Nya - Counsellor and Therapist

28/04/2025

If you are looking for face to face therapy in Sunbury or via video call anywhere in the UK, I have 2 new spaces just become available. Do take a look at my BACP page and book in for an initial session to see if you would like to work together.

Therapy is for everyone and changes lives.

17/02/2025

"I’m curious if you might find yourself attending therapy with the cognitive ‘problem-fixing’ part of yourself trying to do all the work, feeling that there is something external you need to ‘do’ to feel better, whilst your more vulnerable emotional self is closed away and unavailable for emotional connection and reparation?"

Does this resonate with anyone? I know it might for some of my clients.

Quote from unknown other counsellor

13/01/2025

Morning all. A theme that comes up in my practice often is clients who did not have their emotional needs met by their parents as children. It can be hard for some clients to "do the work" there as some people can have feelings around being disloyal or wondering if things were as bad as they remember. Of course we all have many parts and there can be good childhood memories and we can love our family but the fact still remains that our behaviours in the present have been impacted by how we were brought up.

What we seek to do in psychotherapy is to understand and bring things previously buried into self awareness to make shifts - we are not here to blame anyone else or judge. The very people who did not meet our emotional needs were very likely not to have had their own needs met. Understanding, exploring and remaining curious can be so powerful.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Adult-Children-Emotionally-Immature-Parents/dp/1626251703

A book to consider below.

I have space for 2 new clients from this month if you or anyone you know wants to explore this or any other issues in 2025.

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

05/09/2024

Spaces available! Hello everyone. I have 2 spaces for new clients opening up from next week so if you know anyone who is thinking about counselling, they may wish to get in touch.

Do share this status on your page if you are happy to do so as you never know who might be looking for a therapist on your friends list. People can decide for themselves the best fit for them from an initial session or by reaching out by email or phone.

Face to face, walk and talk, video, phone, live typed chat. Different mediums work for different people.

Did you know that research shows us that the most important thing about therapy is not the modality or experience of the therapist but the quality of the therapeutic relationship built?

https://www.bacp.co.uk/profile/b53c3b39-b313-eb11-a813-000d3ab852db

Take care of yourselves.

Registered Member MBACP offering support for Abuse, ADD / ADHD, Addictions, AIDS/HIV, Anger management, Anxiety, Autism spectrum, Bereavement, Cancer, Child related issues, Chronic fatigue syndrome / ME, Cultural issues, Depression, Disability, Health related issues, Identity issues, LGBTQ+ counsell...

22/04/2024

It is such a huge honour to do this work. I am buzzing today with the shifts in clients. We were always taught in training to "trust the process" and I was aware that this brought up irritation in me but I live and breathe that now.

It has come up a number of times in the last week, "purpose" with clients and how a lack of purpose is one of the factors that can make things tough.

I remember from my teens to mid thirties agonising over what my purpose is and it caused many a depressive episode.

As well as one other identified purpose, this work gives such purpose to my life.

Humans are amazing. I see it in every session. Thank you courageous clients.

13/02/2024

I thought this visual was really good and might be handy to others. Attachment comes into the therapeutic space so often. I have shared quizzes to get some idea of your attachment style before and this is so digestible to go alongside that.

Disorganized attachment 🙋🏼‍♀️⁣ 🤦🏼‍♀️
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08/02/2024

In Children's Mental Health week, I am often asked why I don't counsel children. Why, when I am a parent, have learnt so much, am a qualified therapist, there is such a need etc.

The words of the brilliant Dr Naomi Fisher help explain why.

"Psychologists and therapists will never have the same impact on mental health as changing the way we treat our children. We could have a therapist on every street corner, but their job is to intervene when things have gone wrong. Far more efficient is to change the environment which is making children distressed. We could have the best oncologists in the world, but all they do is treat people who are already ill. To reduce the levels of lung cancer, we need a smoking ban".

We don't need to train more child therapists, we need for society to understand needs based behaviour, attachment, the brain and attuned responses etc etc. They are not broken - their behaviour is helping us to do better. Us, the grown ups. The ones who are able to do the work, reflect, process our own historic unmet needs, examine our own triggers and motivations. I, for one, need to remind myself of this often. And then again. And again.

23/01/2024

Such a common theme in my practice. If this resonates, then do reach out for help if you didn't receive the core conditions as a child (empathy, unconditional positive regard and congruence) and want to work with that material to make shifts.

When the unspoken contract of parental love is broken.

17/01/2024

This comes up in client work a lot. Re-parenting ourselves if we are parents… and re-parenting ourselves even if we are not.

https://www.facebook.com/reel/421028550350000/?mibextid=rS40aB7S9Ucbxw6v

15/01/2024

Hello everyone. I said I would update here when I had any clients finishing so open for space for more. One spot has been taken from the waiting list but I have another space available if you/anyone you know (individual 16+) is looking for therapy.

I am happy to book someone in next week to see if we are the right fit for you.

Happy to answer any and all questions.

21/12/2023

Well, I have just clocked off for the year , having just seen my last client, until Wednesday 3rd January.

How honoured I am in my first full year of private practice to share the journeys of people who are ready to do "the work". What great shifts I have born witnessed to. People can do extraordinary things when the conditions are right.

This festive period can be challenging for many whether it be heightened themes of loss and grief, isolation or existing in the midsts of unhealthy patterns of relating and unhealed wounds. Many who are in a therapeutic relationship with a therapist will have a gap in their sessions too so here are some crisis lines for those this might be helpful to.

Samaritans. 116 123 or email jo@samaritans.org
24/7

CALM 0800 585858
Helpline for men. 5pm to midnight, 7 days. Webchat too.

SHOUT. Text only service 85258

PAPYRUS 0800 068 4141. For young people and their loved ones who are feeling suicidal.