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Bored of Dating Apps, Sefton Park, Sefton Park (2026)

14/04/2026

I DON’T SWIPE 🧢 featuring

We spend a lot of time talking about how dating has changed, apps, algorithms, all of it, but far less time thinking about how something more fundamental has shifted alongside it: the way we interact with strangers in everyday life.

Yesterday wasn’t a date. It was a pharmacy stop, a coffee queue, a quick visit to a bakery, the kind of in-between moments we move through without expecting anything to happen and yet, something did.

In the middle of a drugstore aisle, fluorescent lighting, shelves of moisturiser, not exactly a meet-cute setting, a man paused to ask what my hat meant. That small question turned into an easy, unforced conversation.

Later, in a coffee queue that would usually exist in silence, it happened again, a comment from someone behind me, the barista joining in, a few others turning around, until suddenly we were all talking about dating, apps, and why everyone feels a bit over it.

Nothing dramatic. Nothing cinematic. It quietly challenged a narrative we’ve all started to believe that people are closed off, uninterested, unreachable. They’re not. What’s changed isn’t the desire to connect, it’s the lack of entry points.

We’ve normalised silence in spaces that are actually built for interaction, queues, counters, shared moments of waiting, and replaced them with private worlds on our phones. So connection hasn’t disappeared, it’s just waiting for something, however small to reintroduce it.

In this case, it happened to be a hat. And maybe that’s the point. Not to force interaction or turn every moment into a meet-cute, but to recognise that there are opportunities for connection quietly sitting inside ordinary life if we allow them.

One little moment can change everything ❤️‍🔥

14/04/2026

I DON’T SWIPE 🧢 feat

We spend a lot of time talking about how dating has changed, apps, algorithms, all of it, but far less time thinking about how something more fundamental has shifted alongside it: the way we interact with strangers in everyday life.

Yesterday wasn’t a date. It was a pharmacy stop, a coffee queue, a quick visit to a bakery, the kind of in-between moments we move through without expecting anything to happen and yet, something did.

In the middle of a drugstore aisle, fluorescent lighting, shelves of moisturiser, not exactly a meet-cute setting, a man paused to ask what my hat meant. That small question turned into an easy, unforced conversation.

Later, in a coffee queue that would usually exist in silence, it happened again, a comment from someone behind me, the barista joining in, a few others turning around, until suddenly we were all talking about dating, apps, and why everyone feels a bit over it.

Nothing dramatic. Nothing cinematic. It quietly challenged a narrative we’ve all started to believe that people are closed off, uninterested, unreachable. They’re not. What’s changed isn’t the desire to connect, it’s the lack of entry points.

We’ve normalised silence in spaces that are actually built for interaction, queues, counters, shared moments of waiting, and replaced them with private worlds on our phones. So connection hasn’t disappeared, it’s just waiting for something, however small to reintroduce it.

In this case, it happened to be a hat. And maybe that’s the point. Not to force interaction or turn every moment into a meet-cute, but to recognise that there are opportunities for connection quietly sitting inside ordinary life if we allow them.

One little moment can change everything ❤️‍🔥

12/04/2026

Somewhere along the way, confidence got mislabelled as cringe and silence started to feel safer than sincerity.

So now we curate interest behind screens, but hesitate in real life where it actually counts.

The irony? The people you’d want to meet are probably hoping for the exact same moment of courage.

This isn’t about being smooth. It’s about being human, because the real shift isn’t in better apps, it’s in braver behaviour.

Less swiping. More asking. Let’s make that normal again.

11/04/2026

We’ve blurred the line between what is genuinely uncomfortable and what is simply human courage.

Somewhere along the way, calling everything “creepy” didn’t just protect people from unwanted behaviour, it also discouraged the very thing dating actually depends on: respectful, real-life initiation.

And here’s the irony no one talks about: the people who care about making others feel comfortable are the ones most likely to hold back. While those who don’t care? They were never listening anyway.

So what’s left is a quieter room. Fewer approaches. Less spontaneity. More waiting.

This isn’t about excusing bad behaviour, that should always be called out. But it’s about recognising the difference between discomfort and disrespect.

Because when kindness, effort, and genuine interest start being mistaken for something negative, we don’t just protect ourselves, we unintentionally make connection harder for everyone.

Maybe the answer isn’t less approaching. It’s better approaching. More self-awareness. More respect. More grace, on both sides.

Dating doesn’t need more silence. It needs safer, braver, more human moments 💛

10/04/2026

A growing number of men are reaching their mid-20s having never asked someone out in real life.

Not even once. Which means an entire layer of human experience is quietly disappearing.

Because asking someone out was never just about dating. It was how you learnt to read a room. How you developed timing.
How you built resilience to rejection. How you expressed desire, clearly, honestly, vulnerably in the moment.

Now, interest is signalled passively. Filtered through screens.
Reduced to gestures that require almost nothing.

And in removing the risk of rejection, we’ve also removed the meaning.

Nothing is really chosen. Nothing is really said. Nothing is really on the line.

So of course it feels easier but it also feels emptier.

This isn’t about blaming apps. It’s about recognising what they’ve slowly replaced:

Initiation. Courage. Presence. And those things matter, far beyond dating.

We can keep interacting or we can start asking ❤️🧡

09/04/2026

Some people think the problem is lack of good options out there.

But what if the real problem is no one wants to risk being the first one to speak?

We’ve created all these unspoken rules:
Don’t be too forward.
Don’t be too keen.
Don’t get it wrong.

So we say nothing.

And then we go home, open an app and look for connection in the most controlled way possible.

But the truth is, the moment you’re looking for? It probably already happened. You just didn’t act on it.

Next time, ask them out.

08/04/2026

Some gorgeous memories from our Christian Singles Social 💜

What’s coming up at BODA isn’t just a run of events, it’s a shift back to how dating is meant to feel.

From bookshops in New York where conversations start over, to London house parties where strangers become familiar by 9pm, to rooftops, wine bars and dancefloors filled with people who’ve chosen to show up.

Here’s what’s ahead:

• Apr 13 — NYC Bookshop Meet-Cute
• Apr 14 — London READ DATING (sold out)
• Apr 15 — Carnaby Street Social
• Apr 20 — NYC Bookshop Meet-Cute
• Apr 21 — NYC Waiting on a Friend
• Apr 23 — Liverpool Social
• Apr 29 — Clapham Social
• May 6 — Carnaby Street Social
• May 7 — Liverpool (Sister Ray) + NYC Rooftop (Unlisted)
• May 8 — Islington Rooftop Party
• May 11 — NYC Bookshop Meet-Cute
• May 14 — London House Party
• May 20 — Fulham Social

Some are already sold out. Some are filling fast. Some are just beginning.

But the thread is the same: people opting out of endless swiping, and into real moments, real effort, real chemistry.

No scripts. No pressure. Just rooms designed for something to actually happen.

If you’ve been waiting for a sign to step back into dating in a way that feels human again, this is it.

Come alone. Leave with a story.

🎟️ Tickets live now.

07/04/2026

We’re in a flirting epidemic.

Not because people don’t want connection, but because somewhere along the way, we stopped risking it in real life.

We’ve made dating so convenient. So efficient. We can sit on our sofas, scroll through hundreds of people, and never actually have to say anything out loud.

That’s not where chemistry lives though. It’s in the glance that lasts a second too long. In the ‘should I say something?’ moment. In choosing to be just slightly braver than you feel.

Most people will tell you they want a meet-cute but very few of us are actually creating them. Maybe it’s just about looking up. Smiling first. Saying something small.

Because the only real way out of a flirting epidemic
is to start flirting again 💅

04/04/2026

Bank holidays have a way of expanding things.

Time. Space. Feelings you don’t always notice during the week.

If you’re single, sometimes it’s not loneliness exactly, it’s just a heightened awareness of it all.

Of where you are. Of what you have. Of what you’d quite like, too.

You can have a full life, good friends, things you love and still feel a little untethered on a long weekend.

This isn’t about something being missing. It’s about something being unshared. And it’s okay to want that.

We’ve opened up a handful of free tickets across our upcoming socials over the next few weeks, spaces to be in community, to talk, to laugh, to feel something.

You’re not behind. You’re not behind. You’re not behind ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

04/04/2026

At a Liverpool BODA event, two and a half years ago, Ellen and Kier walked into a BODA event as strangers.

No algorithms. No endless swiping. Just a room full of people, a little bit of courage and a conversation that changed everything.

This week, we stood in a different room, watching them as husband and wife. Dancing with their family, their friends, the life they’ve built together since that first hello.

It’s easy to forget that love stories like this still exist. They don’t start on screens, they start in rooms, just like this.

This is why we do what we do.

Real people. Real moments. Real love. Congratulations to the most beautiful couple! 🫶💍❤️🧡💒👰‍♀️🤵

03/04/2026

At a Liverpool BODA event, two and a half years ago, Ellen and Kier walked into a BODA event as strangers.

No algorithms. No endless swiping. Just a room full of people, a little bit of courage and a conversation that changed everything.

Last night, we stood in a different room, watching them as husband and wife. Dancing with their family, their friends, the life they’ve built together since that first hello.

It’s easy to forget that love stories like this still exist. They don’t start on screens, they start in rooms, just like this.

This is why we do what we do.

Real people. Real moments. Real love. Congratulations to the most beautiful couple! 🫶💍❤️🧡💒👰‍♀️🤵

03/04/2026

Easter weekend, but make it a meet-cute.

Not the kind where you’re endlessly swiping from your sofa,
the kind where you actually look up, make eye contact, say something, stay a little longer than you planned.

We’re taking over for a night of real-life flirting, good people, better conversations, and the kind of energy dating apps could never, because most people don’t actually want more options, they want a moment. A spark. A story they can tell.

So come and create one.

📍 The Little Violet Door
🗓 6.4.26
🕖 7PM

Delete your app. Flirt offline.

Tickets in bio x

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