14/05/2026
The art of not turning your lover into the villain of your childhood by Christopher Sexton
intimacy is just two wounded people
trying not to weaponize their history
while asking each other
“can you stay with me
when i’m not easy to love?”
you can win the argument
and lose the connection,
or lose your pride
and discover the person
suffocating beneath
your projections.
you’ll trigger me.
i’ll trigger you.
question is:
when we explode
do we reach for each other
or the exit?
yes,
your wound is real
but so is your addiction
to making someone else the monster
so you don’t have to meet your own shadows.
listen babe, you can be hurt
without turning them into the villain.
but that requires a kind of heart
blame simply can’t afford.
you call it “speaking your truth”
but it sounds like unprocessed thunder
breaking everything
just to feel heard.
language is a hallway of doors.
every sentence you open
leads somewhere.
so tell me:
are you inviting them closer
or pushing them out of the house
you swear you’re trying to build?
maybe you need to shake it out
before you speak it out.
maybe you need to write it down
before you rewrite the relationship.
maybe you need to read it
like it’s being said to you.
still feel like love?
or a loaded gun?
your truth deserves poetry,
but you keep spitting out bullets.
no wonder no one feels safe enough
to stay naked.
you can be shattered
and still refuse
to sharpen your tongue
into a sword
that forgot
it once belonged
to a mouth made for kissing.
Amazing poetry by
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