Butterflybees Holistic therapies and organic skincare

21/08/2025

The child does not say, "I am unworthy." They first feel the absence and then weave a story to survive it. Beliefs are bridges the child builds when love feels far.

𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙨𝙮𝙘𝙝𝙚’𝙨 𝙋𝙧𝙤𝙩𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙤𝙧𝙨: Beliefs Born from Absence

Before reason, the body feels. But once the psyche awakens, it must translate those invisible signals into meaning. When love is steady, the psyche learns: “I can trust life.” When love is delayed or withdrawn, so the psyche whispers “It must be me.”

And so begins the architecture of self-protection...

1. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘗𝘴𝘺𝘤𝘩𝘦 𝘢𝘴 𝘢 𝘚𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘦𝘳

The child cannot explain their parent’s stress, distance, or rage. So they narrate survival:

• “I must stay quiet to be safe.”

• “I have to be perfect to be loved.”

• “If I am small, I won’t be left.”

These beliefs are not truths. They are survival bridges, built quickly to cross the flood of absence.

2. 𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘉𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘧𝘴 𝘎𝘶𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘏𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘵

Each story the psyche forms is a shield.

Behind “I am too much” lives the hope: “One day, someone will stay.” Behind “I must earn love” lives the ache: “Love should have been given freely.”

The psyche bends itself into shapes to keep the heart from breaking. Yet, ironically, it is the heart that longs to be free.

3. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘈𝘥𝘶𝘭𝘵 𝘉𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘧 𝘔𝘢𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘹

What begins as survival often becomes identity:

• The achiever who cannot rest.

• The pleaser who fears conflict.

• The withdrawn who hides their longing.

These are not who we truly are — they are echoes of a child’s attempt to make sense of love’s delay.

4. 𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘗𝘴𝘺𝘤𝘩𝘦 𝘔𝘦𝘦𝘵𝘴 𝘛𝘳𝘶𝘵𝘩

Healing begins when the adult self looks at these inherited beliefs and whispers: “I see why you thought this. But it was never you. It was never your fault.”

The psyche softens. The child within exhales. The heart begins to remember its original language.

❖ 𝙉𝙤𝙬, 𝙖 𝙎𝙖𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙙 𝙌𝙪𝙚𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙙𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙣𝙚...

What would shift in your life if you no longer had to earn love but simply remembered that you were love all along?

In Presence, always,
Luiza (FractaLux) 🕊

19/08/2025

Dr. Ovidio, Pediatric Neurologist, warns about a silent tragedy unfolding in our homes today.

There is a silent tragedy unfolding in our homes today, and it concerns our most precious jewels: our children. Our children are in a devastating emotional state!.

Over the past 15 years, researchers have gifted us increasingly alarming statistics about an acute and steady increase in childhood mental illness that is now reaching epidemic proportions:

The statistics don't lie:
• 1 in 5 children has mental health problems
• A 43% increase in ADHD has been noticed
• A 37% increase in teenage depression has been noticed
• A 200% increase in the su***de rate in children aged 10 to 14 has been noticed

What is going on and what are we doing wrong?.

Children today are being over-stimulated and over-gifted with material objects, but are deprived of the fundamentals of a healthy childhood, such as:

• Emotionally available parents
• Clearly Defined Boundaries
• Responsibilities
• Balanced nutrition and adequate sleep
• Movement in general but especially outdoors
• Creative play, social interaction, unstructured play opportunities and spaces for boredom

On the other hand, these last few years have been filled with children of:
• Digitally Distracted Parents
• Forgiving and permissive parents who let children "rule the world" and be the ones who make the rules
• A sense of entitlement, of deserving everything without earning it or being responsible for getting it
• Poor sleep and unbalanced nutrition
• A sedentary lifestyle
• Endless stimulation, technological nannies, instant gratification and absence of dull moments

What to do?

If we want our children to be happy and healthy individuals, we need to wake up and get back to the basics. It's still possible! Many families see immediate improvement after weeks of implementing the following recommendations:

• Set limits and remember that you are the captain of the ship. Your kids will feel safer knowing you have the control of the helm.
• Offer children a balanced lifestyle full of what children NEED, not just what they WANT. Don’t be afraid to say “no” to your kids if what they want isn’t what they need.
• Provide nutritious food and limit junk food.
• Spend at least one hour a day outdoors doing activities such as: cycling, hiking, fishing, bird/insect watching
• Enjoy a daily family dinner without smartphones or technology distracting them.
• Play board games as a family or if the children are too young for board games, let them lead their interests and let them be the ones who rule the game
• Involve your children in some task or household chores according to their age (folding clothes, sorting toys, hanging clothes, unpacking groceries, setting the table, feeding the dog, etc. )
• Implement a consistent sleep routine to ensure your child gets enough sleep. The timetables will be even more important for school-age children.
• Teach responsibility and independence. Don't overprotect them against any frustration or any mistake. Making mistakes will help you develop resilience and learn to overcome life's challenges,
• Do not carry your children's backpack, do not take their backpacks, do not take them the homework they forgot, do not peel their bananas or oranges if they can do it by themselves (4-5 years). Instead of giving them the fish, teach them how to fish.
• Teach them to wait and delay gratification.
• Provide opportunities for "boredom", because boredom is the moment when creativity awakens. Doesn't feel responsible for always keeping the kids entertained.
• Do not use technology as a cure for boredom, nor offer it to the first second of inactivity.
• Avoid the use of technology during meals, in cars, restaurants, shopping centers. Use these moments as opportunities to socialize by training the brains to know how to function when they are in the mood: "boredom"
• Help them create a “jar of boredom” with activity ideas for when they are bored.
• Be emotionally available to connect with children and teach them self-regulation and social skills:
• Turn off phones at night when kids have to go to bed to avoid digital distraction.
• Become an emotional regulator or coach for your children. Teach them to acknowledge and manage their own frustrations and anger.
• Teach them to greet, to take turns, to share without anything, to say thank you and please, to acknowledge the mistake and apologize (don't force them), be a model of all those values you instill.
• Connect emotionally – smile, hug, kiss, tickle, read, dance, jump, play or crawl with them.

Article written by Dr. Luis Rojas Marcos, Psychiatrist.

27/07/2025

Toxic family members don’t apologize.

They gaslight.
They blame.
They rewrite history.
They play the victim when you finally stand up for yourself.

They don’t say “I hurt you.”
They say “You’re too sensitive.”
They don’t say “I’m sorry.”
They say “You misunderstood me.”
And somehow you become the problem for protecting your peace.

But just because someone shares your blood doesn’t mean they deserve a seat at your table.

Family isn’t about DNA, it’s about respect, safety, and love.
And if they can’t give you that?
You’re allowed to walk away.

Even from family.
Especially from family.

©️Momming On Empty

16/07/2025

You fall in love… and then learn that you also entered into a relationship with their unhealed childhood.

The person you fell for was confident and charming.

Emotionally available and present.

Sweet. Kind. Funny. Sexy. Playful.

Easy to be around.
They felt like home.

And so it felt only natural to want to move in.

6 months later, you realise you're also dating their fear of abandonment.

Their hyper-sensitivity.
Their need for constant validation.
Their insecurity.
Their walls around intimacy.
Their avoidance.
Their unprocessed grief, rage and shame.

Wait, was this in the lease agreement?
(Oh… and p.s. they are wondering the same thing)

What we don't talk about enough:

You weren't fooled, you've just gotten close enough to activate their wounds, and now you're meeting the protection they've spent so long maintaining.

But their sweet, innocent part inside is hurting.
It's looking to see if you're safe.

Will you be the one that finally helps them write a different story?

Secure relating happens when we choose to walk through the fires of healing together.

It's when we say to each other:

"I see your wounds, your defences are a bitch, and I'm still sticking around because I believe you are worth it."

The deepest intimacy occurs when we use relationship to finally face ourselves.

We don't need to be healed to experience love.
We need to be loved to experience healing.

In trauma-transforming relationships, we discover that love is more than romance; it’s about seeing each other’s pain, holding space for healing, and choosing to repair even when triggers arise.

This is what will, over time, create a secure attachment.

True intimacy is what grows when partners feel safe enough to drop their armour and let love in.

We don’t have to be perfectly healed to love… we just need someone willing to stay and help us write a new story.

Healing happens when you recognise that part of the sacred contract is to support each other into remembering that you are, and always were, loved.

Damien Bohler
(written by a human)

11/07/2025

05/07/2025

Examples of 6 natural herbs that improve your health…

1. Ibuprofen = Matalafi

Anti-inflammatory: Matalafi is primarily used to reduce inflammation, which can be associated with fever, body aches, and swellings.

Potential applications: Beyond its traditional use, research suggests matalafi may have potential in treating other conditions, including iron overload and diseases like cancer, neurodegenerative diseases, cardiovascular diseases, and diabetes.

2. Paracetamol = Chamomile

Traditional Use: Chamomile has been used for centuries for various purposes, including calming nerves, aiding sleep, reducing inflammation, and treating skin irritations.

Active Compounds: It contains compounds like apigenin, which is thought to have mild tranquilizing effects.

3. Omeprazole = Turmeric

Turmeric is a potent anti inflammatory, antioxidant, it’s also a remedy for acid reflux, with some studies suggesting it may be as effective as certain medications for indigestion. It may help protect the stomach and esophagus from damage and potentially reduce symptoms associated with acid reflux.

4. Metformin = Garlic

Blood sugar regulation:
Some studies suggest garlic can help improve blood sugar control, particularly in individuals with diabetes.

Cancer prevention:
There's some evidence that garlic consumption may be associated with a reduced risk of certain cancers, though more research is needed.

Fighting infections:
Garlic has been traditionally used to help ward off colds and other infections, possibly due to its antimicrobial properties

5. Amoxicillin = Aloe Vera

Antibacterial Compounds:
Aloe vera's antibacterial activity is attributed to compounds like aloin, emodin, and acemannan. While it has these properties it’s not a substitute for treating severe infections.

Topical Use:
Aloe vera is commonly used topically for skin infections, acne, and minor burns.

Target Bacteria:
Studies have shown Aloe vera can inhibit the growth of Staphylococcus aureus, Pseudomonas aeruginosa, and other bacteria.

Oral Health:
Aloe vera is also used in mouthwashes and toothpastes due to its ability to inhibit the growth of oral pathogens like Streptococcus pyogenes and Candida albicans.

6. Aspirin = Clove

Blood thinning:
According to the journal Prostaglandins, Leukotrienes and Essential Fatty Acids, cloves have the same anticoagulant action as aspirin.

Some other benefits:
Clove has also traditionally been used to relieve nausea, for gum pain and inflammation and to help reduce symptoms of respiratory infections or asthma.

Always consult with a functional health care practitioner when using remedies if you have any health conditions and make an informed choices with your person centred healthcare by doing your own research.

04/07/2025

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03/07/2025

02/04/2025

Here’s some of our exciting, creative therapeutic April and May events.

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