Tanya Jayne

14/05/2026

May is Mental Health Awareness Month 💚

Over the past few weeks, I’ve struggled with what to post. But after recent incidents in our local community, I felt it was important to use this space to raise awareness of the support that is out there for people who may be struggling silently.

One of the biggest challenges charities face is simply people knowing they exist, and trusting that there is genuinely someone at the other end of the phone ready to listen without judgement.

Whether you’re struggling with your mental health, feeling overwhelmed, experiencing anxiety, loneliness, trauma, or simply feel like you can’t cope right now… please know there are people who want to help.

The hardest step is often the first one:
📞 Picking up the phone.
💬 Sending the message.
🤍 Asking for help.

And you do not have to wait until things become unbearable to reach out.

Some incredible organisations offering support across the UK include:

• Samaritans – 116 123 – 24/7 emotional support
• Mind – 0300 123 3393 – mental health advice and support
• Shout – Text SHOUT to 85258 – free crisis text support
• Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) – 0800 58 58 58 – support for anyone struggling

There are also so many local therapists(like myself), coaches, support workers, healers and counsellors who offer free initial calls or consultations.
Sometimes just 15 minutes speaking to the right person can be enough to remind someone they are not alone and help them take that next step forward.

Please don’t suffer in silence. And please don’t ever think asking for help is weakness, it isn’t.

If you are the one struggling, and have made it to the end of this message I hope you know there is noone on the planet like you that excists, that is your superpower.

💚

01/05/2026

This moment is about so much more than a certificate.
(Graduation 2023, aged 35)

It’s about what can happen when the beliefs you’ve carried for years are finally questioned.

So many of us move through life with invisible ceilings shaped by early experiences.
Trauma, especially when it begins young or continues over time, doesn’t just live in memory; it lives in the body, in the nervous system, and in the stories we quietly tell ourselves about who we are and what we’re worthy of.

“I can’t.”
“I’m not the kind of person who…”
“That’s not for me.”

These beliefs can feel like facts. But they aren’t facts, they’re adaptations.

Much like someone who says they “can’t run,” not because they physically lack the ability, but because somewhere along the way they learned to believe they couldn’t, many of us are living within limits that were never truly ours to begin with.

I support people in uncovering those inherited beliefs, understanding where they came from, and creating space for something new. Not by forcing change, but by building awareness, compassion, and choice.

Because when those old narratives begin to shift, something powerful happens:
We move from survival into growth.
From self-doubt into self-trust.
From limitation into possibility.

This journey wasn't just been academic for me, it’s been deeply personal.

I’m constantly reminded that we are all far more capable, worthy, and resilient than we’ve been led to believe.

26/04/2026

HOW TO STAY UNBOTHERED IN ANY SITUATION

1. Not everything deserves your reaction.
Silence is not weakness—it is mastery. The Buddha taught that reacting with anger is like holding hot coal expecting others to burn. Let go, and you free yourself first.

2. Detach, don’t disconnect.
Care deeply, but don’t cling. When you stop needing outcomes to go your way, peace naturally follows. Attachment creates suffering; awareness dissolves it.

3. Observe, don’t absorb.
Not every emotion you feel belongs to you. Learn to witness situations like passing clouds. You are the sky—untouched, vast, steady.

4. Choose your inner circle wisely.
Energy is contagious. Stay around those who nourish your mind, not those who drain your soul. Protect your peace like it’s sacred—because it is.

5. Control your mind, or it will control you.
An undisciplined mind reacts. A trained mind responds. Meditation isn’t escape—it’s training for real life.

6. Let people be who they are.
You don’t have to fix, convince, or change everyone. Acceptance is freedom. Expectations are silent sources of frustration.

7. Stop taking things personally.
Most people act from their own pain, fears, and conditioning. It’s rarely about you. Understanding this dissolves unnecessary hurt.

8. Embrace impermanence.
Everything changes—good and bad. When you truly understand this, you stop overreacting to temporary storms.

9. Build a strong inner foundation.
When your self-worth comes from within, external opinions lose power. The calmer you become, the less others can shake you.

10. Respond with calm, not ego.
Your peace is more valuable than proving a point. Sometimes the most powerful response is no response.

Stay unbothered not because nothing affects you…
but because you’ve mastered what you allow to affect you.

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25/04/2026

Finally… after months of stripping back this little space, I’ve created a calm, considered room designed for conversation and change. swipe to see 👀 the space you're more than welcome to come to..

I’ve been slowly building up to this moment, gaining confidence, working independently, and growing within a field I’m deeply passionate about.

What I offer:

Talking Therapy ✔️
Trauma-Informed Support ✔️
Problem-Solving Techniques ✔️
Reframing Limiting Beliefs ✔️
Grounding & Nervous System Regulation ✔️
NLP-Based Coaching & Mindset Work ✔️
Parts Work (Internal Family Systems-informed) ✔️
Emotional Processing & Regulation ✔️
Identifying & Changing Unhelpful Patterns ✔️
Confidence & Self-Esteem Building ✔️
Goal Setting & Personal Development ✔️
Inner Critic Work ✔️
Stress & Anxiety Management ✔️
Behaviour Change Strategies ✔️
Self-Awareness & Insight Development ✔️

I merge my skills and adapt them to each client individually, giving them what they need when they need it.

If you know anyone that needs support, or it is you that feels needs the extra help my diary is open with no waiting list 😊

Message via Instagram/Facebook, or WhatsApp 07498330539 to book in with me.

15/04/2026

This is your sign ..to give yourself permission to slow down today 🌿

To actually hear the birds.
To watch the insect on the leaf.

To let the moment land rather than just pass through it.

When your nervous system is running on overdrive, you see life, but you don't digest it.
The memories don't stick.
The beauty doesn't register.

If your reading this, this is your sign to slow down, stop managing things, take a step off the fast train, do the opposite to what you think you should be doing today.

🥰

13/04/2026

That strange, unsettling feeling when calm doesn't quite feel like you yet?

That's not something going wrong, that's something going right.

When we've spent a long time living in stress, chaos or high alert, our nervous system learns to treat that as its baseline.
It becomes what normal feels like. So when we do the work, when we start to regulate, to heal, to feel safe in our own body, peace can actually feel alien at first.

Unfamiliar. Even a little uncomfortable.

This is rooted in how our nervous systems are wired.

The brain is incredibly adaptive, it encodes whatever we experience most as "home." But here's the powerful part, it can re-encode. Through therapy, through somatic work, through building new patterns of safety, that baseline can shift.

This is neuroplasticity in real life. 🧠

So if you've been doing the work and suddenly find that drama feels exhausting, conflict feels jarring, or chaos just doesn't fit anymore, pay attention to that.

Your nervous system is no longer where it used to be.

That discomfort is growth wearing an unfamiliar face.

🙏🏼

04/04/2026

Most people think healing means leaving the past behind.

But in my work, it’s the opposite.

The patterns, reactions, and parts of you that feel like they’re holding you back…
They once helped you cope.

And until they’re understood, they’ll keep showing up.

This is the work: Not fixing yourself.
Not fighting yourself.
But finally understanding yourself.

The more we bring awareness to what’s been driving us,
the more choice we actually have.

Your past isn’t the problem.
Avoiding it is.

🤍

I am adding more dates to my diary for May onwards, if you'd like a session with me get in touch. Im always happy to answer any questions.

Happy Easter you lovely lot 🐰

30/03/2026

Survival mode switch OFF 👇🏼

Recognising you're in survival mode is the first step.

The second? Doing something small to bring yourself back.

Here are a few things that actually help:

📖 Note down what triggered the feeling, awareness is everything.

🧘‍♀️ Take 3 slow, deep breaths, your nervous system is literally listening.

📱 Put the screen down, your brain needs the break more than you know.

🪣 Tidy your space, a calmer environment creates a calmer mind.

📝 Write your jobs down, so your brain can stop holding onto them.

🚶‍♀️ Get outside and walk, even 10 minutes shifts something.

🖼 Get creative, this one's hard for me too, but I lean in and try anyway.

None of these need to be perfect. They just need to happen.

I hope at least one feels most doable for you in your day.

🙏🏼

25/03/2026

Research suggests it can take more than 7 attempts before someone finally leaves an unhealthy relationship for good.

And there are real, deeply rooted reasons why.

Trauma bonding keeps you tied to someone who has hurt you, because the relationship is built on cycles of pain and relief, and that cycle becomes familiar, even comforting.

Fear plays a huge role too. Fear of being alone. Fear of financial instability. Fear of what happens if you actually go.

And then there's hope. Hope for the person you fell in love with. The one who showed up before things got hard. That version of them feels real, because at some point, it was.

Leaving isn't a single decision. It's a process. And every attempt, even the ones that don't stick, is part of finding your way out.

You don't have to figure it out alone, therpay helps the process by giving you the space to work out what is right for you right now.

Get in touch for a session

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15/03/2026

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