Nicoleta Sandu Counselling

12/02/2023

In my practice, more and more I become aware that my therapeutic presence is far more important in supporting client’s change, than the techniques or interventions I employ.

Often is the case that my clients will forget what I did or said, but what seems to stay with them is how my presence made them feel (safe to express themselves, heard, understood) and how I have been with them in sessions (warm, open, spacious, attentive to their needs).

Practicing presence in my day to day life is essential in the process of creating neural pathways for presence to be experienced and sustained in the session with clients.

A favourite way of cultivating and strengthening my presence is through mindfulness practices, engaging all my senses.

26/10/2022

There so much wisdom stored in our bodies. We just need to slow down and learn to notice all the different states we’re in!

16/11/2021

The unseen trauma that most of us have experienced without even realising.

04/07/2021

“Many times when we are attempting to hold people accountable, we are unconsciously trying to control them. The real magic happens when we hold ourselves accountable + begin to create what we wish to experience in our own lives.” The Holistic Psychologist

28/05/2021

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“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself as I am, then I change.

I believe that I have learned this from my clients as well as within my own experience that we cannot change, we cannot move away from what we are until we thoroughly accept what we are.

Then change seems to come about almost unnoticed"

On Becoming a Person - Carl Rogers

15/04/2021

“Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness” Desmond Tutu

Therapy relies on a hope that the organism knows best that the tendancy is to grow towards the light, and intuitively knows a way back to our own healing.

Instilling hope through a therapeutic process can offer a renewed sense of possibility in our lives, although everything seems lost.

14/04/2021

“I had enough of feeling this anxious all the time, I want it gone and be normal again”

“Is not okay to feel angry, people will judge me. I want to control the way I feel.”

We are often getting the wrong idea that strong emotions need to be controlled 🎮 or pushed down 🌋.

Strong emotions are not bad for us, but rather they are the 🕊messengers 🕊that draw our attention on what is not right in our lives and where change is needed.

Let’s get curious 🤔 about them, let’s listen carefully to receive their message 💌.

Think of strong feelings as a signaling system.

14/04/2021

07/04/2021

“We have already been given everything we need; our task is to assemble and use it in the appropriate way. Nothing is meaningful as long as we perceive only separate fragments. But as soon as the fragments come together into a synthesis, a new entity emerges, whose nature we could not have foreseen by considering the fragments alone.” Piero Ferrucci

23/03/2021

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