Cleft & Becoming

Cleft & Becoming Real life, day-to-day experiences, alongside confidence, identity, and emotional well-being.

A space for honesty, visibility, and the parts that don’t always get talked about. Connection, understanding, and support without judgment, fixing, or pressure.

11/05/2026

Not every cleft journey looks the same 🤍

Some people are loud and confident.
Some people avoid photos.
Some people tell everyone their story.
Some people never talk about it at all.

And all of those journeys are valid ✨

08/05/2026

“You’ve got courage in your cheeks and fire in your name.” 🤍

One of my favourite lines from The Smile That Changed the World because children born with cleft lip and palate truly are some of the bravest little humans.

This book was written to help children feel seen, understood, proud of who they are, and reminded that different smiles are still beautiful smiles.

It’s also for parents navigating appointments, surgeries, emotions, worries, and all the moments in between.

No child should grow up feeling ashamed of their scar, their speech, or their difference.

Our stories matter. Our smiles matter. 🤍

📚 The Smile That Changed the World available on Amazon.

05/05/2026

Not every hard moment with a cleft is about surgery or appointments.

Sometimes it’s the quiet things…

The feeding struggles
The worry about weight
The “are they okay?” thoughts that don’t switch off

If you’re in that place right now you’re not doing anything wrong.

Some parts of this journey are just harder, and it doesn’t mean you’re failing.

You’re learning, adapting, and doing your best in something that isn’t always straightforward.

And that matters more than you realise 🤍

30/04/2026

Some of the hardest parts of a cleft journey are the parts nobody really sees.

The appointments.
The waiting.
The worry before surgeries.
The overthinking afterwards.
Trying to stay strong for your child while carrying so much yourself.

And for those living with a cleft - sometimes it’s smiling confidently one day… and struggling quietly the next.

That’s why spaces built on real understanding matter so much 🤍

No judgement.
No “just be positive.”
Just support, honesty, and people who genuinely get it.

Whether you’re a parent navigating the journey, or someone living with a cleft yourself - you are not alone in this 💙

✨ Support
✨ Understanding
✨ Community
✨ Real conversations

And honestly? Sometimes just being able to talk things through with someone who understands can make all the difference.

28/04/2026

Hi everyone 🤍

I run Peaceful Alignment Wellbeing, alongside supporting the cleft community - and I’ve opened a few spaces this week for anyone who might need a bit of extra support.

This is especially for:
those living with a cleft (at any stage of the journey)
parents navigating appointments, emotions, and the day-to-day reality
anyone feeling overwhelmed, overthinking, or not quite themselves

Because behind the appointments, the strength, and the “getting on with it”… there’s often a lot that goes unspoken.

And sometimes, you don’t need advice - you just need space to talk, feel understood, and process things properly.

What I offer isn’t therapy - it’s real, down-to-earth wellbeing support and guidance to help you feel calmer, clearer, and more in control again.

✨ 1:1 wellbeing support (online & local)
✨ Walk & talk sessions
✨ Support with confidence, identity & emotional balance
✨ Space to talk things through - without judgement
✨ Group sessions coming soon

I’m qualified in coaching (including grief coaching), Mental Health First Aid trained, and currently training in hypnotherapy and counselling skills. Everything I offer is built around real understanding - both personal and professional.

👉 Intro sessions available this week:

Walk & talk £15 (local)
Online £15

I’m keeping it limited so I can give proper time and support - if this feels like something you might need, you’re always welcome to message 🤍

Even if you’re not sure, you can reach out for a chat first.




Peaceful Alignment Wellbeing

27/04/2026

Not everything you carry is visible.

Some of it looks like:
– overthinking every little thing
– feeling drained even when you’ve “done nothing”
– putting everyone else first, then wondering why you feel lost
– holding it together on the outside but struggling underneath

And the hardest part?
Most people don’t even realise you’re carrying it.

But you do.

And you’re allowed to say:
this is heavy

You’re allowed to want calm
You’re allowed to want clarity
You’re allowed to feel like yourself again

That’s where I come in.
Not to “fix” you - because you’re not broken.
But to support you, guide you, and help you find your way back to you.

✨ 1:1 support
✨ Walk & talk sessions
✨ Online & local
✨ Real, understanding, no judgement

If this hit home, message me or have a look at my page.
You don’t have to keep doing this on your own.

26/04/2026

I’ve finally launched something that feels really close to me 🤍

Peaceful Alignment Wellbeing

This has come from real life - from understanding what it feels like to carry everything on your own, overthink constantly, and still try to hold it all together on the outside.

I’m a qualified wellbeing coach, and I offer a range of support including 1:1 sessions, walk & talk sessions, and small supportive group spaces.

Everything I offer is centred around creating a calm, safe space where you can talk openly, feel heard, and start to make sense of what’s going on - at your own pace.

Sessions are available face to face locally (Swansea) and online.

I’m also currently training in counselling and hypnotherapy, which gently informs the way I support people, while staying within a non-clinical, supportive approach.

If this resonates with you, or you know someone who might need it, feel free to message me 🤍

Even just sharing this would mean a lot.🤍

14/04/2026

A few random facts about me:

I’ll re-read a message 5 times before sending it.
I hate hearing my own voice back.
I pick the same side in photos without thinking.
I notice lighting more than most people.
I’m always aware of where I’m standing in a room.

Oh… and I was born with a cleft.

Not everything revolves around it.
But it’s in the background of things you’d never even think about.

But here’s the powerful part…

None of that stopped me becoming who I am.

“My smile didn’t hold me back - it built me.”

01/04/2026

“Funny how something others hated… once gave me peace.”

When everyone complained about wearing masks…
I quietly felt relief.

For once, the part of my face I’d spent years explaining…
was just… covered.

No questions.
No second glances.
No trying to read people before they spoke.

Just me.

But now?

If I wear a mask, people look anyway.
Sometimes even more.

And I can’t help but think how ironic that is…

The one thing that once helped me blend in,
now makes me stand out.

So I stopped choosing based on them.

Because whether I cover my face or not…
people will always look.

And that’s when it clicked:

It was never really about the scar.
It was about the world’s reaction to it.

I don’t need the mask anymore.
But I’ll be honest…

Sometimes, I miss it.

27/03/2026

Things I’m tired of hearing as someone with a cleft:

“I didn’t even notice it”
(You did… you just didn’t know what to say)

“At least it’s not that bad”
(Compared to what exactly?)

“You’re still pretty though”
(Though?? 🤨)

“They can fix that, can’t they?”
(It’s not a broken toy)

Sometimes it’s not bullying that gets to you…
it’s the comments people think are kind.

So here’s a reminder:

You don’t need to be
“pretty despite it”
“confident considering it”
or
“fixed to be accepted”

You just get to be you.
Full stop.

Say it how it is.

We’re not fragile - we’re just done filtering it.

No one talks about this part.

Not the staring.
Not the obvious stuff.

The quiet comments.
The ones wrapped up as compliments.
The ones you’re supposed to just… accept.

But here’s the truth:

We hear everything.
We carry more than people realise.
And we’re allowed to say:
that didn’t feel okay.

Awareness isn’t just seeing us.
It’s understanding how you speak to us too.

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