Life Story Louise

Life Story Louise Therapeutic Life Story Practitioner | Trainer & Supervisor | Supporting storytelling, healing and growth through a trauma informed lens.

23/08/2025

Polly writes about how her use of the term ‘natural mother’ was questioned and how she is reclaiming the power to tell her own story. Read more in our latest blog https://ow.ly/ZGrw50WK7G2

Leaving this little fella with a child and their parent today. Some stories are hard to hear and I think that today’s st...
21/07/2025

Leaving this little fella with a child and their parent today. Some stories are hard to hear and I think that today’s storytelling could leave them with questions that might be whirling around in their mind until I see them again. Hoping that the process of sharing and writing down the worries and then feeding them to the worry monster will allow the child some freedom from the worries until I can help address them when I see them next.

17/07/2025
05/07/2025

STATEMENT FROM ACTION AGAINST ASGSF CHANGES

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On Wednesday we met with Sarah Johal and colleagues at Adoption England. This meeting was in response to our open letter to Rachel Reeves.

We heard about Adoption Englands plans moving forward and shared the strength of feeling and concerns of our community. There are plans to meet again.

Adoption England said they did not know about the adoption and special guardianship support fund (ASGSF) cuts until the announcement was made by the government on the 15th of April.

Like us, they are still waiting for an update from the Department for Education (DfE) about what happens next. No one yet knows if the ASGSF will continue beyond March 2026, or with what parameters.

There appears to be some resignation in parts of the sector that the £50 million fund will not be increased. As a campaign group we do not accept that we should stop fighting for an increase, and we don’t think you should accept it either.

It is unacceptable for the government to keep saying that in order for more children to access the fund every child must have an inadequate amount.

The government says their decision will still allow a child to access a significant therapeutic package. We have yet to see any evidence from them that would justify this claim.
By their own admission no consultation took place whatsoever before these decisions were made.
They say they did not consult with the sector or the community so that they could reopen the fund. This is an excuse steeped in negligence.

The funds renewal didn’t come as surprise to the government, so where was the planning? What impact assessments of these cuts have been made?

We know these cuts have left children and families in crisis with nowhere to turn. We know that these cuts leave families having to choose between assessment and therapy. We know entire treatment models are no longer viable.

Many therapeutic providers cannot take on new children with complex needs. Not because they don’t want to help (they are desperate to) but because safe, effective support for children with complex trauma is impossible on £3,000 per child, especially with the threat it could end abruptly in March. Our most vulnerable children are left without help, and more will end up re-entering care.
A Labour Government has done this to us.

The government say Regional Adoption Agencies (RAA) and local authorities (LA) can top up therapy funding.
Every RAA that has responded to letters from parents and carers that we have seen have stated that they absolutely cannot top up funding.
LA’s topping up funding will involve a postcode lottery. Either way that is not ring-fenced funding for our children and that is what they need and deserve.

We have seen in recent weeks that the government can find money when the case is made loudly and strongly enough. In relative terms we are a small group but we firmly believe we can make our case as loud and as strong as required.
Doing that will need a collective effort. We will need to utilise our community to its fullest. More on this in upcoming posts.

We urge all organisations, individuals and groups that can to push for the ASGSF to be increased in line with inflation and in line with need. Our children need access to the right level of specialist therapy at the right time, nothing less is acceptable.

Voices are unanimous across the sector that not meeting the needs of our children and young adults now will have a huge lifelong impact. It is also not cost effective now or in the future.
Our children are suffering now, they will continue to suffer. This is unacceptable. Families are in crisis with nowhere to turn. This is unacceptable.
This is neglect at a state level. The Children Act 1989 states that the child’s welfare must be paramount, can the government honestly say that it is?

From our meetings and work so far, it is obvious urgent action is needed or it will be too late.

Specialist therapeutic providers are closing or leaving this field altogether because no one can run a service in this financial chaos. Highly skilled professionals who want to help are facing impossible choices. Government, Adoption England and all the other major organisations need to act now to stop this. Once these services go, they will be lost for a generation.

It is also clear that whilst individual organisations across adoption and kinship care are working incredibly hard there is too little collaboration between them.
No leading organisation or body is stepping up to steer this ship.
No one is listening properly to all sides or consulting meaningfully to shape a better way forward. This must change. Urgently.

We need leadership focused first and foremost on understanding what our children need and making sure those needs are met

NEXT STEPS

We believe that a public and independent consultation must be commissioned by the DfE. This cannot be run by any of the current organisations. Recommendations must be free from bias. The focus must be on what our children’s needs are and how best to meet them. To this end a number of plans are in progress.

We will be writing an open letter to Bridget Phillipson and Janet Daby asking for this consultation to be carried out and will seek your support and signatures.

In the same letter we will also ask once again for the ASGSF to be reinstated in full for the next two financial years until March 2028 whilst consultation takes place and plans are made. The Fair Access Limit should return to £5,000 with match funding available, and assessment funding restored. If this requires more than £50 million, the government must find it. We already know they can.

We are also considering another protest march, even bigger and louder this time, if our community has the appetite.
Would you support another march? We will put up a poll shortly. WATCH THIS SPACE.

For us to find a way to be bigger and louder we will need YOUR help.

For now we sign off by saying,

The fight may be hard but it must go on.

Clare, Euan and Stéph

11/06/2025
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10/06/2025

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27/05/2025
People often ask what inspired me to train as a Therapeutic Life Story Practitioner. It’s a mixture of things and in par...
21/05/2025

People often ask what inspired me to train as a Therapeutic Life Story Practitioner.
It’s a mixture of things and in part because I have personal experience of not growing up knowing my first mum, and until adulthood only knew one story of what happened and why. I also have many years of professional experience working alongside children who did not always live with their first families.
It was later whilst studying for my masters in advance social work practice, and researching for my dissertation on life story work for ‘looked after children’, that I came across this text by Margot Sunderland and it completely changed my views about having the important conversations that so many children and young people need.
In her book Conversations that Matter, Margot writes about the irrationalities of the can of worms myth. She highlights the words ‘talking about it makes it worse’ and goes on to say ‘this often means that as long as we don’t talk, the pain is manageable, when in fact for many children the pain is so unmanageable that it means they are living their lives reeling from unbearable arousal - exploding with aggression or imploding with anxiety, depression blighting their ability to learn, to love, to make friends, to develop emotionally and socially.’
Margot’s words gave me all I needed to learn more about how to have the important conversations and how to support others to have them too. I feel very lucky to now be doing a job where I am in awe of the courage and bravery shown by the children and young people I am privileged to work alongside who dare to trust that as we ‘open the can of worms’ and go back to the past that all will be well.

It felt so right to wrap up the two rolls of wallpaper that were draw on, doodled on and where many stories were shared ...
20/05/2025

It felt so right to wrap up the two rolls of wallpaper that were draw on, doodled on and where many stories were shared for a special young person today. It was our final meeting and as the last thing I gave them I absolutely wanted to be gifting it with a clear message that their story is important, that they are important and that they are absolutely worthy of love, care and kindness

03/04/2025

New dates added for the Devon areas of Exeter, Mid or East Devon starting Wednesday 14 May.

These free online, one-to-one sessions with an Education Psychologist are for adoptive parents with children attending Devon schools. Follow the links below for information on how to book an online session:

👉Education psychology drop-ins - Exeter/Mid/East Devon area - 55 minute slots at 9.30am,10.30am or 11:30am on Wednesdays.

👉Education psychology drop-ins - North Devon area - One hour slots at 10am, or 11am, or midday on Fridays.

👉Education psychology drop-ins - South/West Devon area - One hour slots at 9:30am, or 10:30am, or 11:30am on Thursdays.

More dates can be found on our website under Support activities > Education psychology drop-ins.

https://www.adoptsouthwest.org.uk/events/categories/support-activities/education-psychology-clinic/

This was such a lovely surprise and i’m so proud to have been chosen 🥰 I cannot wait to look at the first of the mood bo...
08/02/2025

This was such a lovely surprise and i’m so proud to have been chosen 🥰 I cannot wait to look at the first of the mood boards that Ruben is creating for me.

Huge congratulations to Life Story Louise for winning our rebrand competition!

Louise a therapeutic life story practitioner, working with children and young people who have not grown up living with their first family. She helps them to know the stories of their past through direct work sessions that last a minimum of eight months. Included in the direct work sessions is psycho education that helps them to learn why people behave as they do and crucially help children to learn that how they have responded in the past is a normal part of human behaviour. With this knowledge they can change, should they choose, or they develop a sense of wellness understanding more about themselves.

Louise created her current logo in Canva and would love for her branding to be individual to her and highlight the beauty of the work she does.

We can't wait to give you that Louise.

Watch this space!

10/12/2024

Advent day 10: How the body keeps the score (from Christmases Past)

This is a reworking of one of my most popular images. Influenced by

In essence, our bodies hold lots of memory from the past. And for some people, Christmas has previously been a very un-joyus time of the year. Perhaps because of the added pressure on families, perhaps a reminder of death and loss, lonliness, depression, suicudality, or the alcohol involved leading to violence . For some people, this led to traumatic childhood Christmases, or maybe in adulthood to.

So when December creaps around, it isn't unusual for the body to pick up on sensory reminders of the past. The Christmas songs, the colder weather, the lights, the smells, the experiences. These are twinned by the brain with traumatic memories and stress levels in the body rise or reliving of feelings from the past. This can lead to a variety of body based issues. For many people, this all goes on on a subconscious level. But they know they just do not feel good.

So, these are just some of the ways the body can keep the score from Christmas past.

What would you add?
What do you know that can trigger people.

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