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21/07/2025

Recently, I’ve been thinking about how the unhealed wounds and the traumas of others can lead to personal outbursts and possible attacks and unkind words spoken; I am also hearing this spoken about more in my counselling sessions too.

🌍 “People speak from their own world.”
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When someone judges, criticizes, attacks or misunderstands you, it’s easy to take it personally and wonder why? Why have they chosen me? This can then lead to internal reflection and can possibly cause negative thoughts - words towards ourselves. But here’s the important truth: other people’s words are often a reflection of their inner world ; how they are feeling about themselves and what is currently going on for them in that moment.
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They may be speaking through filters of insecurity, jealousy, fear, or unhealed wounds. That doesn’t make their experience invalid—but it does mean it’s not your burden to carry.
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🧠 Pause before internalizing.
Ask yourself: “Is this really about me, or is it a projection of their own struggles?”
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💛 Reclaim your peace by remembering that you don’t have to own what was never yours to begin with.
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✨ You are allowed to stay grounded in your truth, even when others can’t see it. Knowing that who you are and your self worth helps to stay focused, knowing that is it not about you, it never was!

21/07/2025

Recently, I’ve been thinking about how the unhealed wounds and the traumas of others can lead to personal outbursts and possible attacks and unkind words spoken; I am also hearing this spoken about more in my counselling sessions too.

🌍 “People speak from their own world.”
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When someone judges, criticizes, attacks or misunderstands you, it’s easy to take it personally and wonder why? Why have they chosen me? This can then lead to internal reflection and can possibly cause negative thoughts - words towards ourselves. But here’s the important truth: other people’s words are often a reflection of their inner world ; how they are feeling about themselves and what is currently going on for them in that moment.
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They may be speaking through filters of insecurity, jealousy, fear, or unhealed wounds. That doesn’t make their experience invalid—but it does mean it’s not your burden to carry.
⠀
🧠 Pause before internalizing.
Ask yourself: “Is this really about me, or is it a projection of their own struggles?”
⠀
💛 Reclaim your peace by remembering that you don’t have to own what was never yours to begin with.
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✨ You are allowed to stay grounded in your truth, even when others can’t see it. Knowing that who you are and your self worth helps to stay focused, knowing that is it not about you, it never was!

13/07/2025

“Do not trust the way you see yourself when your mind is turbulent…”

This quote is a beautiful reminder of something many of us forget in hard moments: our inner critic gets loud when we’re hurting. When stress, anxiety, grief, or overwhelm take over, our self-perception becomes clouded. That’s not the time to make decisions about your worth or your future.

💬 In counselling, we discuss how thoughts are not facts — especially the ones born from pain, fear, fatigue or hurt.

This quote invites us to:

🔹 Pause before reacting — Emotions are messengers, not dictators.
🔹 Honor your boundaries — Protecting your time, energy, and peace is not selfish.
🔹 Practice self-compassion — You don’t need to be perfect to be worthy.
🔹 Let feelings move through — Emotions are like weather: they come and go.
🔹 Trust your resilience — You’ve survived storms before. You’ll do it again.

🌈 Use this quote in daily life by:
• Writing it in your journal or notepad as a reminder or actions, intentions.
• Reading it during anxious moments as a grounding tool.
• Reflect and remember your boundaries and how to treat yourself.
• Share it with someone - it may help too and helping others can lift our own spirits and often aids understanding of actions at a deeper level.

You are allowed to be both a work in progress and a strong, capable person at the same time.

🌱 Growth happens in the storm, not just in the calm.

13/06/2025

✨ Fill Your Cup This Weekend ✨

Happy Friday — we made it!
Does it feel like the weeks are flying by faster than ever? So much gets packed into each day that we often forget to slow down, to pause, to just be. I’ve been noticing this more lately — and perhaps you have too. By the time the weekend arrives, it can feel like there’s barely space to reset, let alone truly restore.

But what if we approached the weekend with intention?
If we carve out even a little time for restorative care — the kind that nourishes our soul and reminds us of our humanity — we begin to feel the benefits. These moments don’t have to be grand; they just need to be yours. Over time, these small acts of care can grow into habits that sustain us.

So this weekend, try to:

💧 Pause – Slow down. Breathe. Let go of the rush.
🌿 Nourish – What makes you feel grounded? A walk in nature? Good food? Laughter? Choose something that feeds you.
💛 Reconnect – With yourself. With what matters. With the quiet voice that’s so often drowned out by noise.
🛑 Say No – To what drains you. Saying no to others can be a powerful yes to yourself.
🎨 Create Space – For joy, for rest, for doing nothing—if that’s what you need.

🌙 Wishing you a weekend of peace, presence, and replenishment.
You’ve earned it. 💕

01/06/2025

I am delighted to be able to share with you my new website. This fills me with pride. I am passionate about my therapy work : for the support, care understanding, empathy and compassion I offer to each and every client session. The website, like myself, is a working progress and will be updated and improved as time passes by. 🌈☀️⏰
Please feel free to offer any feedback and thank you for your continued support. 🙏🏻
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05/05/2025

Yesterday, I shared a beautiful walk with my husband and Chester 🐾🐾our dog. It was one of those simple, soul-filling moments—just being together, moving slowly, and connecting in the calmness of nature 🪾🐏🐑.

Research shows that being outside will help:
•Lower stress and cortisol levels
•Improve mood and reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression
•Enhance cognitive function and creativity
•Promote physical activity, which boosts overall health
•Foster a sense of connection, awe, and perspective

Even brief exposure—like a walk in the park or time spent gardening—can make a noticeable difference. Now the weather is improving, I may be taking my clients on more walks during our therapy sessions.

Wishing you a lovely bank holiday Monday and I hope you get outdoors at some point today.

19/04/2025

Easter Reflections ⛪️🐣🕯️

Easter is time of renewal, hope, and fresh starts—something that resonates deeply with the journey of mental health and wellbeing.

This weekend, as nature begins to bloom and days grow lighter, it’s a gentle reminder that change and growth are possible, even after the hardest times. Healing doesn’t happen all at once—it unfolds slowly, often quietly, and always in your own time.

Whether you’re feeling hopeful, heavy, or somewhere in between, be kind to yourself. Rest if you need it, reach out if you feel alone, and remember that even small steps forward matter.

Wishing you a calm, nurturing Easter 🐣

06/04/2025

Time.
It’s a privilege.
It’s priceless.
It’s also… problematic.

There never seems to be enough of it—yet somehow, there’s an abundance too.

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on time:
The clocks going forward, my birthday, my father’s health, and my eldest preparing to leave high school. All of it has made me pause—to become more mindful of my thoughts, energy, movements, and emotions.

We all have the same 24 hours each day. It’s not about having more time, but how we choose to use it. Our daily decisions shape how aligned, content, and capable we feel.

Yesterday, I spent the day with my best friend—39 years of friendship. Nothing fancy. Just time well spent. Talking, walking, drinking tea, and being present.

Moments like this remind me: time, when used with intention, becomes something deeply nourishing.

I hope your time today is spent doing something you love—something that fills your cup and prepares you gently for the week ahead. Be kind to yourself. Be considerate with your time. It matters!

30/03/2025

Happy Mother’s Day to you all and in the amazing work of to all the wonderful people who are Mother’s and who long to be a mother and those who have made a decision to not have children. Let’s normalise celebrating every form of Mother today. Have a blessed day. ❤️ ❤️

09/02/2025

It’s been a while since I’ve posted on my instagram page. As an authentic therapist, I have taken some time out to prioritise myself and my family especially with caring for my father. I’ve been putting into practice all my counselling training and the discussions that take place during counselling sessions. Taking time out is fundamental to be able to give back to others as well as yourself: it also helps to assist and support the resilience required when faced with difficult times. You truly are the biggest asset to you. .

20/01/2025

Happy Monday morning to you !

I hope at the weekend you were kind to yourself. You cared for yourself and you did something that made you smile 😀

At present with my dad’s diagnosis, I am doing my utmost to keep practising all that I talk about.

Mindset 🧠is everything. It all begins and ends in the mind and as humans we have the power to control this. It isn’t easy. But each and everyday try to practise gratitude, even in the darkest times; it could be that first sip of coffee, a parking space, a smile off a stranger. If we look for the positives in our lives it helps to discounter the negatives.

This weekend, I was grateful for some time away, a beautiful coastal walk and some sunshine ☀️.

What are you grateful for?

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