Holisticallyhelen

26/02/2022

There is so much going on in the world right now. We aren’t meant to carry it all and certainly not on our own. Part of learning boundaries and self care is knowing that it is ok to take a break, to switch off your phone, the news apps or take a break from social media.

When we can’t escape negative news or triggers to our trauma, our nervous systems find it harder to regulate, even when we are doing all of the things that normally bring us back to a place of balance.

Taking those breaks, laughing, speaking to a friend, a long hug, moving our bodies intuitively, watching a comedy, these will all help to lower cortisol levels and push our body back into feelings of safety again.

If you are finding things overwhelming right now and need to talk, send me a DM or email.

08/02/2022

We come into this world wired for connection, for co-regulation. It is through co-regulating with a nervous system that is calm, open and loving that we learn how to self-regulate healthily.
For many, those needs were unmet when we were younger and we had to learn to self-regulate from a place of survival.

Healing therefore occurs when you can safely bring your nervous system to a place of safety, learning to co-regulate and calm your sympathetic and dorsal response and connect with yourself and others.

We can calm our sympathetic response through Breathwork, moving our bodies, Chiropractic adjustments, hugging someone tight, using a weighted blanket, having a hot bath, shaking it out, giving ourselves space to breath and do a calming activity, speaking to a friend.

31/01/2022

11/01/2022

Trauma can make it hard to remember to stay soft in this world. We put up barriers and walls to protect our hearts, our bodies, our souls. But it’s ok to let people in, to show your vulnerability, to have hope in yourself and in others. There is strength in connection, in caring, in believing in each other, for healing and for hope. Keep going!

07/01/2022

If we want to connect with our friends, families, kids or partners, we need to work on communication. Often the first thing we do, especially with those closest to us is start to ask closed questions where the only possible answers are yes or no. Or we don’t truly listen when someone is talking to us, so people stop trying, leading to disconnect.

Some ways to reconnect and communicate . . .
-Sit together, take some deep calming breaths, and take turns to actively listen to each other, no judgement, no interrupting
-Ask each other questions
-Laugh together
-Cry together
-Watch a movie together and talk about it
-Read a book together and talk about it
-Take part in an activity together
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31/12/2021

Remember the above advice is not intended to replace actual therapy and healing work. These are just small steps you can take to help you start to take care of yourself.

If you want 1:1 coaching to begin looking at the root cause of your trauma, please send me a message 🌱

23/12/2021

Lots of us have chosen any connection over being truly authentically us before. We choose the wrong relationships & friendships over ones that give us a sense of safety, of feeling home. For many people who’ve experienced a dysregulated nervous system, it can take time to trust this new sense of safety in their own bodies and that feeling of calm that someone else brings.

Fear, lack of trust, rejection, trauma, grief, pain, safety in what we know are all valid reasons why we don’t pursue healthy relationships. But don’t accept less than you are worth. If you aren’t ready to step into the unknown yet, then spend time working out who you are and what it is that you do want. So that when those relationships and friendships cross your path that you can fully embrace them.

20/12/2021

I’m not the same person now as when I was in my 20’s or in my teens and neither would I want to be. Life is constantly evolving and we grow and change with it. My journey of healing itself has been a journey or growth which has changed me intrinsically. But I am, as we all are, a work in progress.

18/12/2021

Our physical, emotional and spiritual well-being are all boosted when in true community. When we share experiences, life, values, passions and real connections, we help to heal each other. We hold space for vulnerability whilst not forgetting joy. We hold space for tears, whilst not forgetting laughter. We hold space for stillness whilst not forgetting creativity. We hold space for compassion whilst not forgetting truth. Community brings balance and moves us towards healing.

16/12/2021

Healing and progress are lifelong. Don’t forget to keep living in the meantime.

Progress over perfection!

14/12/2021

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13/12/2021

We all crave connection and attachment with others. As a society we are built to be in community. Whether that is work colleagues, friends, family, sexual relationships or non sexual relationships. We all need to connect.

Strength comes when healing work has been done by each party and we are choosing each other consciously and continuously, not out of our nervous systems being dysregulated.

11/12/2021

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Holistic wellness life Coach

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