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26/02/2026

26/02/2026

I've attended required group supervision sessions where the welcome has been.....um......less than warm.

I've been left facing equipment I didn't know..... feeling stupid..... left alone as those who knew helped themselves and then walked off....

I spent that morning without.

Blocked from asking questions. .... not only about the new-to-me equipment, but also more profession specific enquiries.

That group meeting did not see me again.

If you are looking for a group that welcomes you, asks you if you're ok, offers suitable guidance (especially with equipment!) then keep an eye on here.

With an NHS acknowledged supervisor qualification, nearly 30 years of experience, here could be a decent enough place to come for support, guidance, conversation.

Bookmark here..... I'll be back with details when figured and secured.

23/02/2026

A gentle reminder for those who, like me, don't have the excellent memory of an elephant 🐘

My fees increased at the start of this month.
A reluctant increase, but having held fees the same for years, it is now necessary in order to continue.

Thank you for your understanding and continued confidence.

Ros.

22/02/2026

What a joy to have seen so much of the sun today!

After an interminable run of dreary, dreich and rainy weather, the sunshine brought a sense of uplift and promise of the Spring and Summer to come.

Here's to the waking earth and energies of growth 🙏

Wishing you all a good-enough week.

Ros

21/02/2026

Too many times!

Way too many times folk have sat with me - brave folk, for trying again with a mental health practitioner! - and told me of lots of this nonsense.

Blaming the person - "why didn't you leave?" and other such nonsense.

Sadly I have seen this first hand in the psych wards..... and I had to manage that professional out of the way. Their whole thing of "we know what we're doing, we're the professionals, you don't...." was an outrageous stance when speaking with rightfully worried relatives on the phone.

Outrageous.

Here, with me, you will not hear any of this nonsense.
You don't have to persuade me to believe you.
I've probably seen it, so I don't need persuading.

Equally, and shockingly, I've sat with folk who have told of previous 'therapists' who worked on the theory that to process and heal from trauma, they - the therapist - would need to provoke, deliberately , full-on flashbacks.

W. T. H.

Hallo???? If you're in utter survival mode, there's no 'processing' available!

And what the heck was that?! Some sad voyeuristic level of the therapist feeling good about themselves because the person they sat with was now wrecked? WTH.
Not here.

Not ever.

Having said that, if an accidental trigger is discovered , we can address that.
You will be safe.

Ever the alleged maverick - because I never really believed all the statutory psychiatry stuff....

So, you're welcome to join me in a journey of discovery.
It just won't be the same as you've had before.

Contact to discuss
E: contact@timeforcounselling.co.uk
Text: 07906260310

"Top 10 Bad Things Therapists Say to Trauma Survivors"

Having fired 13 mental illness industry workers in 6.5 years, I experienced a lot of indifference and harm. These are not isolated events; they are endemic in an industry that denies the reality of trauma.

1. Dismissing or Minimizing the Trauma:

“That was a long time ago. Why does it still affect you?”

“Other people have been through worse.”

“It’s time to move on.”

“You’re letting this define you.”

“You’re stuck in a victim mentality.”

2. Gaslighting or Invalidating Experiences:

“Are you sure that really happened?”

“Maybe you’re misremembering.”

“Your perception might be distorted.”

“It probably wasn’t as bad as you think.”

3. Pathologizing Normal Trauma Responses:

“You’re overreacting.”

“You’re being too sensitive.”

“That’s just your anxiety talking.”

“You have to change your thinking.”

4. Blaming or Implying Personal Responsibility:

“What did you do to attract this?”

“You have to take responsibility for your part.”

“If you keep focusing on it, you’re choosing to suffer.”

“Forgiveness is for you, not them.”

5. Over-Reliance on Cognitive Techniques:

“Let’s reframe that thought.”

“Just challenge the belief.”

“Your feelings aren’t facts.”

“Let’s do some CBT worksheets.”

6. Forcing Exposure or Emotional Overload:

“You need to talk about it to heal.”

“Reliving it will help you process it.”

“Just sit with the discomfort.”

“You have to push through it.”

7. Toxic Positivity or Oversimplified Solutions:

“Everything happens for a reason.”

“Just practice gratitude.”

“You’re strong, you’ll get through this.”

“Focus on the positive.”

8. Ignoring the Nervous System and Somatic Experience:

“It’s all in your head.”

“Your body is reacting for no reason.”

“Just breathe through it.”

“Have you tried meditation?”

9. Dismissing Systemic or Institutional Harm:

“Maybe they didn’t mean it that way.”

“You have to work within the system.”

“The legal process is what it is.”

“Not all doctors/therapists/police are like that.”

10. Using Therapy Jargon to Avoid Accountability:

“You’re resistant to treatment.”

“You have trust issues.”

“Maybe you just aren’t ready to heal.”

“You need to work on your attachment wounds.”

20/02/2026

This makes sense to me.

Those moments during the day when we allow 'noticing without judgement ' can add up...
And automatically, that day hasn't been 100% filled with high-volume alert status. It can't be.... because of even just one moment of 'noticing'....

19/02/2026

Blatant effort to raise page engagement!

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19/02/2026

This!

19/02/2026

An appointment has become available -

Wednesday 25th February at 2pm, online.

If you'd like to book this, get in touch 👍

19/02/2026

There are times when enough is enough.

This far, and no further.

We can withstand, accept (for want of a better word), reason away.....

But when that limit is hit!

It can surprise a lot of people around us - those who have been so used to being able to dump, blame, use, expect....
When that avenue is closed because we can't give anything more, oftentimes those who now have to shoulder their own burdens are unhappy to be forced to do so.

Healing ourselves can sometimes bring negative reactions from those around us.

In my work, we consider this potential.

We are, after all, tribe people. We need those around us. And if there's a possibility of those others reacting negatively to our improvement, we need to consider this before it comes to pass. To be ready for the possibility.

18/02/2026

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Worth a try if sleep is being evasive...