16/12/2025
December has a way of touching so much within us…
The lights, the music, the adverts, they tell us Christmas should feel magical.
But for many, it’s also the season where grief feels especially present.
An empty chair. A tradition that feels too heavy. A memory that catches you off guard.
And while all of that is happening inside, our nervous system is working hard to process the demands around us too, family dynamics, the busyness of the festive season…. It’s no wonder the season can feel overwhelming.
This is why boundaries matter. Not just with people, but with ourselves.
Boundaries around how much we take on, how much we push ourselves to “make it perfect.”
Because ’tis the season for boundaries’ as much as it is for sparkle.✨
Boundaries are choices we make to protect our energy and honour our needs.
They’re how we give our nervous system space to breathe, so whatever we’re carrying, grief, joy, or simply the weight of the season, can be felt with more ease and calm.
Traditions are meant to bring joy, connection, and comfort, and they should evolve as life and circumstances change, sometimes becoming simpler, sometimes taking on new meaning.
And that’s ok.
Because what makes a tradition meaningful isn’t how perfectly it’s repeated, but how honestly it reflects the people living it today. ♡
So if your Christmas looks different this year, let it.
Different doesn’t mean wrong. Different can mean gentler, slower, kinder.
A story shared. A candle lit for someone you miss. A quiet pause at the end of the day.
Christmas doesn’t have to be recreated. It can be reshaped in a way that feels safe enough for your body, and kind enough for your heart.
Grief can hold many emotions, sadness, anger, numbness, even moments of joy mixed with pain.
Grief isn’t linear. The pain of losing someone never goes away. It just
becomes a heart shaped hole♡
Honouring how you feel, whatever that looks like, is important.
And if this season feels heavy, I offer ways to ease it and support you in finding calm again.
~ Nikki x