Cara Phelps Cognitive Hypnotherapy

Cara Phelps Cognitive Hypnotherapy Personalised therapy and coaching for adults and children. Treating people not labels! Appointments can be in person or online.

Free yourself from anxiety, depression, trauma, stress, unwanted habits, fears, phobias and limiting beliefs to become more conscious and create a better future! I specialise in empowering women and girls, of all ages, to overcome stress, anxiety, trauma, and depression through personalised hypnosis and therapeutic techniques. I provide a compassionate, supportive space for women and girls seeking to heal, build confidence and self-worth.

As a cognitive hypnotherapist and life coach, I've learned that the saying "You can’t pour from an empty cup" holds prof...
04/10/2025

As a cognitive hypnotherapist and life coach, I've learned that the saying "You can’t pour from an empty cup" holds profound truth, especially for stressed mothers.

I recognise how easily our own emotional well-being gets sidelined while caring for our children.

It's common to feel pressure to be everything for everyone, but neglecting ourselves can lead to burnout and affect our families.

Here's my takeaway: Make it a point today to prioritise your well-being, even if it’s just a moment of calm with a cup of tea or a few minutes in nature. You deserve that respite.

How does this resonate with you?

I invite you to share your thoughts or any tips you have for nurturing your mental health in the comments!

No one talks about this, but it’s the real key to breaking cycles: The moment you pause...mid-pattern, mid-reaction, mi...
29/09/2025

No one talks about this, but it’s the real key to breaking cycles:
The moment you pause...mid-pattern, mid-reaction, mid-shame spiral..that is progress.

It doesn’t always look like calm parenting.
Sometimes it looks like stepping outside to breathe instead of slamming the door.
Sometimes it’s realising “I’m triggered” instead of saying something you’ll regret.

If all you did today was pause…
You did something powerful.

📌 Save this post for the days you forget how far you’ve come.

The mistake most mums make is thinking healing has to look neat, calm, or constant.

But the truth is: growth often hides in the mess you didn’t repeat in exactly the old way.

Here’s what progress really looks like when you’re reprogramming deep-rooted responses:

➤ You catch yourself mid-pattern.
Think: “I was about to yell, but I paused.” That pause rewires your nervous system more than perfection ever will.

➤ You shorten your recovery time.
You may still react but you return to connection sooner. That shift is neuroplasticity in action.

➤ You choose to repair instead of self-destruct.
A soft “I’m sorry that came out like that” can teach your child more than hours of filtered parenting advice.

➤ You track your redirections, not just your reactions.
Start a small journal. One line a day: “I paused before I replied.” That’s evidence. That’s healing.

Most people get stuck trying to erase old behaviours, which fuels shame when they resurface.
But with the right tools, you learn how to relate to your patterns differently and that changes everything.

DM me to book a 1:1 call so you can finally stop doubting your progress and start recognising the quiet strength in your healing.

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If parenting seems like an emotional rollercoaster that leaves you feeling permanently stressed, anxious, exhausted and ...
24/09/2025

If parenting seems like an emotional rollercoaster that leaves you feeling permanently stressed, anxious, exhausted and full of guilt, you are not alone!

I felt this way for years. Desperately trying to be a good mum but never feeling good enough! Always trying to make sure everyone else was happy so that I could finally feel ok.

My life and my parenting changed when I discovered Cognitive Hypnotherapy.

Cognitive hypnotherapy can help by;

- giving you tools and techniques
to help you manage stress and emotional responses.

- uncovering your unconscious beliefs about yourself and what it means to be a parent then changing these beliefs to empower you.

- heal from any trauma or past experiences that are shaping your parenting.

- reframing negative thoughts to develop a more positive mindset.

- changing unhealthy habits and behaviours to set a better example to your children.

If you're trying to be a better parent and are constantly stressed, anxious and exhausted, I can help you!

DM me to book a free consultation and discover a different way of parenting that leaves you feeling calm, connected and in control.

Have you ever wondered how your childhood experiences shape the way you parent? Understanding yourself and your emotions...
20/09/2025

Have you ever wondered how your childhood experiences shape the way you parent?

Understanding yourself and your emotions isn’t just beneficial for us; it profoundly impacts our children.

By recognising our patterns of behaviour, our thoughts and our emotions we can discover the underlying beliefs that control us and we can change.

If you feel like you're failing as a parent, that nothing you do is ever good enough and you feel overwhelmed by the never ending "advice" then I can help!

Cognitive Hypnotherapy is a powerful tool that can help you break free from these old cycles, allowing you to embrace the calmness and confidence necessary for effective parenting.

Parenting is about you!

Who you were, who you are and who you want to be, and how you can create a loving connection with your children.

DM me to book a free consultation to discover how small changes can lead to big transformations when you start to focus on yourself!

You know the moment’s coming. Your child lashes out and before you can stop yourself, you're shouting, shutting down, o...
18/09/2025

You know the moment’s coming.
Your child lashes out and before you can stop yourself, you're shouting, shutting down, or steeped in guilt once again.

You’re not a bad mum.
You’re a mum whose nervous system is doing its best to survive.

But if you’ve tried staying calm by sheer force… and it’s still not working, these might be why:

🚫 Mistake #1: Using willpower to stay in control.
When your child explodes, your body goes into defence mode. Logic fades. You don’t need more mindset tricks, you need nervous system safety.

🚫 Mistake #2: Thinking insight is enough.
Even if you know you’re repeating childhood patterns, that awareness can’t create change if the wound beneath it is still raw.

🚫 Mistake #3: Blaming yourself afterwards.
Guilt doesn’t help you do better. It tells your brain that parenting = danger. That keeps you stuck in reactivity, not connection.

So instead of trying harder…

Try healing deeper.

Here’s what that can look like:

🌿 1. See the reaction for what it is: history, not failure.
Ask yourself: How old do I feel right now? Often it’s not your child you're responding to but the part of you that was never heard.

🌿 2. Notice instead of suppress.
Say “This feels like fear” instead of forcing it down. Naming emotions helps your brain feel safe again.

🌿 3. Go where logic can’t.
Tools like Cognitive Hypnotherapy gently reach the parts of you stuck in survival and guide them home.

Because calm doesn’t come from perfection.
It comes from integration.

DM me to book a 1:1 call so you can stop managing your reactions and start healing the parts that created them.

As a mum juggling a busy life, I completely understand the struggle to manage stress while caring for everyone around me...
17/09/2025

As a mum juggling a busy life, I completely understand the struggle to manage stress while caring for everyone around me.

It’s a challenging balance, but I’ve learned that when I prioritise my own well-being, it has a ripple effect that uplifts my family’s joy.

Remember, taking time to regulate your emotions is not selfish, it's essential.

What have you found helps you manage stress in your busy life?

Share your thoughts below!

⭐️ Improve your mental health, improve your life ⭐️You don't have to keep suffering and struggling!You don't have to sta...
15/09/2025

⭐️ Improve your mental health, improve your life ⭐️

You don't have to keep suffering and struggling!

You don't have to stay stuck!

Do you really want to continue feeling like you do?

Change is easier and quicker than you think.

Take the first step and DM me "HELP" and let's chat about how I can help you.

Therapy and Coaching can be online or in person at Spire Hill Well-Being

08/09/2025

What if that constant urge to fix everything isn't coming from love...
..but from a younger you, still trying to feel safe?

Are you trying to be strong for your child?

Are you trying to stay calm when inside you’re falling apart?

It makes sense.

When they struggle, you blame yourself.
When they hurt, you rush to rescue.

Because somewhere along the way, love got tangled up with over-functioning.

You learnt to measure your worth in effort.
To seek safety by staying in control.

But what if real safety comes from something softer?
Something slower?
Something that doesn’t require you to earn your rest?

Here’s where it starts to shift:

1️⃣ Let the memory speak.
Who first taught you that love had conditions?
Trace it, not to blame, but to understand what your nervous system now believes is ‘normal’.

2️⃣ Ask your body this:
“If I stop fixing… what do I think will happen?”
Let the answer come. That’s where healing lives.

3️⃣ Practise not fixing.
Choose one thing today to sit with instead of solve.
That urge to rush? It's not failure. It's a wound asking to be acknowledged.

4️⃣ Say it out loud:
“I am worthy, even in stillness. Even when nothing is resolved.”

Repeat… until your body begins to believe it.

Because love isn't about doing nonstop.

And being a good mum doesn’t mean carrying it all. It means healing so you don’t have to.

DM me to book a 1:1 call so you can finally rest from fixing, and start living from wholeness. No conditions required.

How long have you been measuring your growth by how much you do, rather than how much you don’t?How many times have you ...
29/08/2025

How long have you been measuring your growth by how much you do, rather than how much you don’t?

How many times have you told yourself:
🔁 “I should’ve handled that better…”
🔁 “Maybe I’m just not calm enough/kind enough/selfless enough…”

But here’s the quiet truth:
Sometimes, healing looks like not reacting.
Not apologising.
Not rescuing.
Just breathing and letting the discomfort pass through.

Save this if you need a reminder that stillness can be progress.

The mistake most mums make?
Believing that peace means always managing the moment.
But real peace comes from not repeating the storm inside.

Here’s what that actually looks like:

🧠 The pause is the pattern-break.
When your child gets upset and you don’t instantly fix it…
That’s emotional rewiring.
It teaches their nervous system the world doesn’t fall apart when someone says “no”.

💬 Silence isn’t failure. It’s restraint with purpose.
You don’t need to explain every boundary.
You don’t need to say “sorry” for your tone when your body’s barely holding on.
You’re allowed to honour your own safety too.

🪨 Doing less isn’t a weakness, it’s leadership.
When you stop over-functioning, you create space for growth, not just in you, but in your child.
Progress doesn’t always look like action.
Sometimes it’s the moment you let things be unsettling, without rushing in to fix.

Want to feel more in control without living in overdrive?

DM me to book a 1:1 call so you can parent from calm, not from conditioning.

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25/08/2025

Social anxiety can have a huge impact on your life, leaving you feeling very alone and isolated.

But it doesn’t have to be that way!

There’s always something you can do.

And if you need help, I’m here ❤️

Social anxiety can have a huge impact on your life, leaving you feeling very alone and isolated.But it doesn’t have to b...
25/08/2025

Social anxiety can have a huge impact on your life, leaving you feeling very alone and isolated.

But it doesn’t have to be that way!

There’s always something you can do.

And if you need help, I’m here ❤️

Ever wonder why it’s so hard to say “no,” even when your whole body is screaming yes to rest?Here’s what’s really going ...
20/08/2025

Ever wonder why it’s so hard to say “no,” even when your whole body is screaming yes to rest?

Here’s what’s really going on and the quiet ways we keep ourselves stuck:

🚫 Mistake #1: People-pleasing disguised as being there for everyone. It looks selfless, but it quietly burns you out.
🚫 Mistake #2: Overriding your discomfort. It feels like sacrifice but it’s often self-abandonment dressed up as love.
🚫 Mistake #3: Saying yes from fear, not alignment. It costs more energy and more resentment than you think.

Burnout rarely starts with doing too much.

It often begins the first time you ignore the whisper that says, “please, not this time.”

Because if it’s never safe to have a boundary your nervous system never really rests.

Here’s what actually helps:

✨ Pause before you commit.
Put a hand on your heart. Ask: “Is this coming from love or fear?”
Fear of letting someone down? Of being judged? That’s not alignment, it’s history repeating.

✨ Reframe guilt as recovery.
The shame you feel after saying no isn’t failure, it’s your nervous system detoxing from years of over-functioning.

✨ Speak from the body, not the blame.
Swap “Sorry, I can’t” for “Right now, I need to protect my energy.”
It’s not an explanation. It’s a declaration of self-trust.

People have used this method to reduce burnout, reconnect with their children, and feel like themselves again even if they’ve spent years running on empty and saying “yes” through gritted teeth.

DM me to book a 1:1 call, so you can finally create nervous system-safe boundaries that protect your peace and model self-respect for your children.

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