Star and Well

02/04/2026

We heal in connection. I believe this 100%. 💗

Many protocols and other products make sweeping promises to trauma survivors when what they truly offer is a temporary relief at best. Many times they are even harmful.

This late in the game I find it maddening. How much time and effort I wasted chasing down protocols and treatments because I was desperate for relief. And 99% of the time, it was either a dead end or wildly misrepresented.

Almost a decade of that sharpened my perspective. There are hardly any treatments or interventions I could recommend. Simultaneously, all those let downs also reinforced that applying Relational Neuroscience principles to my life is the most sensible, practical, economical, and safest route to improved well-being.

Teaching this seems to be the best I can do to help individuals and the culture find their way back to humanity. Back home to our birthright of individual and collective well-being through safe connection, mutuality, and community care.

24/03/2026

Listen to it… and suddenly, you remember your way back. 🖋️

21/03/2026

Happy World Down Syndrome Day!

15/03/2026

Sending out love and blessings to mothers everywhere this Mother’s Day.

Mother’s Day has historically been a hard one for me - if this is you today, please offer yourself kindness whether you’re receiving it from others or not.

Deep appreciation and gratitude from me for the work of mothers everywhere. Be blessed!

09/03/2026

In celebration of women this month, I'm holding a special focus on women's health.

SPRING REBALANCE (1 hour 20 minute session) massage and/or energy work £65, includes: brief consultation and full body treatment, recommendations for next steps.

WELL WOMB (3 hour session) £90 deep dive into Mizan Therapy for new or returning clients, includes in depth consultation, massage, recommendations and teaching for self-care beyond the session.

Optional upgrade: Mizan self-care kit (womb wrap, steaming/bath herbs, castor oil pack £15).

Special offers valid for sessions in March 2026.

Limited spaces available (dm to enquire or to book).

Sessions are in person at Ushaw (near Durham).

09/03/2026

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My religion is other women.

This isn’t tongue in cheek.

My religion congregates around a fire, in a cramped room we booked to talk, in an idling car for way too long, in someone’s living room, in the cold, because there’s more to say and hear.

There is a spark of divinity I know to look for
when she says something she’s never said out loud before. There is a spiritual rumble in the dehydrated voices of women who aren’t used to saying so much.

When I hear another woman articulate something I’ve never been able to, that’s the voice of my god speaking to me. It's ancient, forbidden knowledge, and it fills my body with my self.

There’s power in our warm red blood.

~ Lane Lloyd

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26/02/2026

There are seasons of life where the fire burns low, the spirit depletes through living and giving.

What do I need to restore my inner fire? 🔥

Last call for Saturday’s circle to connect in a warm and rooted circle of women to rekindle and feed the fire of your own bright spirit and life. Dm or see events for details.

15/12/2025

It's more than okay to take your time and to allow yourself what you need. 💙

08/12/2025

Blowing away the cobwebs after 5 days stuck in caring for 2 with flu. Love + solidarity to all dealing with similar. ♥️

03/12/2025

♥️ this - if you’d like to know more, feel free to dm me.

🌿 Why So Many Parents Are Tired of Birth Debriefs

There’s a quiet shift happening in the birth world right now.

Parents are saying:

“I talked through the notes… but I don’t feel any better.”
“I understand what happened medically… but something still doesn’t feel right.”
“I’ve told the story so many times, and it still sits in my chest.”
“I’m tired of talking about it, but it still won’t settle.”

This is birth debrief fatigue — and it’s real.

Because a debrief can give you information…
but not integration.

It can explain the sequence of events…
but it can’t touch the part of you that felt confused, shocked, unseen, rushed, or powerless in a single moment.

A debrief can review the external story…
but it rarely meets the internal story —
the meaning you made,
the beliefs you formed,
the identity that cracked open,
the parts of you still holding that moment.

Birth Story Medicine is different.

It’s not factual retelling.
It’s not “What could we do better next time?”
It’s not a clinical review or a do-over plan.

It’s tending to your inner landscape —
the tangled emotions, the unfinished loops, the unanswered questions inside your nervous system.

It’s a place where we listen for the moment the story snagged,
the part of you that didn’t have words yet,
and the deeper truth waiting beneath the survival narrative.

Parents don’t need more information.
They need integration.
They need compassion.
They need a way to come home to themselves again.

🌿 This is the work we do in Birth Story Medicine.

It’s gentle, surprising, deeply human — and often the missing piece after a birth that left you unsettled in ways a debrief could never resolve. DM to enquire about a session.

02/12/2025

FESTIVE GIVING - 'tis the season

Digital gift vouchers applicable to anything Star and Well offers are available.

Some nourishing gift ideas for the women on your list:

*gift a circle (£17)
*holistic therapy (energy or bodywork, from £65)
*birth story medicine session (£65)
*healing ceremony, including Closing the Bones (from £120).

In 2026, I'll be returning to doula work as well with a focus on antenatal (birth prep) and postnatal support. Packages start from £350 and honestly is a fantastic gift for an expectant family.

You can gift in any amount from £10 and it can be applied to any service. 💙

01/12/2025

Did you know I offer an online circle and community space?

When my life was at its absolute busiest (solo parent, disabled child, commuting and working more than full time in employment), I was only able to maintain it for as long as I did through accessing spaces and practices to lean into - ways of accessing community and energetic support that didn't require me to leave home or take time away from work or children.
'Fill your cup' was born from this. It's a space for busy women (including mamas in impossible situations) to restore in the time they have.

It is built around simplicity and flexibility with:

*online circle (+ group coaching),
*energy work (2x monthly, simply receive),
*micro practices (heart centering, freeing),
*community space (hosted on FB).

Our theme for December is WISEN, we're working with the Heart Centered virtue WISDOM.

No long term commitment is required, you are welcome to check it out for a month and stay as long or as little as suits you. If you'd like to know more or join us, link is in the comments.