Talk to Natalie - Counselling & Wellbeing Service in Suffolk

17/11/2025

09/11/2025

Check out this new local service by Sarah....

A free 1-Hour Session introducing the Flourish Midlife model with ST Therapy Services Ltd

​​Midlife is often painted as a time of loss or decline but the truth is, it can be a powerful chapter of renewal, growth and confidence. Flourish Midlife is a six-week programme designed especially for women who want to navigate this stage with clarity, strength and purpose.

09/11/2025

It's important to remember, as we can so easily forget....
'Greater love has no-one than this; that they lay their life down for their friends '

Some of my family, from Long Melford and surrounding villages, served in the Suffolk regiment and land army during WW2.
My Great-Grandfather was saved from shrapnel by his Bible in his top pocket, otherwise I may not have been here, or others in my family.
The worst of times create the most incredible stories of survival, love and bravery.

Brilliant remembrance service attended this morning and tonight one of my favourite movies Hacksaw Ridge ; a perfect example of courage and a person being their True Self in the face of adversity, something we so often work on in counselling.

07/11/2025

My evening at Eden's Project....
Fire pits offer young people benefits like teaching fire safety, enjoying fun and social bonding, mindfulness, building life skills, and being outdoors in nature.

S'mores are on the go

Fire pit night is the best 🔥

05/11/2025

Co-regulation isn’t about fixing someone.
It’s about showing up — calm, steady, and present — so their nervous system can remember what safety feels like.
That’s what secure attachment really is: not perfection, but presence.

04/11/2025

After school drop ins, Home Ed group, Friday nights and wellbeing sessions with myself for high school aged young people in Sudbury available. Please share with those families that may benefit.

03/11/2025

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You don’t have to do it all. It’s about choosing the things you care about the most and prioritising them, rather than rushing through them, and spreading yourself too thinly, which can ultimately lead to burnout.

And in order to do that, it’s about setting boundaries and saying ‘No’, which is often something we’re not accustomed to and find challenging. Perhaps saying ‘no’ to our own expectations, or ‘no’ to other people’s expectations of us. No, to the things that drain us and, instead, a deliberate ‘yes’ to the things that are important to us and give us joy and purpose. It’s important to check in with what we really need in life to thrive and prioritise self-care 🧡🍁🧡🍂🧡

    

02/11/2025

23/10/2025

23/10/2025

Everyone can benefit from therapy, and I think 90% of the global population has some form of childhood trauma or⁠ attachment wounding. I tend to not believe people when they tell me their childhood was great, yet they can't manage full intimacy and effective conflict in relationships.⁠
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Perhaps the most frustrating scenario as a therapist, and I think other therapists would agree, is the client asking for help in trying to get their partner to look at their own issues and either go to individual or couple's or something - anything.⁠
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What is it like for one person doing the work?⁠
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*noticing your partner's reactions and stuck places for them⁠
*advising on their issues when it gets bad for them, but still no changes⁠
*codependently trying to get them to read the books, watch the vids⁠
*trying to improve better parenting of children, but in a silo (no team)⁠
*navigating sticky family or social situations FOR the partner such as MIL, siblings, FIL⁠
*holding all the emotional space⁠
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Many things are true at the same time in these examples, and the person doing the work is usually codependent and overstepping and the person NOT doing the work is both allowing for that and benefiting in some way.⁠
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And yes, sometimes the person going to therapy can be triggered, controlling and acting out by projecting family stuff onto the partner, but that tends to be a TINY minority of couple presentations.⁠
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But again, the majority is one person is putting in effort and half of that is the energy keeping the stuck partner/relationship going.⁠
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At worst, the partner is highly dismissive of problems and will never go/do something. At best, they need boundaries, a hitting of a bottom of sorts or deal breaking conversations to wake up.⁠
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My most successful couples both did work individually and collectively, and were aware of their childhoods.