access support, they can also limit, define, and carry stigma.
In therapy, I often see the lasting impact of these early narratives—and the powerful shift that happens when people begin to separate who they are from what they’ve been called.
We are not our labels. We are far more complex, fluid, and capable of change. Link 🔗 in the blog ⬆️

23/04/2026

*🚨 SPOILER ALERT 🚨 * I loved this scene in Season 2 of BEEF - it genuinely got my “therapist brain” switched all the way on. Watching Austin hold space the way he does, staying calm, naming what’s really going on underneath the surface, it feels less like a typical argument and more like a live example of emotional attunement. You can see him clock that Ashley’s reactions aren’t random—they’re coming from a deeper fear of abandonment, that anxious attachment where love gets tangled up with the fear of losing it.
It’s such a compelling moment because he doesn’t shame her or pull away—he leans in with understanding, almost like he’s helping her regulate in real time. Scenes like this are so satisfying because they show how powerful it is when someone responds to fear with clarity and steadiness instead of defensiveness.

21/04/2026

Some of these were given to you before you even knew who you were.
Some came from childhood.�Some came as diagnoses.�Some were never meant to stay this long.
Not all labels are harmful—some help us understand ourselves.�But some were just other people’s interpretations of you in a moment.
You’re allowed to question them.�You’re allowed to outgrow them.�You’re allowed to choose what still fits.
You are more than the words that were placed on you.

20/04/2026

We don’t start out doubting ourselves—we’re taught to.
The words we hear early on can echo for years:
“Too sensitive.”
“Too loud.”
“Not enough.”
“Too much.”
But those weren’t truths—just moments of misunderstanding, dressed up as labels.
Today, step outside.
Breathe. Walk. Listen.
Let the world remind you of something deeper:
You are not a label.
You are still becoming.
And you get to choose what defines you. 🌊🚶‍♀️

15/04/2026

Some nights feel heavier than others… like the silence is louder than noise.
You smile, you scroll, you pretend—but deep down, you just wish someone would really notice.
Loneliness doesn’t always mean being alone. Sometimes it’s feeling unseen in a room full of people.
If this feels like you, just know—you’re not the only one feeling this way. And it won’t last forever. 🤍 PS: I don’t know how I got the sparkles raining down but given it’s a miserable wet day - I’m here for it. We all need a bit of sparkle in our lives from time to time 🌟

Loneliness doesn’t always look like being alone.Sometimes it’s sitting with people and still feeling unseen.
Sometimes i...
13/04/2026

Loneliness doesn’t always look like being alone.
Sometimes it’s sitting with people and still feeling unseen.
Sometimes it’s not knowing how to say what you really feel.
Sometimes it’s outgrowing spaces that once felt like home.
If you’ve been feeling this way lately, you’re not broken — you’re human.
Loneliness is often a quiet signal:
a need for connection, for safety, for being truly understood.
You don’t have to fix it all at once.
Start small. One honest message. One safe conversation. One moment of self-compassion.
You deserve connection that feels real.
🤍 Save this for when it feels heavy
🤍 Share it with someone who might need it
🤍 Or just sit with it for a moment—you’re not alone in this

01/04/2026

We’re not just hard on others… we’re hard on ourselves first.
Unrealistic standards don’t make love stronger—they make it heavier.
And when no one can meet them, disconnection follows.
Right now, I’m tired.
There’s a spot between my eyebrows,
my hoodie’s creased,
and I’m definitely not meeting the “perfect” version of myself today.
And that’s kind of the point.
The goal isn’t lower standards.
It’s human ones.
Give yourself—and the people you love—room to be imperfect.
That’s where real connection lives 🤍

31/03/2026

Disappointment often isn’t about what others did—it’s about expectations we never expressed. We assume people should ‘just know,’ creating silent contracts they never agreed to, and when those unspoken needs go unmet, they turn into misunderstanding and resentment. It’s not a failure of care, but a lack of clarity—because mind reading isn’t a relationship skill, communication is. Healthy relationships are built on expressed needs, not assumed understanding, so pause and ask: have I said this out loud, or only expected it?

When I went to visited this sculpture a woman approached and asked me to take her photo in front of the Knife Angel.Afte...
26/03/2026

When I went to visited this sculpture a woman approached and asked me to take her photo in front of the Knife Angel.
Afterwards, she shared why this sculpture mattered to her.
Years ago, she worked at a school in Birmingham where a teacher was stabbed. She spoke quietly, but you could feel the weight of it — how, even now, years later, it still stays with her. Still affects her. Still hasn’t fully left.
It was a reminder that these moments don’t just end when the headlines do. They live on in people — in ways we don’t always see.
And it brought me back to the same thought:
How many people are carrying things like this in silence?
We often talk about preventing violence in big, systemic ways — and that matters. But there’s also something deeply human here: the need to talk, to process, to not hold it all alone.
For men especially, that silence can run deep.
What we don’t talk about doesn’t disappear. It lingers.
Let’s keep making space for these conversations — because you never really know what someone is carrying.

Spring is nature’s new year 🌱Not January. Not resolutions.But this moment—when the light returns.After a long, wet winte...
24/03/2026

Spring is nature’s new year 🌱
Not January. Not resolutions.
But this moment—when the light returns.
After a long, wet winter,
it’s okay if you feel a little heavy.
This is your chance to begin again.
Gently. In your own time.
Use these prompts
to notice what you’re ready to carry forward…
and what you’re ready to leave in winter.
To step out of the dark
and move, slowly, toward the light.
You don’t have to rush your growth.
Just honour what’s ready to change.
A new season is here.
And so are you.

AI is everywhere right now — and while it can be a useful tool for learning, reflection, and even starting conversations...
16/03/2026

AI is everywhere right now — and while it can be a useful tool for learning, reflection, and even starting conversations about mental health, it’s not a replacement for real therapeutic support.
Recently, we’ve noticed fewer referrals, and it raises an important question: are more people turning to AI for support instead of reaching out to a professional?
Tools like AI can provide information and prompts, but they don’t know your history, they can’t build a therapeutic relationship, and they aren’t accountable for the guidance they give. Mental health care works best when it’s human, personalised, and grounded in professional training and ethics.
If you’ve found yourself relying on AI for support, you’re not alone — but you don’t have to navigate things by yourself. Speaking with a trained professional offers understanding, nuance, and care that technology simply can’t replicate.
AI can be a helpful supplement.
But when it comes to your mental health, real connection still matters. 💬

Not all therapy ends with a final conversation.Sometimes it ends with a cancelled session.
Sometimes with an email.
Some...
06/03/2026

Not all therapy ends with a final conversation.
Sometimes it ends with a cancelled session.
Sometimes with an email.
Sometimes with silence.
But the ending of therapy is actually part of the work.
In Psychotherapy, taking time to reflect, acknowledge the relationship, and say goodbye can help people carry what they’ve learned into future relationships.
A healthy ending can be powerful.
It shows that relationships can end with honesty, respect, and care.
I’ve written a short article about why endings in therapy matter—and why they deserve attention too.
Link in bio to read.

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