Silver Lining Counselling & Wellness

05/01/2026

05/01/2026

Trying your hardest and still feeling defeated can be incredibly heavy.If this resonates, know that your effort mattered even if the outcome didn’t reflect it. Be kind to yourself in this space healing begins there 🤍

28/12/2025

28/12/2025

We are great at making lists. To-do lists. Reminder lists. Things we must get done.
But how often do we add ourselves to that list?
Self-care isn’t something you earn after everything else is finished. It’s not a reward for being productive or coping well. It’s a requirement, not an extra.
When you’re planning your day or week, try adding things like:
* A pause between tasks
* A walk or moment of fresh air
* Saying no to an unnecessary demand
* Doing something purely because it feels good
Your nervous system needs reminders too. Your emotional wellbeing deserves a place alongside appointments, deadlines and responsibilities.
So yes make the lists. Just make sure self-care is written on them, not pencilled in “if there’s time.”
You matter as much as the tasks you complete.

22/12/2025

“I’m fine.” Sometimes that means I don’t know how to explain it. Sometimes it means I don’t want to be a burden. Sometimes it means I’m surviving, not okay.
Mental health struggles don’t always look obvious. You don’t have to wait until things fall apart to ask for help. Counselling isn’t a weakness it’s support, clarity and space to be honest without pretending.
If “I’m fine” is the easiest answer right now, know this: you’re allowed to say more when you’re ready and you don’t have to do it alone.

22/12/2025

16/12/2025

13/12/2025

stay;

12/12/2025

in therapy,
i was asked the hardest question
i’ve ever had to sit with.

what could someone have said
to reach you
when you were unreachable?

this piece
was my answer.
(july 2017)

12/12/2025

So what is 𝗮𝗻𝘅𝗶𝗲𝘁𝘆? Insight & less fear👇
🎨.christina_
✒.coach
It is our human stress response caused by.
PERCEIVED danger
F.E.A.R False Evidence Appearing Real
Or REAL danger to health & wellbeing
Under nourished
Holding of breath
Tension
Stress
Actually physical or mental violence
Needs unmet
Etc.
Or a hormone imbalance such as
Adolescence
Pregnancy or post
Menopause
Going on or off the pill
Etc.
Because the mechanisms of anxiety stress response are
The need to fight, flight or freeze. Whichever you deem the most appropriate at the time.
Your🧠 & body gives you everything to do that, pumps stress hormones around your body, you'll feel the need to either act, so ❤ rate & blood pressure goes up & tension etc. To fight or run, or your body does the opposite so that you inact. May even protect you from the danger by disassociating you from it, as a way to shut it out.
Plus you'll have a sharp focus on what you think is the danger, & will be scanning for danger=negative what if thoughts.
Everyone is different & notices different things when anxious, you can imagine the worst of anything & can manifest tension anywhere in the body. Do these symptoms make more sense? Less fear?
To turn this stress response down you have to not act like its an emergency(DANGER) like
Fight it
Flight/run from it
Freeze/rabbit in the headlights
All indicates there IS a danger
INSTEAD
Show yourself you're not in immediate danger you're(SAFE)by doing what you wouldn't do in an emergency.
You wouldn't.
Stay
Breathe
Sip
Talk to yourself calmly
Try not to be afraid of the response(FEAR)is a cause for anxiety. Accept it's on for a reason you can work out what that cause is when you're calmer & the sensical part of the mind is back from retreat. That happens when you are turning stress response down with SAFE.
It's all normal. What's not normal & the real problems is the real causes. Which you can work on. Trying to face the fear takes practice.
A hormone imbalance needs time, &needs met until you're body rebalances
If you'd like a bespoke strategy to exit ASAP & to know why, the cause & how to prevent.

11/12/2025

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