Vocalise Counselling service/ watford

22/07/2025

Stay true to yourself

Vocalise Counselling

22/07/2025

I have been getting mad with the phrase I asked chat GDP We are human and this tool is not our consciousness it’s helpful but remember it ok to be different.

We are human we are all different, your feelings and your opinions matter. Please honor the beauty of free choice

Be your Authentic self 👇👇👇👇👇👇👇

Being your authentic self means living in alignment with your true values, thoughts, and feelings, even when it's difficult or unpopular. It involves being genuine, real, and true to your own personality, spirit, or character. This includes expressing yourself honestly, taking responsibility for your actions, and not trying to be someone you're not to please others.
Here's a more detailed look at what it means to be authentic:

Key Aspects of Authenticity:
Self-Awareness: Understanding your core values, beliefs, and how you genuinely feel about things.

Integrity: Matching your words and actions, ensuring your behavior is consistent with your values.

Honesty: Communicating your thoughts and feelings openly and truthfully.
Self-Acceptance: Embracing your strengths and weaknesses, accepting yourself fully.
Courage: Having the boldness to express your true self, even when it might lead to discomfort or rejection.

Mindfulness: Being present and aware of your thoughts, feelings, and actions in each moment.

Benefits of Being Authentic:
Stronger Relationships:
Authenticity builds trust and deeper connections with others.
Increased Self-Esteem:
Living in alignment with your true self leads to greater self-respect and confidence.
Greater Well-being:

Being true to yourself reduces stress and anxiety associated with constantly trying to be someone else.

Enhanced Creativity:
When you're not afraid to be yourself, you can tap into your unique potential and creativity.
More Meaningful Life:

Living authentically allows you to pursue your passions and create a life that is truly your own.

How to Cultivate Authenticity:
Identify your values: Determine what principles are most important to you.
Practice self-reflection: Regularly check in with yourself to understand your thoughts and feelings.

Be mindful of your actions: Pay attention to how your behavior aligns with your values.
Communicate honestly: Express your thoughts and feelings with clarity and respect.
Embrace your imperfections: Accept yourself fully, including your flaws.

Seek support: If you're struggling to be authentic, consider talking to a therapist or counselor.

Credit to google for discribtion of what authentic self is

14/07/2025

Please check this out really interesting

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26/06/2025

A part of my own healing has been accepting praise and thanks, quite tearful but today I was able to say your welcome and not feel bad
Love my job I am blessed

09/05/2025

09/05/2025

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How reactive abuse benefits the narcissist

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08/05/2025

Abuse isn’t always physical. You might notice someone becoming quieter, anxious, or avoiding eye contact around their partner, or maybe their phone won’t stop buzzing with messages.

These could be signs of control. That is abuse.

Noticed something? Start here with our friends and family resources: https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/friends-and-family/

06/05/2025

Let’s encourage men to open up

I often say, “do you talk about how you feel to your friends ?” and the answers are always “no that’s not what we do.!”

It’s somehow portrayed that men don’t think like us women, don’t worry I believe that is totally not true. I believe that men struggle being open and vulnerable.

Let’s end the shame of men not sharing how low they feel sometimes and get men talking and not about football or anything but the real issue.

I am so fortunate that men do come often to my clinic and I feel comfortable to work safely with them and it always amazes me how open they are.

It’s really not about labels as so often people are doing after looking at tic toc etc it’s about not focusing on what feels not ok and labelling yourself mentally ill or having poor mental health conditions its about focusing on how you feel at that moment and telling yourself that this feeling will pass but at this moment this is how you feel and that’s ok and that those feelings are our body’s way of expressing our thoughts and feelings like a traffic light we will be able to get back to green.

Holding our anger and emotions is harmful to ourselves and learning to control our inner voices is the key to moving forward.

Sorry for long post just I feel passionate that we need to change how we focus on mental health and not let labels prevent people from getting help.

It’s ok to not be ok

06/05/2025

This was on sacred dreams
I love this

"Men, unfortunately, do not always understand a very simple truth: the woman, when she loves... is intensely reciprocal.

Female nature is like an echo, an emotional reflection.
Let's absorb man's attitude towards us on an intuitive and energetic level — his words, his actions, his intentions... and if these match each other.

And then, just... we give it back.
What goes around — comes around.
Sometimes like tenderness, care, peace and a home to rest from the world.
Other times... like coldness, distance and a closed door forever.

Because a woman is not a grudge
It's not vindictive.
It's a mirror.
And it reflects exactly what you have put into it.

Do you want a garden? Take care of it.
Do you want love? Love her.
Do you want loyalty? Be worthy of trust.

If you have a calm, warm, loyal and loving woman by your side — it's not a coincidence. It is the result of your actions.
And if next to you there is coldness and emptiness, it's not a coincidence either. You are a reflection of what you sow.

Look at your woman... and you will see who you really are.
Because she is your mirror."

~unknown

30/04/2025

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Find out the first step in getting you or your child diagnosed as autistic, and how a diagnosis can help.

30/04/2025

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26/02/2025

Often when we find ourselves feeling hurt and let down by others behaviour or actions this is because we have not communicated our expectations.

Sometimes these unspoken expectations
Can be based on negative thoughts or beliefs about ourselves and be influenced by our sense of self or what others have told us .

Eg I am not good enough or people always let me down,
or I am not important so people are justified in being unkind .

Communication is such a important skill and often in relationships it can be the biggest struggle

I often find myself having expectations that are unspoken, being mindful of this is my lesson today, just think about if this resonates with you too.

I just wanted to share how often it is what we don’t say that causes the most harm.

Please take care

‘Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments’
Neil Strauss, The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships