Em’s Therapy Space

Em’s Therapy Space Private Counselling for adults, teens and couples. Based in a peaceful garden room in Wilmslow.

If you’ve googled “is it too late to start revising” on behalf of your child this week, this one’s for you.You’ve parent...
06/05/2026

If you’ve googled “is it too late to start revising” on behalf of your child this week, this one’s for you.

You’ve parented this teenager through plenty already… no doubt some parts spot on, other bits very much winging it and this is no different

Look after yourself too, as well as them. 🩵

External validation can feel good; a compliment, a like, someone telling you you’ve done well. There’s nothing wrong wit...
04/05/2026

External validation can feel good; a compliment, a like, someone telling you you’ve done well. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying that.

The trouble starts when it becomes the thing keeping you going. When a quiet day leaves you feeling invisible, when you’re performing for approval rather than living for you.

That hunger never really gets satisfied. No amount of praise from other people can give you the steady sense of being ok that has to come from within. Until you feel your own worth from the inside, you’ll keep reaching for the next bit of reassurance and still quickly feel empty after it.

Most people come to therapy hoping that understanding themselves will fix things. And understanding is definitely valuab...
02/05/2026

Most people come to therapy hoping that understanding themselves will fix things. And understanding is definitely valuable, but it only gets you so far.
You can know exactly why you shrink in certain situations, why you pick certain people, why you can’t seem to stop a pattern even when you can see it coming. Knowing why doesn’t switch it off.
Change happens more slowly and deeply than insight. It happens through experience and through repetition. It happens through doing something differently even when everything in you wants to do it the old way.
If you’re frustrated that understanding hasn’t been enough, that’s not a reflection of how hard you’re working. It’s just an honest truth about how change actually happens.

It’s been one of those weeks where loss has sat quite heavily, in the therapy room and beyond, shaping the feel of the w...
24/04/2026

It’s been one of those weeks where loss has sat quite heavily, in the therapy room and beyond, shaping the feel of the week.

The glorious weather has done a lot of heavy lifting. 🩵💛 The Thursday moment in the garden where I had a mini meltdown about how fast my three are growing up, less so. 😆
Tired in the good way. Ready for the weekend.

Have you ever noticed how different everything looks from up here?When we’re down in the thick of it, the overflowing in...
16/04/2026

Have you ever noticed how different everything looks from up here?

When we’re down in the thick of it, the overflowing inbox, the difficult conversation, the worry you’ve been carrying around for weeks can feel all-consuming and impossible to see past. But when we find a way to step back, we remember that life is so much bigger than any of it.
Sometimes the most valuable thing we can do is find a way to zoom out. Not to avoid what’s hard, but to see it more clearly, in its proper size, within the full picture of who we are. 🌍

(I realise if you zoomed out for perspective and could only see arid landscape it might be a bit disconcerting, I just really wanted to use this pic that I took on the way home from Egypt. 😆)

mindset wellbeing therapist innerwork slowdown

I think always progress over perfection.The only ladder that doesn’t work is the one you never touch.There will always, ...
12/04/2026

I think always progress over perfection.
The only ladder that doesn’t work is the one you never touch.
There will always, always be a reason not to start. The timing isn’t right, the plan needs more work, the cupboard needs cleaning out, the kids are too young, you need one more thing in place first. And then another.
The people who get to the top (of whatever their particular ladder might be) aren’t the ones who had the perfect plan. They’re the ones who grabbed the ladder, however messy everything looked, and took the first step anyway.
Sometimes that first step feels exciting, sometimes it feels terrifying. A lot of the time it’s a bit of both. But it’s always going to be better than standing still, staring at the ladder, waiting for the perfect moment to appear.

Whatever you’ve been putting off. The business idea, the rebrand, the revision, the call you’ve been avoiding. Stop waiting for perfect conditions that will never ever come!
Grab the ladder and start climbing. Fix it on the way up!

Happy Sunday 🩵

YoureReady

Lucky li’l me.Back to normal nwcr week 🩵
08/04/2026

Lucky li’l me.
Back to normal nwcr week 🩵

Spiralling and evolving can feel similar from the inside because both involve thinking hard about something. The differe...
06/04/2026

Spiralling and evolving can feel similar from the inside because both involve thinking hard about something. The difference is one keeps you stuck and one moves you toward feeling better.

1. Avoidance / suppression
The feeling shows up but you distract, numb, or push it away.
→ It isn’t processed, so it comes back.

2. Getting lost in it
The feeling takes over. You become it.
→ No reflection, just repetition.

Both keep the cycle going.

🩵What creates forward movement?🩵

It happens when three things come together:

1. Let it be there
Allow the feeling, don’t block it.

2. Stay with it
Don’t get overwhelmed, but don’t disconnect either.
Feel it without losing yourself.

3. Work through it
Talk, write, reflect, understand.
This is where change happens.
The pattern is processed, not repeated.

Real life example:
Spiralling (getting lost in it)
You walk into a room and people are laughing.
You instantly think: they’re laughing about me.
You go quiet, feel awkward, maybe leave or shut down… and it sticks with you all day.

Evolving (staying with it, not in it)
Same moment. Same feeling: that felt uncomfortable.
You pause.
Think: I don’t actually know what they’re laughing about.
You stay, settle yourself, maybe even join in.
The feeling passes instead of taking over.

Had an ending session today with one of my clients that made me stop and think about how far she’s come.A year ago she w...
31/03/2026

Had an ending session today with one of my clients that made me stop and think about how far she’s come.

A year ago she would’ve held back, overthought everything, and avoided anything that felt too exposing.

Now she’s taking chances, showing up, and backing herself in a way she never used to.

Same person. Different mindset.

And that’s all her; the work she’s put in, the risks she’s taken, the way she’s kept going even when it felt uncomfortable.

So very proud of her. And she knows where I am if she ever needs me again. 🤍🌹

Great minds don’t always think alike…and they’re not supposed to.Neurodiversity Celebration Week is a reminder that diff...
19/03/2026

Great minds don’t always think alike…
and they’re not supposed to.

Neurodiversity Celebration Week is a reminder that difference isn’t a problem to solve,
it’s something to understand and celebrate. 🩵🤍🙌🧠

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