
05/07/2025
Integral Eye Movement Therapy helping the lovely Poppy Webber - Qualified Saddle Fitter with confidence and the "what ifs".
I've waited a while to write this, because there are a lot of emotions and trauma around it... but I know how sharing my journey has helped a lot of people so I'm going to open up a little... in case it can help.
Lots of you have followed my journey with getting 'back on board' after a nasty accident ten years ago. It destroyed my riding confidence, which, in turn knocked away at my happiness.
I've only ever known myself as a horse rider, so without that, I felt lost, incomplete. And really f*cking sad, if I'm honest. Despite working with horses every day, and having zero fear on the ground with them, I felt like I was missing out a huge part of my life without the riding.
Over the years I've tried EVERYTHING to make riding fun again - confidence courses, stunt riding, hypnotherapy and horse camp. And they've all really helped. But still, most rides were a chore, and every ride I held onto my breastplate. And I had some real blips.
Then, a couple of months ago, something happened in my personal life that knocked me for six. some old traumas were reignited, and BOOM, my confidence shot back to zero. Endo was also diagnosed with ulcers and given time off work. I got quite poorly, and things were crappy.
I started to realise that maybe my riding confidence was more of a symptom of other things going on. Maybe like I have an emotional 'cup', and my cup is pretty 'full' most of the time (life is hectic and stressful here - self employment eh?), and the more 'full' it is, the less happiness I allow myself to derive from my hobby. From life fullstop actually.
And I decided it was time for therapy. To try and put some old traumas to bed, and maybe empty out the overflowing cup a little.
I went to Dawn Seaman Wellbeing Solutions and had something called Integral Eye Movement Therapy.
Now, I used to be a psychologist so could bore you with the more technical details about memories and storage - and I also think this means I'm a little more sceptical about these sorts of things, but I had nothing to lose.
I had two sessions. about ten days apart. When I was at my absolute lowest. I wasn't sure if it had worked - I am sure that my brain is too complex for these things, and also I don't store my memories as pictures, not at all, so I didn't know how it would work for me.
A couple of weeks later, I went to camp.
For the first time in years I was free from fear. I didn't lead Jude to the arena, I rode him there. I didn't get a single moment of being scared.
When I texted my husband from camp, and said I was having a whale of a time, he summed it up best in his reply... 'Welcome back to the world of actually enjoying your hobby'.
I really hope this is it for me. That I am properly 'back' as a horse rider. And y'all won't have to put up with my whining posts anymore....
P.s. I don't know if you noticed, but I'm smiling in ALL the pictures and I'm not holding my neck strap at all...