The Cosy Room Therapy - Dramatherapy in Winchester

05/09/2025

31/08/2025

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31/08/2025

Be gentle with yourself.
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30/08/2025

“A story is the process of going into the woods and bringing something back home”❤️
Kathrine May

26/08/2025

we are all broken: that’s how the light gets in, said Hemingway

25/08/2025

“Families acting in a toxic way make their children deeply doubtful of their own lovability, significance, importance and personal value in this world as a way to maintain manipulative control and to keep them from telling the family secrets”
Dr Sherrie Campbell

Families’ secrets are not necessarily consciously articulated secrets.. they are often those unspoken toxic dynamics of which members of the family are aware just under the surface of consciousness and that if spoken would entail someone’s “mask” being taken away. The image they need to make sure is projected into the world ( and even more, the image they need to believe about themselves) equates to actual survival for those individuals. So strong is the power of inherited shame… that never an “I am sorry” or a “thank you” is spoken. That alone would make the whole system tremble. Admitting a fault or mistake would be perceived , by the person doing it, as admitting to be “evil”.
Who pays the price is typically the assigned “scapegoat” in the family.
Dr Bessel Van Der Kolk in his pioneering work on complex trauma points out that one of the most urgent emergency of modern times is parenting. His works outlined how all the research on ACE ( adverse childhood experiences) shows that toxic parenting made more victims than HIV in the 80s and 90s.

23/08/2025

Wise words

21/08/2025

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? […] Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory […]that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"