Blossom Therapy Swaffham

03/10/2025

04/08/2025

No accountability, no apologies it’s that simple really. By denying that an event happened it enables the narcissist to project onto the victim- causing a fight. Which gives them more fuel, they may then gaslight them and eventually gets out of apologising at all whilst the victim is left wondering if it is in fact them that is the problem (it isn’t) but it’s clear how unwell these behaviours make victims of such abuse. It literally changes the make up of their brain. ❤️‍🩹 ̇st

03/08/2025

The most difficult part of estrangement wasn’t the character assassination I went through, accusations of heinous behaviour or even being accused of being a narcissist. It was realising the people I had loved all my life, weren’t the people I thought they were. That realisation rocked my world. Empathy that comes from lived experience cannot be taught from a book. That’s why I work holistically with each client, I meet them where they are, not where the world thinks they should be and THATS why they get better. That’s why I have a 5/5 rating. And I’ll always do my best, answer crisis calls at 2am and ensure everyone in my care gets the wrap around support they need.

26/07/2025

Be the support. Be the cheerleader. Be the change you want to see.

19/07/2025

14/07/2025

Have you ever wondered what you could do for friends, family or even yourself in a moment of crisis? Wonder no more! Resources, coping strategies and more in this one session mini course. £150 for two hours of therapy and support excellence! 💚 ❤️

12/07/2025

There are two things I have struggled with for years in my healing journey.
Speaking my truth—it might not seem like it, as I talk about my history all the time. However, having people in the wings who have told absolute lies about situations, conversations, and my character makes speaking out harder. The truth is the truth regardless of those lies. HRH the late Queen said it "best—"Recollections may vary."
And:
Separating terms so I can let go of the pain people caused me; for instance, most of the “family” I was born into has caused me some harm. Some more than others, but they are all guilty of doing something to hurt me for the sake of it, or to make themselves look/feel better about their actions.

Someone said something to me today that made me feel very differently about them. She said "it might help to tell yourself that “My abuser has no power over me!'" and just like that, I felt a weight lifted.

Just by giving them the term they deserve, the link to me as family has been severed. They will no longer be my mum/brother/sister/aunt/uncle, etc.; they will be categorised by their treatment of me and will no longer be seen as anything but the abusers they are.
I have also realised that when talking about those who have hurt you, other people's reactions change when you are a little vaguer about who the person was to you. This happens especially when mentioning family members. Experience dictates that a little context is not always enough to allow a balanced response. how many times have you mentioned something a close relative has done, and the response was “Oh, but they are your mum/dad/brother/sister”? It’s not always appropriate to give the amount of context needed for that response to be reasonable. By being vague about who they are, it frees the responding person from the societal expectations of these normally close relationships, and you will get a balanced response.

An abuser is an abuser, no matter what the relationship to you!
I have worked consistently on the trauma I have experienced at the hands of too many abusers throughout my lifetime, and the ones I was born to have been some of the most challenging to face and overcome.
The trigger today was seeing one of my abusers on a list of “people you might know.” Of course, on the older social media platforms, all these people are blocked, so it was a shock to realise that this person must have been looking me up or had friends in common. Neither situation is one I relish thinking about.
I cannot block this person without them being notified that I have seen their profile, so I have chosen to lock down my account. I may even start a completely different one in time. That’s how serious I am about my peace.
The immediate feeling of violation was like a punch to the chest, so I know it was connecting to sadness, but then fear. Pure, unadulterated fear of all the assaults restarting. Logically, I don’t think they will- I would hope that they have all moved on with their lives. However, who knows?
Since finding out my father passed away and no one informed me, I have categorically shut the door on anyone from my family being invited for a conversation should anyone in time have a change of heart in their actions. Some things cannot be forgiven.
One of the hardest things I have faced is being made to live without the family I had always loved. I tried my hardest to support each of them in various ways over the years, Babysitting, managing tricky meetings with the council, having difficult conversations with my siblings that my mother was incapable of, to name a few.
Don’t get me wrong, I was helped, too, but always with unspoken conditions attached.
I have been subjected to domestically abusive situations with partners, violence, sexual cruelty, financial abuse, and more. However, the trauma I suffered at the hands of the group I was born to surpasses it all.
I’ve said it before, and I'll say it again for context for those who don’t know me: having people you trusted character assassinate you whilst gaslighting you into believing you are the problem whilst posting sickening memes about large bodies of water is not something I'd wish on anyone.
Being called a narcissist, gold digger, liar, and jealous bitch by the person who birthed you, echoed by flying monkey siblings, has created a deep abandonment wound I am still healing from. I may never fully heal from it.
It is for these reasons and many more that I do what I do; my understanding and empathy for anyone who has suffered at similar hands are infinite. I write these articles for my healing, but also to help validate others who might not have my training, because it is difficult for me! Even with all the training I have had and the continued professional development, let alone the hurt person I was at the beginning of my healing journey. I am much more able to separate these feelings; however, they still hurt, and that might not ever change, and I know that.
It helps me stay positive knowing these words might help even one other person. You are not alone, you are seen, and if you ever need anything—a chat, a coffee, or a therapy session—please get in touch.