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Matt Licata on griefhttps://www.facebook.com/share/1AJj7dqwyM/
07/01/2026

Matt Licata on grief

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On Grief

For sensitive, empathic, relationally oriented people, grief is often learned early as something to manage quietly. Loss disrupted stability. Someone left. Something ended. Love was followed by absence.

And the nervous system made an intelligent, protective decision: I must not fall apart.

So grief learned to hold itself in. The chest tightened. The breath shortened. Tears were swallowed, postponed, or learned to disappear altogether. Composure became a form of safety. Functioning became a virtue. The system learned how to keep going.

The grief did not disappear. It went underground.

It often returns as fatigue, emotional flatness, or a vague ache without a clear story. A sense of moving through life slightly behind glass. Present, but not fully touched. Capable, but subtly dulled.

None of this is weakness. None of this is failure. It is attachment history stored in the body.

From a somatic perspective, grief is not collapse. It is love with nowhere to go. It is the nervous system orienting again and again toward what mattered, and finding only absence in return.

Without enough safety, the system constricts around that absence. We stay functional. We stay meaningful. We keep moving forward. But something essential remains unwept.

This is why grief is so often misunderstood in our world. We are encouraged to “let go” before the body has finished holding on. To reframe loss before it has been metabolized. To rise above sorrow instead of allowing it to move through us.

Unmet grief does not disappear. It becomes guardedness. Difficulty receiving. A quiet reluctance to love fully again, not because the heart is closed, but because it remembers how much was lost.

The work of grief is not to dwell in sadness. It is to restore the body’s capacity to feel love without fear of annihilation.

When grief is met slowly, relationally, and with enough safety, it often softens into devotion — love no longer bound to form, but no less real for having changed.

Grief is not the opposite of love. It is love asking to be felt all the way through.

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This is so simple and yet profound. "Neck pain bowling ball syndrome". Misalignment can create a sympathetic, always on...
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"Neck pain bowling ball syndrome". Misalignment can create a sympathetic, always on experience in the nervous system if the head is not in alignment.

Traumas, postural habits, using phones and leaning towards computer screens can exacerbate this.

'Bowling ball cranial techniques'

Posture and neck pain. Neck Isometrics Video: https://youtu.be/0K36kwM9Kls?si=zZGKaNNZ_-X5Zro9 Virtual Consultations: https://www.stopchasingpain.com/consultations/

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