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12/09/2025

What is the difference between
"I like you" and "I love you"?
Beautifully answered by Buddha:
When you like a flower, you just pluck it. But when you love a flower, you water it daily.
One who understand this, understands life.
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06/09/2025

There are people you meet once and never forget, not because they were loud, flashy, or trying too hard, but because something about them lingers. Maybe it was the way they listened without rushing you. Maybe it was the calm confidence they carried. Or maybe it was how they made you feel valued in a world where people are often too distracted to notice.

Reading Make Yourself Unforgettable felt like peeling back the curtain on why certain people leave that kind of lasting mark. What I loved is that it doesn’t reduce “being unforgettable” to tricks, catchphrases, or rehearsed gestures. Instead, it’s about building an inner foundation of respect, integrity, warmth, and empathy. This isn’t about acting a part, it’s about becoming a person worth remembering.

The book challenged me to think less about how I present myself and more about how I make others feel. It’s a quiet but powerful shift: instead of trying to impress, you learn to express genuine care, attention, and character. And the exercises sprinkled throughout make you stop and reflect, who am I in conversations? Do I truly listen? Am I living in a way that’s consistent with my values?

Dale Carnegie Training has always been about timeless human skills, and this book carries that legacy well. It’s not about being the life of the party; it’s about being the kind of person people trust, respect, and remember long after the first handshake.

Lessons from the Book:

1. People remember how you made them feel more than what you said.
• Influence comes less from words and more from the emotions you leave behind.

2. Authenticity beats performance.
• Pretending impresses for a moment, but genuine sincerity lasts for years.

3. Attention is rare and unforgettable.
• Giving someone your full presence is one of the most powerful gifts.

4. Respect every person, no matter their role.
• The way you treat those who “can’t give you anything” says more about you than your résumé ever will.

5. Consistency is your reputation.
• It’s not one big action that defines you, but the hundreds of small ones lived daily.

6. Gratitude is magnetic.
• Expressing thanks, sincerely and often, creates a bond people don’t easily forget.

7. Your legacy is built one interaction at a time.
• Every encounter leaves an imprint. The question is: what kind?

BOOK: https://amzn.to/3V00I2g

Happy reading!

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06/09/2025

Money and time are both valuable, but they are not equal. The truth is:

💰 With money, you always know how much you have left. You can save it, count it, invest it, and even earn it back when you lose it.

⏳ But with time, you never know how much remains. No one can measure their exact days, hours, or moments left. And unlike money, once time is gone, it can never return.

That’s why time is the most precious currency you will ever own. Yet, most people protect their money fiercely while carelessly wasting their time — on negativity, grudges, meaningless distractions, and people who don’t value them.

Ask yourself today:

Are you spending your time on things that matter?

Are you investing your moments in peace, love, growth, and memories that last?

Or are you trading away your priceless hours for things that won’t matter tomorrow?

🔑 Here’s the wisdom: Protect your time the way you protect your money — or even more. Because money lost can be earned back, but time wasted is gone forever.

Live wisely, love deeply, and spend your moments on what truly adds meaning to your life.

29/08/2025

Your Worst Enemy Lives in Your Own Mind.
Most of us believe our struggles come from outside — from people who hurt us, situations that challenge us, or circumstances that seem unfair. But if you look closely, you’ll realize: your worst enemy isn’t out there — it’s in here.

It’s the story your mind keeps telling you.
📌 The assumptions you make about what others think of you.
📌 The fears you project into the future that haven’t even happened.
📌 The insecurities you magnify until they feel like mountains.

This inner voice, if left unchecked, can create prisons far stronger than any external challenge. It can convince you that you’re not enough, that failure is inevitable, or that people are against you.

But here’s the truth: thoughts are not facts. They are passing clouds. When you learn to observe them instead of believing them, you take away their power.

🌿 Buddhism teaches us about the nature of the mind — it is a restless monkey, jumping from one branch to another, weaving illusions that trap us. The practice is not to kill the monkey, but to watch it with awareness until it settles.

💡 So instead of fighting imaginary enemies outside, start healing the battlefield within. Replace assumptions with clarity, fears with trust, and insecurities with self-compassion.

Remember:
✨ The enemy in your mind only wins if you keep feeding it.
✨ Peace comes when you rewrite the story — one of strength, trust, and truth.

In the end, the most powerful victory you’ll ever achieve is not over others, but over the illusions of your own mind

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18/08/2025

Some things are too heavy for kids to carry — and they shouldn’t have to.
Your child needs security, not stress. Safety, not secrets.

Let them have the gift of being a kid.

✨ What we don’t share with our kids can shape them just as much as what we do. ✨

17/08/2025

Take a second. Deep breath in, close your eyes, hold, and then exhale. Repeat three times. Could you feel your body relax?

The Psychology of Stillness is about how taking time to pause, be quiet, and do nothing can actually help us feel better and think more clearly.

In a recent study done by Yerbury (2021), a school psychologist led short “stillness sessions” for young children. These were simple activities where the kids sat quietly, breathed calmly, and let their minds settle. After just ten weeks, both the kids and their teachers noticed some big changes: the students were more relaxed, more focused, and got along better with others. They were quieter on the outside, because they felt calmer on the inside.

But stillness isn’t just about being silent. More than that, it is about letting your mind and body take a break. We’re so often rushing from one thing to the next that we rarely stop to just be. Stillness gives us a chance to do that. It helps us notice our thoughts without being overwhelmed by them and to feel more in control of our emotions. In psychological terms, these effects align with Attention Restoration Theory, which shows that quiet, nature-like pauses restore our cognitive resources by shifting from directed attention to gentle, effortless awareness. 

This idea isn’t new, however, as many cultures and spiritual traditions, like Buddhism or Taoism, have long valued stillness as a way to find peace and balance. And now, neuroscience is showing that even a few minutes of quiet time can improve our mood, help us focus, and make us more emotionally steady.
So in simple terms, the psychology of stillness is about taking short breaks to pause and be quiet. No screens, stress, or pressure. Consistently putting this into practice can make our minds healthier and our lives calmer. Whether you’re a kid at school or an adult with a busy schedule, a little stillness goes a long way.

Share this with someone that could use a little break from the business of life.

Comment ‘INHALE’ to receive tools to lead you in your mindfulness journey.

17/08/2025

We waste so much energy trapped in two prisons:
🔹 Yesterday — where regrets, mistakes, and old wounds replay endlessly. But no matter how much you revisit it, the past cannot be changed. You can only take its lessons and walk forward.
🔹 Tomorrow — where fear, anxiety, and endless “what ifs” live. But tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet, and it may not arrive at all. Why carry the weight of a day that doesn’t even exist?

✨ That leaves us with Today — the most powerful day of your life.

Today is when you can pick up the phone and say “I love you.”

Today is when you can forgive, heal, or simply take one step toward your dreams.

Today is when you can choose peace over conflict, gratitude over complaint, courage over hesitation.

💡 The truth is, life is not lived in memories of the past or fantasies of the future. Life is lived in the heartbeat of the present.
Every smile, every word of kindness, every act of love — they all happen now.

👉 So, Love deeply today, before time steals the chance.
👉 Believe in yourself today, because waiting for “someday” keeps you stuck forever.
👉 Do what matters today, even if it’s small, because little steps build great journeys.
👉 And above all, Live — because life is not promised, it is only borrowed moment by moment.

🌸 Don’t postpone joy. Don’t delay peace. Don’t wait for a better day to live better.
This moment is the gift. This moment is your life.

31/07/2025

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