Heal 2 Thrive Counselling & Breathwork

Heal 2 Thrive Counselling & Breathwork I am a psychotherapeutic counsellor, hypnotherapist and Integral eye movement therapist.

My Therapy room is in Rayleigh Essex, but I offer online & telephone counselling to clients based anywhere in the UK

Some days I wake up, don’t look at my phone, make a herbal tea, and do breathwork while listening to a meditation. Other...
12/05/2026

Some days I wake up, don’t look at my phone, make a herbal tea, and do breathwork while listening to a meditation.

Other days I switch the telly on straight away, have coffee for breakfast, whilst doom scrolling and my brain immediately starts running through everything I need to today and basically for the rest of my life 🤣 while also replaying every awkward thing I’ve ever done and said since about 1997.

Years ago, I would’ve thought one version of me was doing life right and the other was failing.
I used to believe that If I can’t stick to healthy routines perfectly every day, then there’s no point doing them at all.
Psychologically many brains especially anxious,perfectionistic, neurodivergent, or trauma affected ones don’t respond well to too many rigid rules.

Sometimes wellness and self care quietly becomes more pressure.However, our nervous systems don’t heal through shame. They heal through safety, flexibility, self-compassion, and gently returning to the things that help us.

One thing I do personally find useful though, is trying not to completely abandon the habits that support me for too long.
If I stop doing them for too many days in a row, I usually notice the difference in myself and instead of using that as proof I’ve failed, I try to use it as a gentle reminder to come back to myself again. 💛

Maybe the real win isn’t perfect consistency. Maybe it’s learning to return to the healthy habits without guilt tripping ourselves and causing more shame.

(As you can see from the picture… today was a herbal tea day 😉)👌🤣☕️🫖❤️


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My first group as a qualified breathwork facilitatorWhat an experience… facilitating breathwork in a beautiful villa in ...
06/05/2026

My first group as a qualified breathwork facilitator

What an experience… facilitating breathwork in a beautiful villa in the Ibizan hills, surrounded by incredible people, witnessing emotional releases, tears, laughter, and connection.
A real pinch-me moment that I know I’ll carry with me for a long time.ll

A huge thank you to Sarah for trusting me and believing in me enough to invite me to facilitate at her first European retreat. She believed in me & trusted me before I had started my training and that meant everything to me.

I also want thank the people that volunteered to be my case studies. Thank you for giving me your time, your trust, your openness, and allowing me to learn and grow alongside you. You helped shape my confidence more than you probably realise & I wouldn’t have completed the course without you.

Finally a big thank you to Connolly for creating the Breathwork training. I explored a few different styles of breathwork before this, but after experiencing Josh’s session at Ohm & Bass Festival last year, something just clicked for me.
It was the first time the breathing pattern, the structure of the session, and the idea that you are always in control of your own experience had been explained in a way that truly resonated with me. No forcing, no pressure just choice, safety, and connection to the body.
I remember thinking, this is it. This is the way I want to facilitate.

A few days later, the training was announced now here I am, facilitating my own group. A full circle moment.So proud of myself for following the nudge, stepping outside of my comfort zone, and trusting that this path was unfolding for a reason.

There’s something so beautiful about watching people soften, release, and come back to themselves through the breath. I honestly can’t wait to bring this work home to The Nest and share it with more people creating space for the body to release what words sometimes can’t reach ❤️

Intimate breathwork sessions coming to The Nest in Rayleigh very soon.

Your body speaks before your mind explainsHave you ever noticed. Sometimes your reaction doesn’t start with a thought it...
15/04/2026

Your body speaks before your mind explains

Have you ever noticed. Sometimes your reaction doesn’t start with a thought it starts with a feeling in your body.

A tight chest.
A knot in your stomach.
Heart beating faster
A sudden wave of irritation.
Often afterwards our minds try to make sense of it.
We are often taught to trust our thoughts first to analyse, rationalise, explain. But the body works differently.

It notices tone
It notices energy
It notices when something doesn’t quite feel right
even when you don’t have the words yet.

Something I’ve started doing is pausing in that moment
instead of rushing to figure it out.
Just noticing:

Where do I feel this?
What is this feeling trying to tell me?

Not to jump to conclusions, not to react straight away but just to listen.Because sometimes that tightness, that shift, that subtle discomfort isn’t random, isn’t you being too sensitive & isn’t something to ignore
It might be your body picking up on something important
before your mind catches up.
Maybe next time your body gives you a sign pause and ask is there a need, a feeling, or a boundary asking for your attention?”

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F**k it Bucket 🪣 One of the things I often use with clients when everything feels overwhelming is something very simple....
09/04/2026

F**k it Bucket 🪣

One of the things I often use with clients when everything feels overwhelming is something very simple.

Three Buckets :

🪣 Act on now
🪣 Save for later
🪣 F**k it

Because when our mind is busy or anxious,it tends to treat everything as equally urgent and that’s when overwhelm kicks in.

So we slow it right down.We write each worry, thought, or problem
onto a separate piece of paper.
One by one.

Then we sort them:

• What needs action right now → Act on now
• What can wait → Save for later
• What isn’t ours to carry → F**k it

We don’t just do this in our minds by talking it through, we do it physically. We scrunch up the ones for the “f**k it” bucket and throw them in. Because sometimes your nervous system needs to feel the letting go not just understand it.

There’s something powerful about the movement.The release.
The clear signal to your body and mind.

“ I’m not carrying this anymore.”

Not everything needs your energy.
Not everything needs solving.
Some things… you can put down.
Some things need your attention.
Some things need your patience and some things…

just need a firm f**k it a good scrunch and a decent throwing arm.

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Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it - I love this quote by Maya AngelouI’ve been...
07/04/2026

Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it - I love this quote by Maya Angelou

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. How easy it is to look back on a moment in your life and see it so clearly now.
To notice what you missed.
To wish you’d chosen differently.
To feel that quiet pull of “I should have known.”

There are parts of my own story I still revisit sometimes moments where, the person I am now, would have done things so differently and yet , I often find myself saying to my clients “ You made the best decision you could with what you knew and felt at the time.”

It’s something I believe deeply for others but yet when it comes to me it’s something I really have to remind myself of.
Because that version of us back then wasn’t lacking or failing.They were living it in real time with the feelings we felt then, the reality of life for us then and
without the clarity that only comes later.

Maybe healing isn’t about going back and wishing it was different but about looking back with softer eyes and self compassion instead of judging ourselves and beating ourselves up .Compassion instead of criticism like we would give to a best friend.

Life and growth gave you a new perspective, not proof that you got it wrong

❤️🙏❤️‍🩹🌿

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Something I often do with clients is ask them to map out their life as a pie chart.It helps them to see where their time...
01/04/2026

Something I often do with clients is ask them to map out their life as a pie chart.
It helps them to see where their time, energy and attention are going.

Work
Relationships
Rest
Health
Social life
Time for themselves

Of course, we are all living within the same 24 hours.
For many of us, work takes up a large portion of that and life doesn’t always leave as much space as we’d like for everything else.

Often it highlights something important maybe one area has quietly taken over or another disappeared.Sometimes the smallest slice is the one that needs the most care.
There’s something about seeing it on paper,
it can make things clearer in a way that just thinking about it doesn’t.

It is something you can do at home. If you were to draw yours today… what would it show?

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Apparently it’s insanity but sometimes honestly It’s just being human. We repeat what we know.We stay where it feels fa...
30/03/2026

Apparently it’s insanity but sometimes honestly It’s just being human. We repeat what we know.

We stay where it feels familiar.
Even when it’s not really working anymore.Repetition isn’t insanity.It’s often protection.

Our patterns, even the ones that frustrate us usually formed for a reason. At some point, they helped us feel safe, cope, or get through something difficult.
So it makes sense that we return to them.Even when they no longer serve us.

Maybe the work isn’t about pushing yourself to change overnight,but gently understanding what’s been keeping you safe. And from that place of understanding, change becomes possible not forced, but supported.

You are not broken.
Your patterns make sense.
You don’t have to figure them out alone. 💛

Something New Unfolding I’ve been a little quieter on here lately not because nothing’s been happening,but because I’ve ...
19/03/2026

Something New Unfolding

I’ve been a little quieter on here lately not because nothing’s been happening,but because I’ve been immersed in my work — both with clients and in my own learning.

Over the past few months I’ve been training in breathwork, something I have felt drawn to for a while and after experiencing the power of it myself confirmed that this style of breathwork was the right one for me.

In therapy, working with our thoughts and understanding our patterns is so important.But I’m also seeing more and more how the body holds onto what hasn’t yet been processed emotions that were never fully felt, expressed, or released.
Sometimes healing isn’t just about thinking differently it’s about gently allowing the body to do what it’s been needing to do all along.

I’m about halfway through my case studies now,and I’ve been genuinely blown away by what I’ve seen, felt and the feedback I’ve received so far.

It’s also reminded me how loud the inner critic and imposter thoughts can be when we begin to stretch beyond our comfort zone, at times I’ve even caught myself thinking, “oh for goodness sake, I thought we were done with this” a gentle reminder that that voice often shows up when we’re stepping into something new.But even after a few practices, I’ve felt it begin to soften and quieten.

I’m still practising and creating playlists and finding my way with it but something about it feels very aligned and I am very excited to be able to offer this soon.


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14/02/2026

Roses are red
Violets are blue
Romantic love is lovely
But first you need to love you ❤️🫶❤️

Give yourself some of the love you give away ❤️

“ What If “ A powerful phrase I’m hearing a lot this weekWhat if I fail What if it isn’t the right thing for me What if ...
13/02/2026

“ What If “ A powerful phrase I’m hearing a lot this week

What if I fail
What if it isn’t the right thing for me
What if I have made the wrong decision
What if It sends me backwards

What if often holds our fear of getting it wrong or of not being enough. What ifs are usually our minds trying to protect us from risk, regret & disappointment. But sometimes this can keep us small and hold us back.

What if always make me think of this line….

“ what if I fall? Oh but my darling what if you fly

We rarely ask the hopeful “what if.” The one that leaves room for things to go right.

What if it works out?
What if this is the turning point?
What if you’re more capable than you think?

What if you learn something valuable either way?

What if this decision leads you closer to yourself?

Sometimes freedom begins
when we let possibility speak as loudly as fear.

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