Wired Therapy (2025)

30/07/2025

And just like that, a biological year older. 🎂

A year that truly embraced the messiness of life - a value held at my core, and one that runs through this therapy service.

It’s been a while since I’ve posted on here, so I thought it was time to say hi again.

So if your year’s been messy - or your birthday looks like lighting a candle on your own - know you’re not alone.

You’re in my heart, held with grace, empathy, and care. 💜

– L x

13/11/2024

Hey 👋 I’m Liz, a therapist at Wired Therapy, and I specialise in helping teenagers and young adults who feel lost and anxious about the challenges of school, big life changes, or the pressure to “have it all figured out.”

I help my clients to:
•⁠ ⁠Unravel feelings of loneliness and find real, meaningful connections
•⁠ ⁠Navigate overwhelming emotions that come with exams, moving out, or starting work
•⁠ ⁠Develop coping strategies for those moments when everything feels too much
•⁠ ⁠Gain clarity on who you are, without the pressure to have it all figured out

I offer therapy in Ashley Cross, Poole or online. If this sounds good to you or someone you know, reach out through our referral form at www.WiredTherapy.co.uk and I’ll be in touch. 🌱

12/11/2024

Ever felt paralysed by the fear of not measuring up? You’re not alone.

Ever spent hours perfecting an essay, only to feel like it’s never good enough?
Or skipped a social event because you didn’t ‘have the ‘perfect’ outfit? You’re not alone. Many people feel trapped by the need to achieve the impossible, leaving them feeling anxious and exhausted.

You might think the problem is your high standards or lack of time.
But here’s the truth: perfectionism often stems from a fear of judgement or failure. It’s that voice in your head telling you, ‘If it’s not flawless, it’s worthless.’ Urrrgh.

Try this: instead of aiming for perfect, aim for ‘good enough.’
Embrace the grey area where things can be satisfactory without being flawless. When you start an assignment or prepare for a presentation, remind yourself that it doesn’t have to be perfect to be valuable. It’s about progress, not perfection - just getting it done is an achievement.

Struggling with the idea that anything less than perfect isn’t good enough?
Here’s a reality check: no one’s perfect, and that’s what makes us human. Think of all the times you’ve improved over the years, whether it’s getting better at your coursework, mastering a new level of coding, or even figuring out how to meal prep for the week on a budget. Each step, even the messy ones, counts.

We get it. We’ve been there too.
Learning to embrace imperfection can be really empowering. One of our clients used to spend hours perfecting essays, feeling burnt out and frustrated. Now, they focus on getting their ideas down without stressing over mistakes and have found more time to enjoy life - like brunch with friends. Ready to shift your perspective on perfectionism? DM us.

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08/11/2024

From your Wired Therapist, - Liz 🍂

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07/11/2024

If you’re feeling like no one around you ‘gets’ you, and it’s exhausting keeping up the act, you’re not alone. 🤝

Maybe you’re putting on a brave face at work, forcing a smile during lectures, or hanging out in the common room or gym, but feeling completely separate from everyone else.

Or maybe you’re managing uni deadlines, like that dissertation or coursework, and wonder if anyone sees how stressed you actually are. A lot of people feel this way - you’re not alone.

When feeling overwhelmed or lonely, a lot of people throw themselves into distractions - doom scrolling, gaming, or even constantly going to the gym.

It might help for a bit, but it doesn’t get to the root of what’s really going on. This can lead to burnout, making everything, even the things you love, feel exhausting. Urgh.

It can start to feel like you’re always a step away from just ... giving up.

At Wired Therapy, we’ll explore the reasons behind the feelings.

We’ll work on grounding techniques to help keep you calm and learn ways to build genuine connections, starting with understanding and managing your emotions.

It could mean discovering why that work meeting makes you feel anxious or unpacking why you feel the need to always be ‘on’ in social situations.

The process isn’t always quick, but it leads to real change, so you’re not just ‘getting through’ things - you’re feeling in control of your life.

We’ve worked with people who, like you, felt disconnected and overwhelmed.

Over time, they’ve learned to be kinder to themselves, find mates they connect with genuinely, and feel okay with who they are, even on quiet nights in. Hello date night for one!

They’re now finding new ways to feel less alone, even when they’re by themselves. They feel empowered to make big life decisions like career choices and feel confident to join that new pottery class. Ohh the freedom!

If this sounds like something you could benefit from, remember that support is here.

At Wired Therapy, we work with people dealing with these exact feelings in our plant-filled therapy spaces or online.

Our session fees are on a sliding scale based on household income to make our service accessible and sustainable. Simply self-select the one you fall into on our referral form. We trust you. Our DM’s are open - you don’t have to face it alone. 🫶

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06/11/2024

Maybe you keep saying ‘no’ to things that used to feel fun - brunch dates, playing five-a-side, or joining that group chat on Discord.

Telling yourself you’re just ‘tired’ or need to ‘take a break’ from social stuff, but the more time you spend alone, the more disconnected you feel.

Or maybe you’re showing up for the work call, acing your shifts, or going to class, but still feeling this heavy loneliness creeping in.

It’s common to think, ‘If I just ignore these feelings, they’ll go away.’

But here’s the thing - avoiding loneliness doesn’t make it disappear; it actually makes it stronger. When we push down those feelings, it’s like ignoring the crack in a dam - eventually, it’s going to burst when you least expect it. And that’s often during moments when you really need to feel okay, like before a big meeting or a night out with pals.

Our brains start to treat ignored feelings like threats, which ramps up anxiety and keeps us feeling stuck in a lonely loop.

Instead of seeing loneliness as something to avoid, what if it was something to explore? Therapy can help turn loneliness into something you understand and manage, not just something you dread.

Imagine if being alone didn’t feel empty.

Therapy can help you understand and sit with those feelings, so solo moments - like grabbing lunch with a work colleague or working on that dissertation - aren’t filled with loneliness.

Over time, social hangouts can feel less draining, letting you actually enjoy time with pals without emotional burnout. Therapy gives you tools to feel at ease, connected, and confident, even in the quieter solo moments.

We’ve helped so many young people and adults move from feeling isolated to truly connecting.

Whether it’s feeling more comfortable in social gatherings, managing stress before exams, or finding balance with work and pals. If you’re ready to start breaking this cycle, DM us. Let’s make things lighter together. 🫶

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05/11/2024

Often find yourself lying in bed for hours after scrolling TikTok or trying to finish a uni assignment, like a dissertation or that piece of coursework that never seems to end. 👀

You feel isolated and lonely so you tell yourself you’ll reach out to someone, but somehow, when the day comes, all you want is to stay home. Or maybe you’re out with your mates, grabbing brunch or hitting the gym, but somehow you still feel like you’re watching everyone else connect, like you’re a step out of sync, like no one really sees you.

You might think you’re just ‘being dramatic’ or that you’re not ‘trying hard enough.’

But loneliness doesn’t just come from being by yourself.

It’s more like a feeling of disconnect that can happen anywhere, even when you’re having a laugh over Fortnite with pals or catch up with your bestie over coffee.

This disconnect can affect how you see yourself, making even simple things like eating beans on toast alone for dinner feel heavier.

As therapists, we understand it’s not about a lack of effort on your part. Often, it’s that feelings of isolation and overwhelm are affecting you more deeply than they might seem on the surface.

Here’s something to try tonight.

Take 5 minutes to write down what’s going on in your head, even if it’s random. Start with ‘Today I feel...’ and let it floooooow.

Just writing things down can give you a bit of release from holding it all in. You don’t need to have a solution right away, but sometimes, as cheesy as it sounds, putting it on paper (or the notes app on your phone) makes it feel a little lighter. Oh sweet relief.

Maybe you feel like you should be able to handle this on your own, that talking about it would be over the top.

But loneliness is complex, and handling it doesn’t mean you have to do it solo.

It’s okay to ask for support - whether you’re stressed about an upcoming interview, speaking in a work meeting, or preparing for exams. Sometimes, connecting with someone who understands, like a therapist, can help make sense of these feelings.

We get how heavy it can feel.

We’ve helped people like you who feel stuck in loneliness find ways to reconnect with themselves and others.

If you’re ready to explore what feeling better could look like, DM us. Let’s chat.

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01/11/2024

From your Wired Therapist, Emma 🍃

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31/10/2024

𝗜𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗮 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘂𝗽 𝗮𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂, 𝗻𝗼 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴. 🌱

Every day, you might feel like you’re juggling different versions of yourself. The “happy” friend. The “strong” family member. The “focused” student or worker.
Inside, though, you’re drained. The constant pressure to keep everyone else comfortable while ignoring your own struggles leaves you feeling invisible and disconnected.

It’s totally normal to mask your feelings. A lot of us do it to avoid judgement or to make sure we don’t seem “too much” for others.

But hiding everything can make things worse. When you’re always putting on a brave face, it stops you from being seen and accepted for who you really are. Think about it: having pals or family you can be totally real with - where you don’t have to pretend anymore. That’s the dream.

𝗔𝘁 𝗪𝗶𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝘆, 𝘄𝗲’𝗹𝗹 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝗼𝗻 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗹𝗼𝘄𝗹𝘆 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗼𝗳𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗮𝘀𝗸.

This might look like learning to name and express your feelings, practising self-compassion, and building your confidence in being more open with others.

Together, we create a space where you don’t have to pretend. Urgh the relief! Therapy isn’t about “fixing” you but about finding your true self - the person who’s worthy of connection and care.

𝗜𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘂𝗽 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗽𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝗻 𝗮 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗻𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝘆𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲.

No more pretending to be ‘fine’ to fit in, or ghosting your pals because you don’t know how to explain what’s really going on inside your head.

With us, you’ll start to feel more comfy in your own skin. We’ll give you the tools to show up as your authentic self. This isn’t just about easing your anxiety; it’s about living life on your terms, chasing what you want without the weight of others’ expectations. Winner.

If you’re ready to stop hiding behind the mask and start feeling like you, let’s take that first step together. DM us. We’ve got you. 🫶

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30/10/2024

𝗙𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 "𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴" 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲? 𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝘀𝗼 𝗲𝘅𝗵𝗮𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴. 🎭

Let’s be real. You might be great at acting like everything’s fine - cracking jokes, giving advice to others, or brushing off worries with a smile.
But when you’re alone, it feels different. The mask comes off, and that sense of loneliness hits hard. Deep down, you’re struggling with feeling seen and understood, yet you keep up appearances so no one suspects a thing.

But here’s the truth: bottling it up and “faking it” is exhausting.

Every time you put on that “I’m fine” face, it’s like adding one more wall between you and the real connections you actually need. You’re not “failing” at being happy; you’re just protecting yourself the best way you know how.

But this masking to avoid vulnerability? It’s keeping you from the kind of connection where you can just show up as yourself - no fake performance. Imagine finally being able to have a pal who you don’t feel you have to impress, who you can talk to about the stuff you actually care about, the stuff you’re going through without feeling like you have to make it sound “better.” That’s what real connection is. It’s about belonging, not just being around others.

Pretending to be okay might seem like the safe choice in the short term.

After all, no one asks too many questions, and you don’t have to explain yourself. But when you’re always “fine,” it’s like you’re keeping the real you locked away.

Those quick, surface-level connections can feel hollow after a while, and they don’t give you the space to feel fully seen or heard.

Being open, even just a bit, isn’t weakness. It’s the first step toward belonging where you don’t have to “perform” happy or “strong” all the time.

𝗩𝘂𝗹𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆? 𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀 𝗼𝗿 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹, 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗿𝘆 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻.

Real belonging is about being able to say, “This is me, as I am” - and knowing that’s enough.

Image a space where you don’t have to pretend to put on a brave face - where you can finally feel strong in yourself.

At Wired Therapy, we’d work together to dig into why you feel the need to hide and explore safe, manageable ways for you to start expressing how you really feel, without fear of being “too much” or misunderstood.

We might start by identifying moments when you feel the urge to mask and what’s really happening underneath. If you’re used to brushing off tough days with “I’m fine,” we could try to find language that feels true to you - like saying “Today’s been a bit of a struggle,” or even simply, “Not my best day.” Practising this in sessions through role play can make it easier to say it in everyday life.

You’d be surprised by the strength that comes from just hearing your own voice say what’s real. Ohh the empowerment you could feel!

Ready to take off that mask and discover the real you?

If you’re tired of pretending then let’s break the cycle together.

Finding your true self is a game changer. It means living your life honestly, not just going through the motions. When you embrace who you really are, you’ll find it way easier to connect with others.

Image chatting with your pals without worrying about what they’ll think - just being you, no filters needed! Winner. Drop us a DM to learn how therapy can help you connect with yourself and others in a real way. 🙌

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29/10/2024

𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝗿𝗲 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 “𝗴𝗼𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀” 𝘄𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗲 𝗻𝗼 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝘀𝗲𝗲𝘀 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝗿𝗲 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴? 🌱

Picture this: you’re laughing with friends at a party, posting the perfect selfie from home, or chatting with coworkers like everything’s fine. But inside, you feel miles away, like you’re watching life from the sidelines. You’re smiling, but it doesn’t match how you actually feel. You might be exhausted but keep saying “I’m just tired” or “I’m fine.” Sound familiar?

I bet you think that feeling this way means you’re just going through a rough patch or being “too sensitive.” When what you’re really doing is ‘masking’ - pretending to be okay while hiding your real feelings in order to protect others or avoid disappointment. Yet, all it really does is make your feelings of loneliness worse and leave you feeling like no one actually knows the real you - which can keep you even more isolated.

𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘁𝗵: 𝗠𝗮𝘀𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝘁 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗱𝗲𝗲𝗽𝗲𝗻 𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗯𝘆 𝗸𝗲𝗲𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗹𝘆 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀. 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝘂𝗽 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝘀𝗼𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗱, 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀. 𝗬𝗶𝗸𝗲𝘀.

“But what if therapy doesn’t actually help me? I’ve tried opening up before, and it just made me feel more alone.”

Honestly, that makes total sense. Therapy can feel like a big step, especially if you’ve tried it before and felt like it was all worksheets or “fixing” exercises that didn’t vibe with you. At Wired Therapy, we do things differently. No pressure to fit into some “perfect” version of yourself or check off a list. Picture a cosy, plant-filled space where you’re free to just be you - talk, paint, scribble or even sit quietly. We’re all about exploring that actually makes sense to you. It’s a space where you’re heard, not hurried, and where you can finally feel like you’re understood without any pressure to pretend.

Ready to take off the mask and get real about your feelings? Let’s start with a chat that we call an Initial Consultation. DM us to book a session where you can begin to feel heard and connected without pretending. We’ve got you.

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25/10/2024

From your Wired Therapist, Liz 🍂

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