Amber Valley Counselling

15/12/2024

Extreme people pleasing can feel like a kid act, when In reality it often comes from a place of survival. Needing to keep the environment and people around us happy equates to safety. Fawning is a survival response that requires behaviors that override our own needs for the sake of meeting others needs. This is to ensure we are not abandoned, rejected or harmed.

Fawning can often mask our deep rooted fears and deflect away from our genuine kindness. Being able to notice our fawn response, ask ourselves with kindness and compassion our motives behind our behaviors can point arrows towards potential unhealed parts of ourselves that do not feel safe to set boundaries with others or meet our own needs alongside the meeting of others.

Therapy can support this process, helping us step out of survival and into our authenticity.

24/11/2024

Feelings have to be felt in order for them to be integrated into our experience and dissolve. For this to happen, often talking and articulating our emotions can help us identify what those feelings are and how we are experiencing them. This can create a feeling of relief and order. Allowing us to then feel the feelings in our bodies and channel the expression.

How often do you talk about how you feel?

04/11/2024

Often we talk about emotional regulation to help us move from a state of fight, flight, freeze or fawn into a state of calm. However sometimes we fail to provide ourselves the opportunity to prepare for self-regulation...

This process of preparation is called pre-regulation. Essentially this means we provide our mind and body regular and consistent practices that deepen our neurological pathways towards self-regulation.....

We would not run a marathon without training, we would not sit an exam without revision yet often we expect a high level of success when being able to self- regulate during emotional distress without any preparation....

It is important to find and maintain practices that meet our own individual needs and circumstances, so that we can provide the consistency we need to succeed.

16/10/2024

Self compassion is an incredibly powerful tool ...but often underestimated... being able to offer ourselves a kinder more balanced inner dialogue can create significant changes in our brains chemistry and overall mood....when we can offer ourselves kindness at any given moment we are providing space for our thoughts and feelings to align with feeling more cared for and more supported....this practice can take time and patience...

what kind words can you offer yourself today?.

11/10/2024

https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/emma-bacon-2

Accessing counselling can sometimes be a daunting feeling. People find through their courage that counselling is one of the most important steps they take. My role is to join clients on their journey, to help them discover what they need to continue...

10/10/2024

Is there such a thing as good mental health? Or do we need to challenge perceptions?

No life can exist without light and dark. Health can only exist when our awareness strives to match our desire to maintain our well-being. To be able to reassure ourselves on our toughest days that dark exists, as does light, and it will return.

We can take action, but we can also sit with what is. We can provide ourselves with the compassion and space to sit with the rhythm of our lives and the waves of our mental health.

10/10/2024

For more information about the service I provide please head over to my website!

Counselling gives you a safe and confidential space in which you can explore your thoughts and feelings, create positive and empowering change and be able to work through whatever is having the biggest impact on your life right now.

09/10/2024

Change can often feel scary. Sometimes not knowing the path ahead or indeed feeling like we have very little control over it. Change can trigger a grieving process, even if the change feels right. Change is powerful for growth, it can provide us with the opportunity to immerse ourselves in a state of trusting. Trusting that no matter what happens we can find a way through, find a teaching, find a blessing and find something beautiful....fear and gratitude can coincide...🍁🍂

09/10/2024

Welcome to my page. My name is Emma I am an integrative psychotherapist working in the mental health services for over 10 years. My service provides counselling support for a broad spectrum of problems individuals face. Please feel free to contact me via this page, my website or email to access my support services.

09/10/2024

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