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✨ AADCT Master Intuitive Psychology Coach
💕 NHS Mental Health Support Coordinator
🦋 Mental Health, Neurodiversity and Self Empowerment advocate
🌟 Helping women to find self acceptance and confidence to shine the way they are meant to!

02/03/2026

Emotional suppression is stress.
Chronic stress is inflammation.
Inflammation becomes symptoms.

But we keep trying to fix the symptoms.

Real healing asks:

What am I not feeling?
What am I not saying?
Where am I betraying myself?

That’s where the work begins.
That’s where true health lies.

If your body had a voice, what would it say you’re avoiding?

Drop a word below. 👇

Let’s normalise emotional hygiene as much as we normalise green smoothies and bio hacking!

19/02/2026

If you’re struggling with your mental health, the last thing you need is to be your own bully.

Yet so many of us do exactly that.

We say things like:

“I should be stronger than this.”
“Other people have it worse.”
“Why can’t I just get over it?”

Self-compassion is not self-pity. It’s not making excuses. And it’s definitely not weakness.

It’s choosing to respond to your own pain the way you would respond to someone you love.

Research by shows that self-compassion is linked to lower anxiety, lower depression, and greater emotional resilience.

Why?

Because when you stop attacking yourself for struggling, your nervous system can actually begin to feel safe.

Mental health struggles are already heavy.
Shame makes them heavier.
Self-compassion makes them workable.

So if you are struggling, one of the best things that you can learn to do is be kind to yourself. It may feel awkward at first, if you have always used shame to try and ‘pull yourself together’. But just because it feels hard, isn’t a reason to not try.

Because if you want your life to be different, you have to do things differently.

Start by treating yourself like someone you love 🩷

Because you deserve it.

11/02/2026

I heard this quote today and I just love it!

I talk about boundaries a lot in my sessions because there is a huge link between our emotional wellbeing and how boundaried we are.

Having healthy boundaries in all areas of life is important, to help us to protect our energy, protect our wellbeing and to prioritise our needs.

But too often people assume that having boundaries is being selfish or always saying no.

That’s why I love this quote so much because it encapsulates the importance of loving others and yourself at the same time.

You can love your family and still recognise when someone is asking too much of you.

You can love your friends and still check in with your own capacity to hold them up.

You can love your job and still prioritise life outside of work.

You can still give but without abandoning yourself in the process 🩷

It can be both.

It is about finding the balance and this will change on a daily basis. Some days you will give more, other days you will need to replenish yourself more. Both are ok.

Some days you may not have the capacity to really give, but you choose to give anyway because in that moment the giving feels more important. That is ok too. But make sure you take som extra time for you, to replenish when you have given more than you had.

Does this resonate for you? Do you have healthy boundaries or are there areas of your life you feel may need a little more balance?

01/02/2026

It’s February! 🎉

Now that we have got January out of the way, things start to feel a little more hopeful. Spring is getting closer, the bulbs are staying to pop up and the evenings are starting to get lighter.

So now is a good time to think about a New Year Audit.

What do you not want to carry through from last year?
What is no longer serving you and needs chucking? Who do you want to be in 2026 and how can you show us as that person?

One of my bestest friends is choosing peace in 2026. And so everything that is is navigating is through the lens of ‘peace’ and I bloody love this!

That’s not to say it’s easy. Because it’s a daily choice. It’s a daily reminder to keep choosing peace. But what we choose, becomes our reality.

So, what do you choose for you in 2026?

27/01/2026

I’ve been working with a lot of clients recently on burnout and the misconceptions of it being that you are just a little bit tired.

It fascinates and scares me that many people simply do not realise when they are burnt out. The override switch has been used so many times that it has got stuck.

Learning to listen to our body and work with our own rhythms and needs is the best way of recovering from burnout but it takes time and learning to do things differently.

I have definitely been burnt out a few times in my life but I am learning to do things differently.

Have you ever been burnt out and did you realise or did it take someone else to point it out to you?

23/01/2026

Creating a new business is always an evolutionary process. It’s about finding your niche, working with your strengths and finding what works for you.

Since I qualified as a Master Intuitive Psychology Coach last May, it’s definitely been a massive learning curve and journey but I feel like I am really finding my way with where I want to be and what is the best fit for me.

I thought I would share a little update with you on where I feel I am really heading with this next evolution of Step out of the Shadows as I know I have been quite quiet in here.

Really looking forward to sharing more and carving out my niche with what I offer.

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11/01/2026

Yesterday I turned 41…

It’s a bit of a weird one to be honest. 40 was a big year and a big celebration and I actually felt really good about it.

Turning 41 doesn’t necessarily bother me as such. It is just a number. But there has been something about turning 41 that has felt quite tough.

Maybe it is the closing of one chapter that felt so incredible and so transformative and the opening of a new chapter which feels quite unknown..

Maybe it is the pressure of having such a great year last year, to replicate it or go bigger this year.

I’ve not quite put my finger on it.

But interestingly… someone gave me a really great perspective the other day.

41 is a prime number, meaning it is only divisible by itself and 1. That’s pretty empowering for a number.

So… this is the energy I want to carry into my chapter 41. I am strong. I am solid. And actually, the only thing that can divide me, is me…. And I am not going to let that happen.

I wasn’t feeling this yesterday. But I needed that day to feel all the things I needed to feel. And that’s ok.

Today… I am empowered.

So… This is 41 🩷

03/01/2026

Nervous system regulation is incredibly important but there are many ways of achieving it.

Finding what works for you is the most important thing but I hope this little video helps with a suggestion that you may not have realised before…

16/12/2025

Nervous system regulation is great!

But if you are just using it to calm down, to push through and to keep avoiding what your body is really telling you, it’s not actually going to work!

You don’t need more coping strategies.

You need to listen to the truth.

Tolerating a life that wasn’t meant for you is just surviving.

Finding a life that is truly aligned to you allows you to breathe.

Whilst regulating yourself nervous system, take a moment to listen. To truly listen to what your body and your intuition is telling you.

This is where your answers lie.

09/12/2025

Learning to live authentically is such a game changer.

I remember listening to a podcast recently all about the regrets of people who are on their death bed, and the biggest regret that people had was living for other people, not for themselves.

The thing is… no one else will really ever remember, or care about what you do. You are the one who has to live with your choices.

So when you make choices and live life through others, this will only ever lead to disappointment. Because people come and go. But you are the one consistent in your own life.

You are important and the choices you make should be for you.

This isn’t about being selfish. You can still be kind and considerate of others, whilst still living life authentically.

So every day, ask yourself the question… how can I choose Me today?

It will feel awkward at first. It will feel uncomfortable and your brain will shout at you that it’s selfish.

Remember that your brain is just trying to keep you safe by sticking with the familiar. So if the default has always been to put others first and make decisions based on others then this is what your brain will keep telling you to do.

But your brain doesn’t care about your happiness.

It cares about your survival.

So sometimes we have to choose to not listen to the stories that our brains try to tell us.

Sometimes we really have to listen to our heart 💖

Because our heart knows the truth…

20/11/2025

Feeling really proud of myself today!

Today myself and my work colleague ran a workshop in collaboration with in East Grinstead on Ageing and Wellbeing.

I designed and created the workbook for the attendees so they have a really helpful resource to refer back to, which includes information, local support and coping strategies for anxiety and low mood.

There were about 20 attendees to the workshop today and I think it went really well.

This isn’t about coaching but I am really proud of the work I do for The Emotional Wellbeing Service in my day job and so I felt it deserved a shout out on here! 💕

18/11/2025

If something within you feels calm, grounded and like it is your truth…. take notice.

This is your inner wisdom.

This is a calling to what is unmistakably yours.
Your truth.

Our minds will always shout at us, but our inner wisdom, our intuition is always quiet and calm.

It is a knowing without knowing.

It is feeling that you cannot explain. You cannot logic or reason or justify. It is just a quiet knowing.

Listen to it.

Trust in it.

This is where your truth lives 💖

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