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✨ AADCT Master Intuitive Psychology Coach
💕 NHS Mental Health Support Coordinator
🦋 Mental Health, Neurodiversity and Self Empowerment advocate
🌟 Helping women to find self acceptance and confidence to shine the way they are meant to!

27/04/2026

I’m so excited to say that I will be doing a workshop at this years on learning to listen to our Intuition.

Come and join me on Sunday 14th June at 3.30pm in Studio 5!

The festival this year looks amazing so do check out for all of the exhibitors, talks and classes.

Really hope to see you there!

Natalie

24/04/2026

I’m not going to lie, this year so far has thrown quite a lot at me. Both good and hard stuff.

My husband was made redundant.
My work is going through massive contractual changes.
My gran passed away.
My dad has been diagnosed with cancer and is starting chemo next week.
My son has been really struggling and has needed some extra support.

I have also been incredibly busy building 2 new businesses, this one and .adhd whilst working 4 days a week and being a mummy and housewife.

It has been a lot.

But there have been some amazing things that have happened so far too.

I set up my Intuitive ADHD Coaching business as a CIC and I’m in the process of applying to funding to help support people less able to afford help.

I applied and was selected as a speaker for The Autism and ADHD Show.

I have also been selected to do a workshop at a local festival (more info coming soon!!)

I have a lot to be grateful for as well as all of the stuff that has been really hard.

But one of the biggest changes for me over this past year has been that I am being a lot kinder to myself.

I know that there is a lot going on for me right now, and it’s using up a lot of my bandwidth. So I have been actively choosing to go to bed really early most nights to help give me the energy I need to cope with everything going on right now.

I am not beating myself up when things take longer than I would have hoped. Or when I haven’t achieved things I wanted to. I recognise there is only so much I can do with so much going on.

So, this is a little reminder for you too…

When life feels hard, you need to be softer with yourself.

Because you deserve all of the kindness when life feel heavy and hard 🩷

14/04/2026

These are important reflections to help us to understand if we are living authentically.

Consistently saying Yes when we really want to say No, or saying No because for some reason a Yes feels too hard (even if it’s something we really want) are sure fire ways of living out of alignment and this has a significant impact on our wellbeing.

Living authentically is proven to be one of the best measures of happiness, because rather than living for other people, we live for ourselves.

The trouble is that often this gets confused for being selfish. But this isn’t necessarily the case.

Being selfish relates to being excessively concerned with your own desires or advantage, whilst disregarding the needs, feelings or rights of others.

Living authentically means acting in accordance with your own values, needs and beliefs to ensure that you are being true to yourself.

Living authentically is not selfish because neglecting our own needs can often cause resentment. Which is why we must take ownership of our choices.

Recognising whether you have the capacity to say Yes, or even if it is something you want to do is an important part of making choices. Saying Yes shouldn’t be a default setting.

Because if you continually say Yes, when you really want to say No can result in you not having the capacity to actually say Yes to the things you really want.

So, I invite you to consider this…

Where are you not saying No?

Where are you not saying Yes?

Reflecting on these questions can really help you to recognise where you are living for others, rather than living for yourself.

Commit to pausing before replying. Ask your body if it’s a Yes or a No. Your body knows..

Side note - this isn’t to say that always saying No when you don’t have the capacity is the right thing to do. Sometimes you have to say Yes because it’s the right or important thing to do. But pay yourself back two-fold. Give yourself an extra rest or an extra something that brings you joy to make up for saying Yes when you really needed to say No. Make sure you pay your debts back to yourself, not always just to other people! 🩷

11/04/2026

I am very excited to be leading my first Association for Coaching Peer Coaching workshop on Intuition on Tuesday 21st April.

We are very lucky in West Kent that we have one of the only in person peer coaching forums and it is such a great space to come and learn from others and share knowledge and experience.

I am really looking forwards to sharing some of the incredible work that I learnt through my training with The Intuitive Psychology ® Association - Coach Training with my peers.

If you are a coach local to Tunbridge Wells why not come and join us. You don’t have to be a member of the AC to join, you can attend up to 3 times as a non-member for just £8. Members can attend for free.

Reach out if this is of interest and I will send you a link!

08/04/2026

Have you ever been called needy? Or an attention seeker?

Being called these things can really hurt and have a really lasting impact.

It leaves you constantly questioning yourself, questioning whether you are asking too much. Holding yourself back and ignoring your needs to avoid being ‘too much’.

But the concept of our needs isn’t as simple as whether we are needy or not.

Firstly, if your needs are not being met then you will instinctively try to find ways to have your needs met. This isn’t being needy. This is a signal that you do not feel safe and that something within your social dynamic isn’t right.

It’s important to recognise that sometimes you can meet your own needs and that we do not always need to rely on others. We are responsible for our own happiness and to make choices to ensure our needs are met.

But that doesn’t mean that we have to do it on our own.

We are social creatures. We are pack animals and the success of our species is down to the connection and strength of working together. We do not do well as a species on our own. We need other people.

We regulate by co-regulation. We survive by working together. This is how we are wired.

This means that we will look to those around us to make sure our needs are being met. And others look to us to make sure we are supporting them to have their needs met. We all have al collective responsibility to meet each other’s needs.

But not everyone and not all of the time.

Pick your pack wisely.

Choose the people who do not consider you to be needy. Because you aren’t. You have needs. So do they. It’s about working together.

If you are constantly meeting other people’s needs, whilst abandoning your own needs. Or being made to feel bad for having needs. Then these people are not your pack.

Remember, you are only as ‘needy’ as your unmet needs.

Because it’s amazing when your needs are being met, how all of a sudden you are no longer the ‘needy’ person you were portrayed as being.

Does this resonate?

02/03/2026

Emotional suppression is stress.
Chronic stress is inflammation.
Inflammation becomes symptoms.

But we keep trying to fix the symptoms.

Real healing asks:

What am I not feeling?
What am I not saying?
Where am I betraying myself?

That’s where the work begins.
That’s where true health lies.

If your body had a voice, what would it say you’re avoiding?

Drop a word below. 👇

Let’s normalise emotional hygiene as much as we normalise green smoothies and bio hacking!

19/02/2026

If you’re struggling with your mental health, the last thing you need is to be your own bully.

Yet so many of us do exactly that.

We say things like:

“I should be stronger than this.”
“Other people have it worse.”
“Why can’t I just get over it?”

Self-compassion is not self-pity. It’s not making excuses. And it’s definitely not weakness.

It’s choosing to respond to your own pain the way you would respond to someone you love.

Research by shows that self-compassion is linked to lower anxiety, lower depression, and greater emotional resilience.

Why?

Because when you stop attacking yourself for struggling, your nervous system can actually begin to feel safe.

Mental health struggles are already heavy.
Shame makes them heavier.
Self-compassion makes them workable.

So if you are struggling, one of the best things that you can learn to do is be kind to yourself. It may feel awkward at first, if you have always used shame to try and ‘pull yourself together’. But just because it feels hard, isn’t a reason to not try.

Because if you want your life to be different, you have to do things differently.

Start by treating yourself like someone you love 🩷

Because you deserve it.

11/02/2026

I heard this quote today and I just love it!

I talk about boundaries a lot in my sessions because there is a huge link between our emotional wellbeing and how boundaried we are.

Having healthy boundaries in all areas of life is important, to help us to protect our energy, protect our wellbeing and to prioritise our needs.

But too often people assume that having boundaries is being selfish or always saying no.

That’s why I love this quote so much because it encapsulates the importance of loving others and yourself at the same time.

You can love your family and still recognise when someone is asking too much of you.

You can love your friends and still check in with your own capacity to hold them up.

You can love your job and still prioritise life outside of work.

You can still give but without abandoning yourself in the process 🩷

It can be both.

It is about finding the balance and this will change on a daily basis. Some days you will give more, other days you will need to replenish yourself more. Both are ok.

Some days you may not have the capacity to really give, but you choose to give anyway because in that moment the giving feels more important. That is ok too. But make sure you take som extra time for you, to replenish when you have given more than you had.

Does this resonate for you? Do you have healthy boundaries or are there areas of your life you feel may need a little more balance?

01/02/2026

It’s February! 🎉

Now that we have got January out of the way, things start to feel a little more hopeful. Spring is getting closer, the bulbs are staying to pop up and the evenings are starting to get lighter.

So now is a good time to think about a New Year Audit.

What do you not want to carry through from last year?
What is no longer serving you and needs chucking? Who do you want to be in 2026 and how can you show us as that person?

One of my bestest friends is choosing peace in 2026. And so everything that is is navigating is through the lens of ‘peace’ and I bloody love this!

That’s not to say it’s easy. Because it’s a daily choice. It’s a daily reminder to keep choosing peace. But what we choose, becomes our reality.

So, what do you choose for you in 2026?

27/01/2026

I’ve been working with a lot of clients recently on burnout and the misconceptions of it being that you are just a little bit tired.

It fascinates and scares me that many people simply do not realise when they are burnt out. The override switch has been used so many times that it has got stuck.

Learning to listen to our body and work with our own rhythms and needs is the best way of recovering from burnout but it takes time and learning to do things differently.

I have definitely been burnt out a few times in my life but I am learning to do things differently.

Have you ever been burnt out and did you realise or did it take someone else to point it out to you?

23/01/2026

Creating a new business is always an evolutionary process. It’s about finding your niche, working with your strengths and finding what works for you.

Since I qualified as a Master Intuitive Psychology Coach last May, it’s definitely been a massive learning curve and journey but I feel like I am really finding my way with where I want to be and what is the best fit for me.

I thought I would share a little update with you on where I feel I am really heading with this next evolution of Step out of the Shadows as I know I have been quite quiet in here.

Really looking forward to sharing more and carving out my niche with what I offer.

🩷

11/01/2026

Yesterday I turned 41…

It’s a bit of a weird one to be honest. 40 was a big year and a big celebration and I actually felt really good about it.

Turning 41 doesn’t necessarily bother me as such. It is just a number. But there has been something about turning 41 that has felt quite tough.

Maybe it is the closing of one chapter that felt so incredible and so transformative and the opening of a new chapter which feels quite unknown..

Maybe it is the pressure of having such a great year last year, to replicate it or go bigger this year.

I’ve not quite put my finger on it.

But interestingly… someone gave me a really great perspective the other day.

41 is a prime number, meaning it is only divisible by itself and 1. That’s pretty empowering for a number.

So… this is the energy I want to carry into my chapter 41. I am strong. I am solid. And actually, the only thing that can divide me, is me…. And I am not going to let that happen.

I wasn’t feeling this yesterday. But I needed that day to feel all the things I needed to feel. And that’s ok.

Today… I am empowered.

So… This is 41 🩷

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