05/02/2026
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Yes, you read it right, 20-40 minutes.
You may, or may not know this but a lot goes on behind the scenes during the build up to s*x.
The physiological changes that make pe*******on comfortable, increased blood flow, lubrication, va**nal elongation (yes, your va**na physically lengthens internally), and pelvic floor relaxation, can take 20–40 minutes to fully develop.
Think of it as preheating the oven before you stick your pizza in 🍕
Arousal isn’t a switch; it’s a process.
Rushing, pressure, or skipping buildup can interrupt it, even if desire is present, which can result in pain and discomfort.
When there’s time, safety, and connection, the nervous system shifts into a relaxed state where the body can naturally respond.
Slow isn’t a problem.
It’s how the system is designed 🩷