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The Recovery Stable, Derby (2025)

08/09/2025

Day one again?

Slipped off the diet, exercise, healthy,drinking or even horse riding commitment you made to yourself?

We quite often tell ourselves we are embarking on a life changing journey and then chastise ourselves when we think we have failed to maintain our new regime.

We are allowed to be messy in the beginning. We are learning a new habit and that takes time for the spaghetti ideas and routines sort themselves out.

The cheesey 'pick yourself up and dust yourself off' is a show of determination and tenacity, something to be proud of.

The shame you may be feeling is temporary when you pull up your breeches and get stuck back in.

What did you let 'slip' this weekend?

Sharing your pitfalls is a powerful tool to stop the shame mentality building up.

05/09/2025

I first learned of The Work by Byron Katie whilst on a personal development course a couple of years ago and found this simple question to be profoundly pivotal in changing my mindset.

"Is it true"

Quite often in our internal dialogue is negative on one level or another.

'Im no good at that'
'I'll never be able to jump that high'
'She is better than me'

The negative thoughts are endless and sometimes relentless, but you can begin to change these thoughts with the simple question. "Is it true"

Stay quite and see what answer your mind gives you. Use a journal to note the changes.

04/09/2025

We are starting to loose the daylight as the trees loose their leaves 🍃

Autumn 🍂 is the perfect time to reflect and let go of all that no longer serves you.

I invite you to join me for a short reiki session combining nlp, for a complete holistic recharge.

Your chance to relax, let go of the heavy weight of anxiety and reconnect with yourself.

Each session is guided by you as the intuitive energy of reiki gently eases your mind and body.

My book is open throughout September and October.

Enquiries always welcome 🙏

31/08/2025

This horse.

This horse allowed me to learn.

This horse challenged my confidence and made it grow.

This horse taught me patience and that the steady path is so rewarding.

This horse showed me how to slow down and listen. How to feel the quiet conversation between us.

This horse taught me how to trust again after another had smashed it to pieces.

Because of this horse I learned NLP and the art of better understanding and communication.

For this horse I stopped drinking and together our relationship continues to open up and grow deeper everyday.

This horse has taught me to never be afraid because whilst this horse is by my side I will always have a true friend 🧡

NLP, reiki and sobriety are the gifts I love to share with my therapy clients.

Because horses are worth so much more.

18/08/2025

Are you someone who ruminates over the past over and over again? Or are you fearful about the future?

When our minds become consumed with the past or over thinking the future, we are not present. What is happening in the here and now quiet often goes unnoticed.

The subconscious mind works by giving you more of what you are thinking about and when you spend too much time thinking about the past, subconsciously you are creating more of the same for ourselves.

Ever think to yourself "This always happens to me"? It does because you let your mind runaway with itself. You feed your mind with all the things that cause you pain. That fall, That thing they said, What happened last time. Without a different instruction, the subconscious goes with what you focus your attention on the most.

Fearing something in the future? The clinic your booked on to or the hack planned with friend later in the day? We over lay past experiences and place them on the future, literally ruining our chances of success.

15/08/2025

Reaching into the back of your mind, there is that little you that got left behind.

Almost buried under the"you can't do that" and "you'll never be any good". You believe every word.

But that real you is still there, waiting for you to recognise her voice. Whispering ever so softly.

Perhaps, maybe its different now. Maybe you can do it.

Its scary to try. What if 'they' are right, even now after all these years.

'They' are wrong, always have been, always will be.

Maybe it needs a little courage, you still have it within you........

Listen to that little voice, the one that says you are good enough.

She is right. She is you.

14/08/2025

When I first started out as a therapist, I was full of enthusiasm and passion. I so wanted to help other horse riders re-ignite their love for riding, just as I did.

I soon discovered I had to learn a whole new set of skills as I clumsily tried my hand at marketing my practice.

I am still clumsy but first and foremost I am a therapist still full of passion to support determined equestrians.

Whilst I have a small following for my page it is so deflating to see that my posts are shown to a tiny handful of people.

My primary purpose is to help you, not to be an uber duper tech angel.

If face to face therapy or zoom is what your looking for, try drop me a message and we can chat in the old fashioned way.

09/08/2025

Reaching out for help.

Having someone to help you unpack your past pain and gently let go is the greatest gift you can give to yourself.

The freedom, calm and peace of mind that follows is where the life you wished you had begins.

It is an amazing life packed full of love and happiness.

You just have to be willing to let your old self go

08/08/2025

Change.

Change is not always easy and sometimes we want things to stay as they are.

Change is inevitable. We are not the person we were last week. We are a little old.

When we make changes it can be uncomfortable for a while, people around us may not like it, they may even go away.

As you change and become the new, wiser, stronger version of you, new people will be attracted to you and the people that can no longer get what they want from you, will eventually disappear.

With courage, you can change your life and become someone even more incredible than you are today

07/08/2025

You are far more than you think you are.

You have the skills and knowledge.

You only see yourself from your own view.

What others see is amazing.

Our mindset is the obstacle.

Change your mindset and your whole life will change, far more than you currently think is possible.

05/08/2025

I love how some of the smaller words in our language can have an enormous impact on the way you think.

'Like' getting 1 or 2 of these on your post can lead to to think no one likes you. Anxiety spiral incoming.

'Sin' This word can cause serious damage to the way we consider certain food groups and impact our self worth, shattering the way you think you look.

The deeper impact of these words has far reaching changes in the way you view yourself physically......imagine your sinful and no one likes your photos you after you have uploaded your latest holiday snaps.

This little word can stop us interacting for fear of no one liking us. Enter feelings of 'not good enough' and a generous dollop of self loathing added to your internal conversation.

They are used almost without recognition yet in the subconscious mind they have great power that alters our perception of ourselves and how we believe others see us.

If someone doesn't hit the 👍 button, you almost automatically think "they dont like me"

If you eat that delicious piece of cake, you will gain a stone and be shamed because you 'sinned'

Our language is far more than words. The language we consume through media and dialogue running through our heads is so powerful and mostly we don't think about changing it.

Yet if you stop, pause for a minute and change the conversation you will be amazed how a few simple changes can turn your life around.

14/07/2025

Exciting News!!

By kind invitation of Mel over at Blidworth Equestrian.

I am delighted to announce I will be running a series of workshops over at Blidworth Equestrian aimed at Horse riders who want boost their confidence.

Dates are still yet to be confirmed so please keep your eyes open for announcements coming soon.

The Recovery Stable