Therapy with Mike

01/03/2026

A personal challenge with a song I'd never heard, never mind played. 😀

16/02/2026

Taken from I Didn’t Choose To Be Born. Link in Bio

16/02/2026

16/02/2026

The hardest part about healing from family trauma is that it comes with a type of grief nobody prepares you for.

Because the people are still alive…
but the relationship you needed is not available.

So you grieve in layers:

• the parent who never softened
• the home that never felt safe
• the apologies that never came
• the version of “family” you kept hoping would finally exist

And when you start choosing boundaries, distance, or low contact… it can feel like you’re doing something wrong.

But many survivors confuse guilt with wrongness.

Guilt often appears when you stop playing your old role:
the peacemaker
the fixer
the “strong one”
the one who stayed quiet to keep everyone comfortable

Sometimes healing isn’t reconciliation.

Sometimes healing is saying:
“I love you… but I can’t keep abandoning myself to stay close to dysfunction.”

If this resonates with you:

🤍 I Didn’t Choose to Be Born — for healing family trauma, emotional neglect, and the grief of the childhood you deserved but didn’t receive.

🤍 Chasing Love That Hurts — for understanding how those early wounds can show up in adult relationships, attachment patterns, and emotional fixation.

Both available here: https://linktr.ee/traumatorecovery

Save this for the days you question your boundaries.
Comment “peace” if you’re choosing yourself this time.

⸻

16/02/2026

More Creatures At Play doing Layla unplugged as part of our play time Sunday Soul Session

https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1AxKZQGU3y/

02/02/2026

02/02/2026

They call her an “angry daughter” when she finally stops being convenient.

Because in families where love had conditions, a daughter who:
• speaks up,
• sets boundaries,
• stops over-explaining,
• stops fixing everyone…

gets labeled as “dramatic,” “disrespectful,” or “too much.”

But anger is often secondary.
Under it is grief. Under it is years of dismissed pain.
Under it is a nervous system that’s tired of negotiating for basic emotional safety.

Beloved, you’re not becoming worse.
You’re becoming honest.

And if your healing makes people uncomfortable…
it’s usually because your silence used to protect their comfort.

If this feels painfully familiar, my books are linked in bio 🤍
I Didn’t Choose to Be Born explores childhood trauma + dysfunctional family dynamics.
And Chasing Love That Hurts goes deeper into the relationship patterns that form when you grow up begging for love.

Link in bio when you’re ready.

02/02/2026

13/01/2026

We all read things differently and have different perspectives that are based on our experiences, our beliefs and that’s ok.

For me, I read this as not being said by someone that genuinely felt unappreciated, but from someone throwing anything they have done in your face in an effort to make you feel guilty for not doing something for them.

Why?

Because I’ve heard those words and they were said in that context.

I had always done everything I could for the person who spoke them and these words were spoken to me if if I ever tried to say no.

I know it can and will it be read in different ways (aka I have posted it before and 🤯) and that’s ok.

Your reaction to it is though is always worth a ponder especially if it’s one of anger.

If you do find yourself angry it is a good place to ponder and give yourself a little extra love.

🫶TJ

07/01/2026

Your environment matters more than we realize.
The conversations you’re in.
The spaces you spend time in.
The energy you’re surrounded by.

If everything around you feels chaotic, critical, or draining…
of course you feel tired, reactive, and overwhelmed.

This isn’t a personal flaw.
It’s your nervous system responding to what it’s been living in.

Today, ask yourself:
✨ What can I soften?
✨ What can I step back from?
✨ What can I protect?

Peace begins when you change what you allow around you. 💛