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Wellness cooking and natural foods have been a part of my life for decades. That is where 'Kajal's Healthy Kitchen' was born!

As a relationship expert, I combine coaching, energy work, and somatic practices to help you release emotional blocks, heal connections, and create lasting transformation. My mother's personal struggle with health and wellbeing led me to pursue my passion for cooking and make a difference in the world around me. Over the last 28 years, I've learned that we are deeply rooted in mother nature, which provides and heals if we stop and listen to the body.

Having experienced firsthand the power of nutrition and a balanced lifestyle in bringing back my mother from stage 4 cancer, I embarked on a journey of becoming a wellness chef and nutritional expert.

I started by creating my own recipes using ancient healing ingredients, some of which are now known as superfoods, and brought them to a plate as a piece of art. It was my mission to change the idea that healthy eating was boring, bland, and uninspiring! I am a well-being coach and see clients online. I run online wellbeing programs, workshops, supper clubs, and wellbeing retreats. Get in touch with me by PM or by visiting my website www.kajalskitchen.com https://www.kajalskitchen.com/

21/02/2026

As I turn one year wiser tomorrow 🎂

I’d love to hear from you.

What is one thing you remember or received from Wellness With Kajal that stayed with you?

A few heartfelt responses will receive a complimentary copy of one of my delicious, healthy recipe e-books as a birthday gift from me.

And if you’re quietly following along, make sure you’re subscribed to receiving newsletters as I’ll be sharing some beautiful new recipes by email next week.

With gratitude, always.

19/02/2026

Are You Staying For Your Children, Or Hiding Behind Them?

I know this space intimately. 18 years ago, I walked away from an empty marriage with four children. I was told to stay for them. Today, watching who they’ve become. I know I stayed true to them by leaving.

We’re not divorcing. We’re staying for the children.” I hear this more than almost anything else in my practice.

So let me ask you something gently, who are you actually protecting? You didn’t marry for your children, you married for each other. You chose each other.

Children don’t just hear what you say. They absorb what you live.
They learn love, not from your words, but from the energy between you.
They learn partnership, from watching how you speak to each other, or how you don’t.
They learn what it means to be chosen from watching whether you, and your partner still choose each other.

When two people are emotionally divorced but physically present, children grow up in a house that has walls but no warmth. A roof, but no love. No presence. No partnership, and that emptiness? They carry it into their adulthood in their own relationships.

Carl Jung wrote: “The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents.”

That unlived life doesn’t disappear just because you stayed, it lives in the silences. It lives in the resentments. It lives in the lessons your children are quietly learning about love, without you ever realising you’re teaching them.

Now, I am not here to tell you to divorce.
I am here to tell you that staying is not enough if the staying is empty.

The real question isn’t, should we stay or go?

The real question is, are we willing to do the work to truly come back to each other? Not for the children. For yourselves. For the love that is still possible.

Because when you heal, really heal, you don’t just save your marriage, you break the cycle. You give your children something they will carry into their own relationships, the lived experience of two people who chose courage over comfort. Who chose honesty over performance. Who showed them that love isn’t just a roof. Love is warmth. Love is presence. Love is the willingness to grow, or to part, with dignity and truth.

Either way, you owe your children your wholeness, not your martyrdom.

If you’re sitting on that edge right now, not sure whether to try again or to let go, I see you. This is the most tender, most important work there is, and you don’t have to navigate it alone.

I’m Wellness With Kajal trauma-informed relationship therapist, coach, and creator of the 5-Body Method, working with couples and individuals navigating the spaces between staying, healing, and beginning again.

DM me or visit the link in my bio to start the conversation. Kajal Kaj

18/02/2026

For those of you who have shown interest for my kimchi recipe will be receive it this weekend. Here is a NEW spring pickle “family favourite” coming your way. Mention “wellnesswithkajal” in comment box to receive this spicy, garlic pickle recipe, which will be available next week. Wellness With Kajal Kajal Kaj

17/02/2026

Call me Kimchiwali 🫶

Made fresh kimchi today full of love, flavour & gut-healing goodness, and feeling super excited to share this with you all.

Would you like the recipe?
Drop a “Yes” below 👇🏼

17/02/2026

Fresh homemade kimchi today 😍
My kitchen is smelling interesting right now 😂

Should I share this recipe with you?

If yes, comment “KIMCHI” below 👇 Wellness With Kajal

16/02/2026

You may have people talking about snakes and horses, about shedding old skin and galloping into something new, and perhaps you wondered… what is this actually about?

Let me tell you where it comes from!

The Chinese Lunar Calendar, one of the oldest wisdom traditions in the world, moves in cycles of twelve years, each held by an animal, each animal carrying its own energy and lesson, and this week, on February 17th, billions of people across the world from London to Lagos, from Melbourne to Mumbai, marked the transition from the Year of the Snake into the Year of the Wood Horse, asking the most ancient of human questions- who was I, and who am I choosing to become?

At the heart of this calendar is a story most people have never fully heard.

When the Jade Emperor summoned all the animals to race across a great river, the Horse came with its speed and grace, and the Snake, knowing it couldn’t match that power, quietly coiled itself around the Horse’s hoof, travelling together in silence, in closeness, in a trust that needed no words, until just before the finish line, the Snake uncoiled, and moved forward alone.

This ancient moment between two creatures is I think, the most honest story about relationships I have ever come across.

So many of us have been the Snake this past year, coiled close to someone, travelling on another’s strength when we weren’t sure we had enough of our own, and there is no shame in that, because the Snake didn’t cheat the river, it simply knew itself.

But the Horse year asks something different now, open ground, honest movement, the courage to uncoil and discover that what carried you is still there, just beside you now instead of beneath you.

In my work with people navigating relationships, the quiet distances, the love that got lost somewhere in the business of everyday life, I see this story playing out everywhere, and what I know is this - what we were last year, we do not have to carry forward.

So as we step from the reflection of the Snake into the stride of the Horse, the question worth sitting with isn’t what do I want to achieve, it is what have I been holding onto that was never really mine to carry?

And what might I find, if I finally let go… and ran?

Have you heard this story before? What are you choosing to release as you step into this new year, I’d love to hear from you. Wellness With Kajal Kajal Kaj

11/02/2026

14 Years Ago Today, Two Broken People Met.

He’s English, I’m Kenyan Indian.
He had three children, I had four.
He was healing from a broken marriage, so was I.
He came with uncertainty, I came with fear.
It was love at first sight for him. For me? It took nearly two years to even trust that what I felt was real love.

Two years to stop running from the possibility that happiness could find me again.

Here’s what nobody tells you when your marriage ends: the questions don’t end with the divorce papers, they follow you everywhere. What did I do wrong? What should I have done differently? Why couldn’t I make it work?

I carried those questions like stones in my pockets, heavy, constant, unanswerable.
Because the truth is, sometimes the answers aren’t with you. Sometimes they belong to someone else’s journey, and your only job is to stop asking their questions and start asking your own.

The question that changed everything for me was: Do I have permission to choose happiness, even if it means starting again?

This isn’t a fairy tale post, this is real life.
Blending two cultures. The spices of Gujarati meeting the Sunday roasts of England. Navigating seven children’s lives, hearts, histories. Learning each other’s languages, not just words, but the languages of love, conflict, healing, and forgiveness. Building trust when both of us had every reason to protect our hearts instead of opening them.

Some people ask: “How do you adjust when you meet someone later in life? When you both have established ways of being?” The answer? You don’t just adjust. You choose, and choice becomes your daily mantra.

Here’s the difference I’ve learned between the adjustments that heal you and the ones that hollow you out. With the wrong person, adjusting means disappearing. With the right person, adjusting means becoming. With the wrong person, you shrink to fit their expectations. With the right person, you expand into your truth together.

There is no single formula for anyone’s journey, and your path won’t look like mine. Your timing won’t match someone else’s. Your healing will have its own rhythm. But this I know to be true!
You deserve to be somewhere you are loved.
You deserve to be with someone you love. You deserve to be wanted, not tolerated. You deserve to be a first choice, not a backup plan.

If you’re sitting on the boundary right now, wondering if happiness is even possible, if you’re too old, if it’s too late, if no one will understand your complexity, your children, your history… Please hear me when I say-These are just fears.

Fears we absorb when we’re young.
Fears that tell us this isn’t possible, that can’t happen, that we should settle, that we should stay. The truth is everything is possible when you find yourself first.
Not perfection. Not certainty. Just yourself. Your clarity. Your worth. Your non-negotiables. Your capacity to love and be loved without losing yourself in the process.

I look at Paul today, 14 years later and I see someone who has held space for my healing, my culture, my children, my complexity. Someone who didn’t need me to be less Indian to love me. Someone who didn’t need me to erase my past to build a future with me, and I hope I’ve done the same for him.

This is not perfection. This is two people who knew brokenness and chose, daily, to build something whole together.

“In the midst of change and chaos, you have the power to reinvent yourself and create a future filled with happiness.”

“The end of a marriage is a comma, not a full stop in your life.”

So here’s to 14 years 🥂
Here’s to second chances that feel like first loves. Here’s to cultural fusion and Sunday curries and teaching seven children that love is expansive, not limited. Here’s to everyone still sitting on that boundary, wondering if they deserve more. You do.

And when you’re ready to choose yourself, to choose truth over comfort, to choose possibility over fear, Your happiness is waiting.

With all my love and celebration, Wellness With Kajal

09/02/2026

Last week, my former clients took me to lunch. Not because their marriage worked out, but because their divorce did.

For seven months, I supported two people through the end of a 19-year marriage. When they first sat in my office, the air was thick with hurt, resentment, and exhaustion.

As a relationship therapist specialising in conscious uncoupling, I don’t take sides. I create space for emotional regulation, healthy communication, and psychological safety so that even when love ends, dignity remains. High-conflict separations create lasting emotional wounds that ripple through families and future relationships. But emotionally supported separations lead to resilience, better mental health, and genuine life satisfaction.

Over months of therapeutic work, something shifted. They stopped seeing each other as enemies and started seeing two people who once loved, learned, and grew together. They learned to communicate again, not as partners, but as adults choosing peace over pain.

Last week we shared lunch, we laughed, we reflected, and most beautifully, they sat at the same table, smiling at each other, knowing their journeys were now separate yet still respectful.

All legal and financial matters complete. Both moving forward with clarity, calm, and self-respect. They just wanted to say thank you.

This is why I do this work! Breakups don’t have to break people. With the right support, endings become beginnings.

To anyone navigating relationship challenges, separation, or divorce, you’re not failing, you’re evolving. You deserve healing, peace, and a future free from resentment, and it is possible.

I walk alongside clients during these tender transitions, helping them move from conflict to clarity, from pain to empowerment, from endings to new beginnings using my 5-Body Method that addresses the mental, emotional, physical, energetic, and spiritual dimensions of healing.

If you or someone you know is struggling through a difficult relationship transition, let’s talk. Sometimes the most courageous thing you can do is ask for support. fans

05/02/2026

The Spice Cabinet That Taught Me About Relationships

My mother kept 82 spices in her pantry, each one carefully sourced, deliberately chosen, and precisely blended for different purposes.

As a child, I watched her move between these bowls with intuitive knowing. She understood that some flavours needed to dominate, others to support. That timing mattered. That the wrong combination could overpower, but the right one could transform.

She taught me that complexity isn’t confusion—it’s mastery.
Now, as a relationship therapist, I see the same truth in my work with couples:
Every relationship is its own unique blend. What works for one couple would be completely wrong for another. There’s no one-size-fits-all recipe for connection.

The art isn’t in following someone else’s formula, it’s in understanding:
🫶Which elements need to be stronger
🫶What’s missing that would bring balance
🫶When to add heat, and when to let things cool
🫶How different ingredients interact and either enhance or cancel each other out.

Just like my mother never reached for the same spices every time, I don’t prescribe the same approach to every couple.

The 5-Body Method I use addressing mental, emotional, physical, energetic, and spiritual dimensions gives us the full spice cabinet to work with, because true relationship healing isn’t about following a recipe, I t’s about learning to taste what’s actually there, understanding what’s needed, and having the courage to create something that’s authentically yours.

What’s one “ingredient” in your relationship that you’ve discovered makes all the difference?

05/02/2026

My yesterday’s post had many inquiries and questions! Many of you have asked what I do with the salt the next morning, so I wanted to explain a little more.

When I feel energetically heavy, I place a small bowl of salt by my bedside for three nights (sometimes longer), along with my prayers and intention, and allow it to absorb anything that no longer serves me while I rest.

In the morning, it’s important to release the salt into moving water, either through a running tap or into a flowing river or stream if you have access to one. Moving water carries energy. It cleanses, transforms, and takes away what has been released. Stagnant water does not hold the same clearing power.

I gently cover the salt with a cloth, without looking at it, and surrender it to the water as an act of trust and letting go. It becomes a beautiful process of release.

Salt has its own natural wisdom. It absorbs, purifies, and dissolves what no longer belongs. When combined with water, it supports deep energetic cleansing.

This is one of many rituals I personally practise. Some of the work I do with my daily practice with clients and especially during my retreats, is very sacred and cannot always be shared on social media. Many rituals are bespoke, guided by the person, the space, and the moment.

This particular practice is gentle, safe, and can be done at home with the right intention, faith, and respect.

Always remember, it is not just about the ritual, but the energy, presence, and love you bring to it. fans

04/02/2026

Where salt sits, unwanted energies cannot stay.

When I was little, my mother had a ritual that shaped how I work today.

On nights she felt the energy was heavy, she’d place a small bowl of salt on our bedside table. Then she’d guide us through our prayers and remind us, “The salt will do its work while you sleep.”

I never questioned it, I just trusted her ancient knowing.

Now, as a trauma-informed relationship therapist, I understand exactly what she was doing. Salt, born of sun and sea, is one of nature’s most powerful purifiers. It absorbs what we cannot see, the tension we picked up during the day, the energies we absorbed from others, the emotional residue we didn’t realise we were still carrying.

Our bodies are 70% water. That water carries salt. We are literally made of the ocean, and just like the tides, we need to release what no longer serves us.

This is the kind of soul work I do with my clients addressing all five bodies: mental, emotional, physical, energetic, and spiritual. Because healing a relationship means healing the whole person, and sometimes, the most profound shifts come from the simplest rituals.

That humble bowl beside the bed sits vigil through the night, drawing out what you don’t need to carry into tomorrow. Creating space for rest that actually restores. For nervous systems to settle. For good intentions to take root.

This salt ritual is one of the practices we integrate during my retreats and in my work with couples and individuals navigating disconnection and transition.

So I’m curious to know, if any of you have you ever tried placing salt by your bedside?

Drop a 🧂 below if this resonates, or let me know if you’d like to learn more about this kind of soul-level healing work. fans

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