Adventures in Wellbeing

23/01/2026

“Being unhappy is not a human being’s default state.”

Let that land.

We’re not meant to stay stuck.
We’re not wired for misery.
We’re built to feel, grow, love, evolve

and return to our natural state of aliveness.

This insight was shared by one of our Project You members this week

Not something we told them to remember
Something they heard from within while relistening to this week’s Q&A

And the cool thing is, we didn’t even say that!
It’s what they heard for themselves

That’s where the magic lives
Where our support system really lies

If that quote resonates for you, stay in that moment to listen to what you’re hearing for yourself

And share below, I’d love to hear what you’re hearing

James
The Real Talk Well-being Coach
Project You | Our Mental Health Rocks
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22/01/2026

21/01/2026

11/01/2026

Fab adventure in the snow yesterday with friends! Too cold for sausages 🥶

08/01/2026

🚸 What if uncomfortable feelings were just like a zebra crossing?

You’re driving along, you spot someone waiting to cross.
You stop.
They cross (maybe wave to thank you for not running them over)
You move on.

Now what if that twitchy, awkward, “don’t like this feeling” is just a little internal zebra crossing saying,
“Hey, some thoughts wanna come through. No need to engage, just let them over, we’re moving them along for you.”

But instead, we lean out the mental window going:
“Alright thoughts, off you go… yep, keep it moving… nothing to see here. Just cross safely now…”

Imagine doing that at every zebra crossing to people as they cross which then leads them to hang around a little longer and engage with you more

Yet we do it with our feelings all the time. We feel something uncomfortable and suddenly it’s
“Oh no, not this again. I need to fix this. Manage it. Make it go away. Quick!”

But the truth? You don’t need to do any of that.

You don’t control the thoughts.
You don’t need to direct traffic.
Your system knows what it’s doing.
Feelings are just the crossing guards, not the warning alarms.

So next time that knot shows up in your stomach, ask yourself:

🦓“Is this just a zebra crossing moment?”

Let the thoughts cross.
Let the system do its thing.
You’ve got better things to do than play traffic warden in your own head.

If this landed for you, drop me a 🦓 in the comments

let’s see how many zebra crossings we can spot today.

James
The Real Talk Wellbeing Coach
Project You | Our Mental Health Rocks
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06/01/2026

03/01/2026

02/01/2026

Here be (“Thought”) Dragons

In tales of old, dragons would swoop into kingdoms breathing fire everywhere and causing chaos!
And brave knights would charge in to scare off the dragon so people could rebuild and get back to their lives.

The bigger the dragon, the more knights required and people would be told to take cover and stay out of the way until the dragon has left…

Sooo… if thought storms are the dragon and uncomfortable feelings are the knights, where do you think you sit???

Yep… you’re the person being told to get out of the way between the knights and the dragon.
Go get on with yourself while the knights sort the dragon.
The larger the “thought” dragon, the more intense the “knight” feeling while they clear the “castle” and bring peace back to your “kingdom”

James
The Real Talk Well-being Coach
Project You | Our Mental Health Rocks
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