11/05/2026
Relational.
This image - a metaphor for presence.
As a somatic therapist I read so much on social media about doing exercises to regulate your nervous system. And this is an important part of my work too - but its not the only part. And I have years of professional training and felt embodied experience to understand how and when to use these tools safely. We keep reinforcing the idea that being calm all of the time is how we should live. We need to ‘fix’ ourselves. Our full range of humanness is not welcome. But for humans we live in the whole range of experience and emotions - they all have value as they point to things that have great meaning.
For some of us there is not enough felt safety, and that’s where therapists can step in and be that safe other with you to help you develop more capacity. But for so many of us what we need more than anything is connection.
Look at what’s happening here - my friend sitting with me in my messiness of grief a few years years ago not trying to change me but being deeply present - if you work with birds you know how present and wise they are! And in that moment I was held and it was felt. ❤️
Animals get this so right because belonging and connecting is how they survive and thrive. In community. In places of safety. They sense it and they feel it at such speed. And as mammals we also have the same needs, to be held in community. To be held in relationship. In safety. We feel and at such speed too!
My thoughts for mental health week is not only to give yourself the grace and space to be a messy imperfect human, reach for connection if you need support, but also to be there for others too. Relational health is built slowly over time, through small repeated moments of connection, attunement, accountability, softness, truth. Healing happens in connection. Not the big gestures, but the unimpressive repeated moments of connection where healing can happen.
From one messy imperfect human to another, and not an AI!
Be gentle,
Sarah 💜
Master Somatic Movement Therapist /Educator MSME MSMT (ISMETA Reg) & Buff Bones® Faculty. Somatic Therapist & Franklin Method Expert Level 4.